I am tired of picking up after my husband he is a messy cook and leaves a mess in my kitchen I confronted him and he said it was clean it which it wasn't I am a total clean freak and I like my home spotless what can I do?
2006-10-19 06:47:10 · 12 answers · asked by Melody-Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Show him patiently exactly what you would like him to do when he's done cooking, step-by-step. Something like, honey will you please put the dishes in the dishwasher when you're done with them, and wipe down the counters, the counter cleaner is under the sink. If he does half of what you ask of him - be happy, and finish the rest to your liking. If he's messy, and you're a clean freak, it's only fair you meet in the middle.
2006-10-19 06:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that women are just more uptight about cleaning than men. My husband is the same way. Sometimes I have to actually point at the mess, have a sponge etc in hand and tell him to clean it up. After about 4 years of being married and nagging him to clean up after himself (still with the cleaning supplies in hand mind you) he FINALLY does it (kinda sorta sometimes..lol) And the rest of the time I just do it. In the grand scheme of things a spotless house is nice but it's better to not fight with your husband about it. A happy marriage is worth more than a clean kitchen. Good luck ;-)
2006-10-19 13:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a clean freak, then you clean after him. Marriage is a 50/50 partnership. He cooks the meals, and you clean. This way someone like you who is a clean freak, will do the job right, and it will be spotless just the way you like it.
Remember 50/50 rule in your partnership, it will serve you will, and you will be happy with the great clean up job.
2006-10-21 16:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I gourmet cook and have usually a thousand things going on in the kitchen at the same time, I take great care to clean up after myself. My wife however started nagging. nagging and b*tching. nagging, b*tching and b*tching and nagging that this wans't wiped down...that the flat, glass top stove (that she insisted on having despite the fact i told her they take special care in cleaning but what the hell do I know?) was not cleaned properly, blah, blah, blah.
Well...after I stopped cooking and she started doing meals. Which went quickly from one pot roast to sandwiches to her all time hot dogs, sauerkraut and beans (a staple when i know she doesn't feel like cooking) and I flatly refused to cook....she saw the light. She apparently came to the conclusion that it really wasn't messy after all. So there you go. Live with it or you do the meals. if you tire quickly of doing meals all the time then I suggest you let it go.
2006-10-19 14:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like the mess he leaves when he cooks then do the cooking yourself.You should remember it is his kitchen too and not make a big deal out of it. When my husband does the cooking I dont mind cleaning up after him. I think it is great that I have a man who does cook for me.
2006-10-19 13:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said that he cleaned the kitchen when he was finished then you should be grateful that he did clean up after him self but just not to your liking. Instead of slinging, bitching & nagging at him just go in the kitchen and clean it the way that you want it to be cleaned.That would save you both more time & engery to love and spend time with each other instead of waisting your time & engery on anger & frustration!
2006-10-19 15:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's the one doing the cooking for you guys then maybe you should help clean up OR you should ask him to clean a certain part like the stove or pots and pans and you do the rest. Men sometimes don't think about what they do and I don't think he purposely leaves it there for you to clean.
2006-10-19 18:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, my wife says the same thing. But she lives with it because I do ALL of the cooking and she is a housewife. So as the compromise, she doesn't complain that she has to do the dishes...especially since I make food that she likes to eat.
2006-10-19 13:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by goldenfir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it or leave it a mess and wait for him to pick it up. Either way, you are going to learn to deal with it or he is going to learn to pick up after himself.
Just depends on how much will power you have ...
2006-10-19 14:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cooks, why not you do the cleaning up? Division of labor. It's not fair that he does all the work.
2006-10-20 11:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋