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Is it common during layovers, for crewmembers to hang out in each other’s hotel rooms? My fiancé, an FO, is telling me that it is standard in the aviation industry. My experience in the business world is that it's inappropriate to enter a colleague's hotel room.

Of course you can guess why I am asking. He hung out in a female flight attendant's room one evening. They watched TV, ate pizza and played cards. I believe that it was totally innocent, but it still makes me uneasy. It gives a bad impression and I don’t understand why neither of them thought to of going to the hotel’s common area to hang out.

Is this the kind of worry and uneasiness I can look forward to as a pilot’s wife?

2006-10-19 06:05:55 · 11 answers · asked by A M 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Yep, you are pretty much summing up your future with this person.

...in a hotel's common area you usually have to leave your clothes on or you could be arrested or asked to leave. Her room is just much more convenient.

Aviation industry is the leader in business related non-committal sex. Sorry.

**oh and one more thing.. Being a pilot really does have something to do with it. Flight attendants usually don't proposition the "OP's boy". Yes, we know it goes both ways, etc. etc.

It just is what it is. So if there happens to be a "2%-er" out there that doesn't engage in this type of behavior. Please don't waste our time being offended. You know this is the rule more than the exception. It is just a sad reality.

2006-10-19 10:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 0 1

Your grasping at straws to avoid openly accusing him. It is inappropriate for members of the opposite sex who are in committed relatationships with someone to be in a hotel room together no matter what their job is. I travel often and stay in hotels for conventions etc with associates. I would never consider allowing another in my room. It would be disrespectful to my mate.
Don't assume all pilots are this way. That is too liberal a brush to paint an entire industry with.
I do think it is indicative of what you can look forward to as the wife of this particular man. Being a pilot has nothing to do with it. If a man wants to fool around he will always find a way no matter how close or far he is from your location.

2006-10-19 06:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by kane 2 · 1 0

I used to do a lot of traveling. When you go on a vacation you pick really nice hotels that have common rooms that are like living rooms to the rich. When traveling for business they tend to be a whole lot worse.

He could of just lied and said he went to the common room when he didn't. Seems to me he's being honest.

2006-10-19 12:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0 0

regardless of how "innocent" both parties say it is, the fact remains that there are boundaries being crossed. both of them, out of respect for eachother, you and their jobs need to take a step back and realize that their actions, however innocent say something else about them. i think that even just for the sake of their jobs, their reputation at work, that as you say, they should hang out in common areas where there are other people around. this action alone will also keep both of them in check and away from temptation. i am sure your fiance loves you, but everyone, experiences temptation or makes mistakes and just as a safe guard they should not hang out in eachother's rooms. also, i am sure that if you voice your feelings they will stop. if they don't , that right there definetly says alot!

2006-10-19 07:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by origchick 5 · 0 0

I wouldn't worry....IF you trust him!!!
We did it all the time. I mean after a flight, no-one wants to hang out in public, and after all.....it's just like hanging out with your work friends (co workers) if you will.
Do you ever go to a friends house? In aviation, your hotel rooms pretty much ARE your homes....at least while away.

2006-10-19 06:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Somebody said its temptation. He is right. Your uneasiness is also justified, since nobody can predict what next. But still if you are committed to him just tell him. He has to agree not letting you become uncomfortable. Since he is also committed to you and you both love each other. Key to marriage is communication. I tell this to my wife also. We tell each other what we want and what we dont want from each other. Still he is not listening to you, you have to think your decision regarding marrying him, after all nobody wants a known discomfort. This will be utter foolishness. All the best dear.

2006-10-19 06:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by me_ind 1 · 0 0

Regardless of his occupation, if you don't trust him don't marry him. He will be around a lot of flight attendants and female co-workers, so the temptation will be there. Hopefully, he loves you enough to be faitful, but all of us get tempted from time to time.

2006-10-19 06:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by michaelyoung_airforce 6 · 1 0

. that would annoy me A LOT to. We would have a long talk about that for sure.

2006-10-19 06:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0 0

i would be pisted off you need to tell him what if the shoes was on the other foot

2006-10-19 06:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by God's chosen 3 · 1 0

its just going to a friends place to have fun

2006-10-19 06:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by szfr8l 3 · 1 1

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