i told him that if he moves we should seperate, because we would moving backwards in life. Also things havent been great with us. Do we stay together, how do i make him change his mind? He says that its his decision to move, and if i want to break up thats my decision not his, but i feel its a way to blame it on me somehow help
2006-10-19 04:45:34 · 16 answers · asked by lablanca15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't stop him from moving. I think this is his way of ending your relationship. Sorry
2006-10-19 04:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by MILAYA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you're done. Sorry to be so blunt. But, if you have lived with him for 3 years and now he wants to move out and get his own place, it's over. You can't make him change his mind. This is his way of ending the relationship without actually saying "I want to break up". He's taking the chicken way out because now he knows if he moves out you'll end the relationship. So technically you'd be doing the breaking up. Let him go. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Right?
2006-10-19 05:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he wants to move calmly. Be rational and calm. Don't be accusing him of trying to do anything because that leads to an argument and assumptions. Arguments don't get anywhere. Try and solve any concerns you both have. If they are irreconcilable then break up as equals. Sometimes couples need time apart to cool off. If it has benefits then let him. However if you feel that his moving away is in any way a method of avoidance or estrangeing himself away from you emotionally, then just break up. It is over. If it is just to cool down, you weren't ready to move together yet and if you two still love each other after cooling down continue the relationship the right way. It is up to you in the end. Do you want to wait because to continue the relationship you are going to have to wait.
2006-10-19 04:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by The One Truth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say or do to make him change his mind. He has the right to decide if he wants to live with you or live alone. That was a chance you took when you moved in with him. You know how the saying goes......"Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?" It's time to move on, hun and next time think long and hard before moving in together without a marriage certificate
2006-10-19 04:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it IS his decision to do whatever he wants... This much is true... I also agree with you that by him moving out, you will be moving "backwards" in your relationship, not forwards. You can't "change his mind", if he's not happy and has made his decision, there isn't much you can do. I would definitely terminate the relationship that wasn't going anywhere, I agree with you on that too.
2006-10-19 05:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a new sandwich to play with and put his pickle in and is seeing that you are the bad guy. This is one good reason for marriage before living together so you could get alimony, his bank account, car and everything else. The way it is now you get discarded like a used towel as you just lived together without benefit of clergy.
2006-10-19 05:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is wanting to get his own place after yall have been together for 3 yrs, sounds to me like there may be someone else and he is wanting out. Cause usually the next course in your relationship would be marriage. I would let him go, cause I think he wants out and that is his way of making you look like the bad one for ending it, not him. Move on girl, Good luck.
2006-10-19 05:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him some space, maybe he wants to do things that you don like to do or something like that.
Dont push him to break up at least you want, but talk to him and tell him you feel comfortable living with him, tell him to tell you why is he thinking of moving and if there are problems that can be solved. I think maybe it is a communication problem if you both still feel love.
2006-10-19 04:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Tackito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is ready to move on ----allow this.When he got bold enough to tell you he's getting his own place without you, then he's done. Let him pack up all his DRAMA and get out.Take that big diamond ring he gave you and smash it with a hammer right in front of him- then he'll have something to blame you for..Best wishes in your NEW life.
2006-10-19 05:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he wants to break up and doesn't have the guts to tell you.
You can't make him change his mind - you can only deal with his decision...Get on with your life without him.
2006-10-19 04:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one among you need to leave. inspite of the youngster. you won't be able to thoroughly get rid of him out of your existence now that you've a newborn, yet you need to do the ultimate that you'll. What do you imagine will ensue even as one among you brings back a sparkling guy or female to the abode. imagine thats a strong mission for a newborn to advance up in? one among you has to bypass till you'd be getting back jointly.
2016-10-16 05:37:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋