Marriage & Divorce - 26 September 2006

2006-09-26 15:28:37 · 15 answers · asked by w0t_b0t 1

1. if a man gives his woman oral and thens asks her to do the same and she gets mad is this wrong.
2. if all a woman wants is cuddling, a back rub etc... shouold she express that in advance so the man knows not to expect sex.
3. is it ok for a woman in the beginning to give a man great, no holds barred sex, then after they move in together tell the man that she made a mistake, that she is not into sex that much and she wants this relationship to be based on love and not sex and that all the wild nights were a lie she just did it cuz she wanted to show him a good time.
4. would u as a woman want a man to do these things to u
5. have you ever had a man do this to u
6. should a man have the right to feel used and lie to over this

2006-09-26 15:25:15 · 12 answers · asked by keithy 3

My Xhusband destroyed the trust in our marriage in Sept 01. I couldn't get over the betrayal of his on-line activities which included sexual clubs and dirty talk with other women. I also found disturbing pictures he had taken of himself nude. Pictures that a gay man would find interesting but not most women would want to see. He also took video of himself masturbating. He couldn't explain any of it. He had no answers but I was to get over it and go on. He promised to stop but things kept creeping up like photo shop photos of himself with a strange woman cropped in..a woman who looked like a boy. It was all weird and very hard for me to live with. The space between us grew over the years and he finally moved out in January 06. I begged him to go get help...both of us could have used marital counseling but he refused. He claimed I was the one with the problem not him. My thoughts are he destroyed the trust it was his job to regain it. It's over but your opinions are needed.

2006-09-26 15:23:38 · 20 answers · asked by Girl Wonders 1

1. if a man gives his woman oral and thens asks her to do the same and she gets mad is this wrong.
2. if all a woman wants is cuddling, a back rub etc... shouold she express that in advance so the man knows not to expect sex.
3. is it ok for a woman in the beginning to give a man great, no holds barred sex, then after they move in together tell the man that she made a mistake, that she is not into sex that much and she wants this relationship to be based on love and not sex and that all the wild nights were a lie she just did it cuz she wanted to show him a good time.
4. would u as a woman want a man to do these things to u
5. have you ever had a man do this to u
6. should a man have the right to feel used and lie to over this

2006-09-26 15:21:23 · 15 answers · asked by keithy 3

My wife of 6 1/2 years told me about 4 months ago she wanted a separation because she did not have feelings for me anymore, wanted her freedom and said that our marriage had gotten too "routine".
We have a 5 1/2 year old son
She had a brief affair with a married man about a year and a half ago . But that apparently has been over for some time.
Since she told me about this separation she wanted - - I have heard that she is involved with another man.
I checked her cellphone msgs and found out in fact that she has been communicating with a new guy . I confronted her about this - she claimed the guy was just a "friend".
Now she tells me that she has basically written off men because of all the hurt they have caused her and wants to be in the company of women .
All this has stressed me out greatly. I am no saint but I never cheated on her, never abused her in any way. - tried 2 b a good husband/father . During a separation - should either spouse get involved with a 3rd party?

2006-09-26 15:20:26 · 12 answers · asked by Cardinal64 2

my hubby and i talked about swinging...we kinda both want to but are having trouble with the jealous factor? swingers, any advice??

2006-09-26 15:06:59 · 20 answers · asked by bossy 1

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, and at times I wish we could get married, but at 22 and 23, with me still in school and him just starting a job, I know we aren't ready. I know he plans to marry me someday, but at what point, at what age, have I waited too long? I would like to get married in 3 years, but I have a very strong feeling he won't ask in the next year or two. He talks about not getting married until he's 30, but I don't know if he is serious or just picks that age b/c it is a "safe" distance away. I don't want to wait that long. He talks about wanting to have his feet on the ground financially (I do too) and have established his name within his business. I don't think any of that is irrational, but why can't he do the establishing while married? I love him dearly, and can't imagine marrying someone else, but at what point do I have to call it quits? At what point do I walk away knowing that he will never marry me

2006-09-26 15:03:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everyday I wake up, and you are the first things to enter My mind.
Everyy night I go to sleep and you are the first thing I see.
I consider myself lucky to have such a person as you.
My love for you grows stronger each day.
I love you,
Always

2006-09-26 14:58:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and i have been married almost 3 years now. i just had a bombshell dropped on me. he told me that he's been struggling with bisexuality his whole life, and that he had a homosexual relationship while we were married. i feel like our marriage vows meant nothing, i mean nothing, and i am a piece of dirt. he says that his love for me never changed but that he has changed. he tells me i am still his best friend. he is willing to go to counseling. to make matters worse, the person he had the relationship with was one of my friends. he regrets it, says he's sorry, and says he's thought about suicide. he says right now he wants to focus on me and helping me deal with this. i know he still loves me but he says he doesn't know if we can sitll be married because of the homosexual lfeelings he has. i am so mad, so devastated, so broken.
i feel like there is a knife in my heart being twisted around. no kids invovled. i want to crawl into a hole and wake up knowing it never happend

2006-09-26 14:58:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Saturday night we went out to celebrate my nieces birthday.I dance and have a good time while he just shoots pool or talks.Well Sunday we were talking about the night before,and he told me that people were not laughing with me they were laughing at me.How would that make you feel?That totally made me look at him a different way.I would expect to hear that from an enemy not the man I have spent the last 16 years of my life with.Am I over-reacting?

2006-09-26 14:55:01 · 43 answers · asked by kr8zy k 3

Almost everything about my husband has become so very unattractive. I don't ever let him know but it's like he's gotten so comfortable with me that he doesn't pay much attention to his appearance or the way he acts. I thank god he works nights so I don't have to sleep with him..his snoring is so loud with really aweful disgusting sounds that come out..when he is home at nights I usually end up on the couch. During the day I do everything i can to drowned out the noise. Sleeping or awake he lets out gas like it's nothing to him..loud and long gas. he has gained so much weight he blames everything on that. But still continues to eat and drink the same.He shovels anything down his throat. He always wears the same pants..the ones from work and thinks I enjoy smelling his body odor..somewhere he learned a women is suppose to be attracted to it. He wants sex non stop! He is constantly pawin at me..half the time with his erection shoved up against my body. How do I learn to love him again?

2006-09-26 14:48:02 · 19 answers · asked by justwonderingwhatever 5

2006-09-26 14:46:56 · 22 answers · asked by lazydaisey 1

We've been married 10 years. I know it's not proper etiquette but I don't think it's a big deal. She does and it's causing problems.

2006-09-26 14:43:53 · 21 answers · asked by The Tester 3

2006-09-26 14:42:07 · 10 answers · asked by Nancy G 1

My husband and I have been separated for awhile and I don't want a divorce but since I was the one that left, I asked husband do he want a divorce. He tried to ignore that question and I am puzzle by this. I don't know if he really want one. what do you think. all he kept saying is that you left. enough said.

2006-09-26 14:40:22 · 10 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1

I suggested the marrige and after almost a year of living with him and the day is getting closser I'm getting scared!

2006-09-26 14:37:00 · 2 answers · asked by wetherbeemary 2

Him and his ex were married in ?1991? and he doesn't have any record of it, they divorced 3 months later and he says he cannot remember the date. Where can I get the info? They have not had any contract since the divorce. I know it sounds crazy for me to want to know but you know how anniversarys are and such.

2006-09-26 14:31:35 · 7 answers · asked by Candi 1

I'm 2 years married and my sex life is almost zero. At the beggining after my wife gave birth to our son she was in pain and that is understandable. But it's been 1 and half year since then and we having sex once every to weeks and that is because i spend two weeks asking her. I am so tired of begging for something like that. She cannot understand my need to make love to MY WIFE. Before the child everything was perfect, our sexlife was more than good. As a married couple we don't have any other problems. All our day is fantastic untill the time we gonna enter our bedroom. I have spoke to her so many times but she doesn't understand. She is not having another affair coz we are together almost 24 hours a day. And that is coz she wanted like that. What should i do? Devorce is not an option, i ove my family. Please Help out on this!

2006-09-26 14:23:22 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-26 14:15:58 · 33 answers · asked by yanti b 2

People are in real, loving relationships for a host of reasons...with people that may not be their one true love. Either that passed away or that person just couldn't be a good companion. But what if you ran into that one true love from years ago and all the feelings are real and the same. What would you do? What would you go through to be with that person that completes you? Would you move cross country? Would you leave your current significant other? Ultimately, tell me if there is anything more important in life than that person who looks into your face and sees you for all you are.

2006-09-26 14:15:34 · 9 answers · asked by Luis LU 1

Been divorced a month now. My ex is living with the girlfriend he was cheating with. Now he is calling me at night, coming over, and wanting to sleep with me again. Should I feel bad or is what goes around, comes around? He says he cares for the girlfriend but left me because he "wasn't happy anymore".We have a 2 year old son together. The girlfriend is also 7 years younger than him, with kids of her own.

2006-09-26 14:12:52 · 23 answers · asked by blondie 1

This is a long story...I was involved with this other guy 7 years ago and still carry a flame for him and am sure he does for me also. We broke up for silly, immature reasons (mainly, I was young). In the meantime, I got pregnant and married my friend/boyfriend and have had 2 beautiful sons with him. I love him dearly, but we don't share any common interests other than the kids and never see (he works 12 hr days) or really communicate with each other. I feel more of a partner in parenting and roommate than what I feel a husband/wife should feel like. I grew up with an ugly divorce/custody battle and don't want that for my kids, but I feel I'm just sticking in the marriage for the kids and is that a reason to stayed married? I feel that I've already "cheated" on my husband by harboring these feelings for this other man and have gone against our vows. I don't want to hurt him or my kids. HELP I'm miserable

2006-09-26 14:09:59 · 12 answers · asked by mamasita 2

I am tired of hearing everyone complain about their husbands. I am married to a great guy who works so hard to get us what we need and want. He's amazing. He puts up with my moodiness (well, most of the time), and never forgets to tell me he loves me and how beautiful I am. I love married life. We've been together 4 years and married for 2. It' so much fun.

Here is your chance to say something positive about your husband and about being married!

2006-09-26 14:06:38 · 19 answers · asked by Baby #1 born August 2009 6

I admit, I tricked the man so I could get the child support. Now he's married again, and I want his wife to suffer. She came in and she basically just makes sure I get what I'm supposed to get. I used to call the man and tell him I want money, and he'd actually send it. Well, now I want her to think of him as previously owned so she can leave him, and move on. Why would she marry a man with a child? I cannot understand! He's not even rich, so it can't be the money!
I wonder how she feels now? I wonder if she's close to giving up...what do you guys think? I've been pretty good at making sure he doesnt want to come around or talk on the phone with the child, but what about her? How do I really push her buttons? I do not want him back, just the cash. Plus she's about 22, what does she know?! I want her to just completely turn away from him, and move on. I dont hate her or anything, but she's messing with the program. Any ideas? How should she feel? What does she feel?

2006-09-26 13:50:56 · 36 answers · asked by Deena F 1

she thinks she is ugly and fat and hates the way she looks and hates or feels nothen when i tell her shes pretty goood looking hot or anything like this she knows i mean it but feels nothen

2006-09-26 13:49:58 · 18 answers · asked by schigur4k1 1

not just to do things i felt were against my beliefs but other issues. i was there for him as most women are that deal with men in prison. but now that i have moved on i received a letter from him letting me know his mom died and with his still controlling ways and manipulating drama he asks me to send him some stamps and envelopes and paper and i guess it had money on there i dont remember i threw the letter away. this will be the second letter he has written in 2 weeks. now i did respond to the first just to send my condolences. and i am in a relationship now really leaving behind the mistake i made. my question. should i even respond to this letter or leave it be. he seems as if he is trying to manipulate my kindness on how i used to be when i was with him cause he did say send them like you used to .i mean hello he is no longer my responsibility. is he using the fact that he had recent loss and think i will feel sorry and get back into that drama? n should i not write a response?

2006-09-26 13:47:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

how do you get over an attraction that is getting serious while you are recently dated someone? i want to stop it before i mess up, what do i do i see this kid everyday and i can't stop thinking about him and he is attracted to me too, he knows i have a boyfriend but he is promising me the world, i have been with my boyfriend for a year and i met this guy like 2 months ago, i don't know what to do, i don't want to act on impulse, but it is driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!!

2006-09-26 13:32:45 · 9 answers · asked by ...i <3 Xavi... 2

We were seperated since March, & divorced in July. We have no kids, but I went through a painful divorce since she insisted on it. I remember begging her so much to give me a second chance since I had anger issues & promised I will change, but no use. She also thought we couldnt understand each other. She made me go through hell, & resulted in a painful divorce for me.

Just met her dad yesterday, & he explained how miserable she is right now. Told me about how her friends were using her, & how she changed the job that I hated so much. She doesnt tell him if she misses me or not, but both her mom & dad can realize that she is sad & that she wants her old life back. Ex wife contacted me recently as well, since she knew I was leaving town. She was acting sweet & telling me that she always cared about me.

In the end, her dad asked me to try & get close to her again & reestablish the relationship. He wishes that we remarry.

I still do love her, but its really hard to forgive & forget.

2006-09-26 13:30:13 · 24 answers · asked by Zwerg 3

I have been with my husband for 8 years and we are still in love can anyone give me any tips on how to keep the fire burning

2006-09-26 13:18:03 · 13 answers · asked by moccaebby 2

2006-09-26 13:13:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous