We have been divorced for 4 years. We have a 7 year old son. Our marriage was really rocky when we were together. I think we were both very immature. But I'm still scared to take that chance again. This is really tearring me up trying to make the right decision.
2006-10-19 06:10:42 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was very abusive but it's been years since we were together and I think he's changed.
2006-10-19 06:59:16 · update #1
Did you learn anything in the 4 years apart ? Did you realize your mistakes ? Have you noticed a change in him ? Marriage and kids can be tough. Priorities change and some people aren't willing to change with them. Are you both ready to commit to marriage again ? I see no reason why it can't work the second time around if you feel you can change the mistakes of the first time. Just make sure that it's not a pity thing. Don't get back together because you can't find anyone else. Try it again because you can't live without him.
2006-10-19 06:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 07:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Delores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to get back together, I think first you need to talk about the things that went wrong before. If he was mean or hurtful, the chances are that he still is. But if it was just being too young, then maybe this time apart is what you needed for both of you to grow. If your scared, then think about that and take it very slow. Don't rush into something that you may regret later. Maybe just spend extra time together and see if things changed . If you rush, then those things may stay hidden until later, those are the things you need to watch for. Good Luck !!!!!
2006-10-19 06:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, down let something like that tear you up... Alot of peole get divorced and remarried... One thing you need to remember is not to do it for the sake of your son, do it for you and him... If you love him and he loves you, then do it for yall. One mistake always made is people get back together for the kids and are unhappy during the relationship... That is not healthy for you or your child... Try this, try getting to know your ex all over again...Then try being friends.... Then if that works then talk about what you/he want before making that big plunge again, hey ya don't want to end up here again... "Divorced"... Look at why you got divorced and if everything is the same, then you already know your answer... But first and foremost, to get any answer, you need to go to GOD... He knows all...
2006-10-19 06:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dani_n_keem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that if you do get back together and it doesn't work out what kind of impact it will have on your child. Maybe pre-marital counseling would be a great way to help decide if it is the correct decision this time around. If he was abusive the first time I suggest that the answer be "NO".
2006-10-19 06:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to try again! If you still have feelings for him and you think it might work, then go for it. It would definitely make God happy if it worked! Just remember your son. Talk to your ex first and see what he thinks. See what both of you are feeling and the chances of it working out. You don't want to hurt your son.
2006-10-19 06:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Hydimyangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is perfect ? I normally would say never go backwards but what is right for me need not be right for you. In truth there is one person that has to take the responsibility of this descision, namely yourself. Not a lot of help I know but the right and proper answer. You are going to have to grow up and make the choice. I take it he wants to get back with you. Do not use him, do not do so for financial reasons for there will be a terrible price to be paid. Make an honest and righteous descision.
2006-10-19 06:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i assume you have talked to your ex and he is supportive ...
this is a big decision ... and the good news is that you don't need to make a decision right now - you can try it out and see ...
why don't you arrange to have 2 days together and see what happens
if that works, try a week
then try a month - then you will REALLY know
Good Luck!
2006-10-19 06:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by echo c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on what exactly went on in your marriage..if things work out better between you now that your not together then they did when you were together then dont take that chance and ruin what you have now.Imagine what it would be like for your son.because you have to whats best for him and you cant have him asking are you back together when your just messing aroud because then he will be confused..but if you feel its right then take a chance but follow your heart
2006-10-19 06:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didn't work out the first time. What leads you to believe it will be any better another time. I say you shouldn't get back together with your ex.
2006-10-19 06:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by rusman271 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋