Who here has cheated and decided to stay with thier husband and fix the relationship. Also who has only cheated once and then decided your husband was the right person for you and that you never wanted another man again. What caused you to cheat and how did you feel afterwords. Did you ever tell your husband?
2006-10-19 05:05:31 · 9 answers · asked by cheeks230 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I never "ever" thought I would be a person who is able to answer this question but here it goes. I hope that I can help any person who thinks this is a "good idea" make a person stop. I was married 15 years w/o even thinking of another person. My spouse started a business and ignored what was going on at home, including a son. I fell deeply in love with someone who paid attention to my son. It blew up in my face and I stayed with my spouse. I am trying to make my relationship work and that is all I can add to that. No I did not tell my spouse because he already had an idea that I was infatuated with this man. At the time I really loved this man so I didn't feel bad because I told myself that we were meant to be. He treated my son special, my son got the attention that his father never gave him. I will never again do this because I believe the man that I fell in love with was once in a lifetime. I still love this man so much but there is no contact nor ever will there. I don't believe that "once a cheater always a cheater" applies to everyone.
2006-10-19 05:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i did cheat on my previous husband. i had an affair with a guy for over a year. It even got to the point to where i would go meet him somewhere and take hiim back to my husbands and i house. I finally got smart and decided the if i could not be faithful to my husband and love him then i needed to leave. So i did. I did marrie again adn my husband now is the greatest thing. i have had thoughts of cheating on him but dont think i could ever do it again. Although my previous husband was very abusive and disrepectful towards me i still feel really bad to this day for doing that to him. It is not unusual to have thoguhts of the opposite sex but i wouldnt recommend acting upon them.
2006-10-19 12:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have. About 4 times in the past 18 years
I guess HE is the one who decided to stay.
I did not realize any thing was broken.
One time I had "aftershocks" for three days! WhooHoo!
I did not tell him. He figured it out. He is not a stupid man. We are really good friends (first) We have two children and he knows and knew when he married me that I was CRAZY!! That is part of what he likes I guess. I simple LOVE men. and the thrill and excitement only lasts a little while and it feels good.
I don't want to leave him. Never have. I just enjoy something new sometimes. (I know that will get a BIG rise out of some people) That is just the way I am and I have never lied to him about it. We talked aobut it quite a bit before we got married. I knew I would do it.
I enjoy my life just the way it is. It works for me and keeps my happy, healthy and young. May change someday but for now I like it just the way it is.
2006-10-19 12:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well mine's a little bit more complicated.I married my husband thinking i could grow to love him since he adores me.He's a rebound..i was very lonely & vulnerable after losing my one love..( he had to go away for several years ) So i thought that if i got married & have a family i would eventually let go of my ex.Turns out im still in love with him 4years later..Now he's back in town..im a huge mess..I will never tell my husband i cheated with my ex..I feel sort of guilty for not feeling any guilt..in fact it feels right being with my ex.Does that make sense?
Anyway..i dont know if im going to stay or go..Im still weighing the pros n cons but one things for sure my heart is no longer in the marriage..
I know my life's a big huge mess..
2006-10-19 13:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by ddko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I cheated- I did! But he had had a girlfriend FOREVER. He was an abusive drunk. I threw him out once, but he came back and I didn't have the balls to throw him out again.
Well, he never knew. Being dumb kinda goes along with the alcohol part. It was very obvious. We're divorced and he's headed to jail.
I wouldn't do it again, though.
2006-10-19 13:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Emily C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was all so innocent.
We were friends and than pretty soon I was closer to him than to my husband. It was all emotional,with the exception of two kisses.I told my husband ( actually it happened before we were married)
what caused me to cheat??
i shouldn't of allowed someone else "in", know what I mean? I shouldn't of allowed myself to get close to someone else. I should of went to my husband rather than someone else. And my husband was oblivious to it all. I don't think he would of known if i hadn't of told him.
2006-10-19 12:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually ppl who love dont do this...He was abusive mean had no hormones so thats why...I was tired of constant complaining and him wanting no normal relationship...the love was gone and he made life miserable...He knew and he was history too...jome men dont know how to cherish...so he lost me after years of trying He wouldnt listen to me..
2006-10-19 12:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all cheated ? That's sad.
2006-10-19 13:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no,i dont do so.
2006-10-19 12:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋