2006-09-26 15:28:37 · 15 answers · asked by w0t_b0t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Past is past. She married you and not that guy with her in that video. Perhaps, she just wants to keep it not because it's something worth remembering but you may not know that there is possibility that it increases her libido when you have sex together.
There are lots of eccentricities of women which may surprise men just like men having many fantasies in their minds which women also find to be eccentric in their own little ways. Perhaps, that video is a source of her sex power but I'm sure that the man in that video is just a part of her past.
Had she done it these days when she is already your wife, that's the time that you should react negatively on the issue.
Don't treat her as if she committed infidelity against you with that video because it would be very unfair to her. A little reprimanding, if you wish, will do but let her know that she still has your trust despite what you discovered. And assure her of your love and understanding for her. I'm sure, these two virtues will awaken in her the more her love for you and the will not to hurt you through infidelity in the course of your marriage. All the best.
2006-09-26 15:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was it dusty when you found it? Covered in moss in the garage? Part of a coral reef forming under the kitchen sink?
Or was it some copy of a copy of a copy downloaded and dubbed from the internet on LimeWire last week?
Dude - she married you. She had a life and a history before you, and you probably like/liked her little wild side. Just like you had a life and a history before her. Neither can ask the other to erase the past. Maybe she doesn't even know it was hanging out with those dust bunny thugs under the bed. It's not like she has a lock of his pubic hair in a little locket in a velvet bag or anything. It's a tape of her when she was younger and different. If she is keeping it for any reason at all, it's probably because it's existence made her feel sexy at some point in her life.....Or maybe you just discovered the reason why she's in the witness protection program after all...
Don't make a federal case of it, but if it really is bothering you, and if you weren't snooping when you found it, talk to her and let her know how you feel. No matter what, don't let it come between you - that's silly and absurd - and don't let your feelings fester....communicate!
2006-09-26 17:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by RoseRed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
frankly i would be jealous,but if she truly love me i would not care less,but i would actually watch it togther to learn better ways and what my wife loves in sex postions and how is she excited sexually and stuff,since past is the past.but on a condition that she asures me that she does not have any thing with that guy any more and she kept the tape just for memory of her previous relations.
2006-09-29 23:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first find out why. I think it is wrong for her to keep it. It is disrespectful to you. Past is past, but it is present when you keep things like those. Tell her it upsets you and you would prefer that she got rid of it. Don't give ultimates, start with that polite requets. Husbands and wives should be sexually devoted to one another. I mean, it is one thing to keep pictures of exes (not a good idea) but sexual videos?
2006-09-26 16:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by vivmaiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was better than the guy in the video, I wouldn't care. It would just remind how lucky she is to have me.
2006-09-26 15:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by RM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uMy question to you would be: were you snooping? if so, then you deserve what you find. If it was an innocent find, then I would discuss it w/ her, but be prepared for her to be pissed. Personally, I am not that "sentimental" and wold destroy anything I had left over from a previous relationship, but that just me.....
2006-09-26 15:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would want to watch the video, maybe I will learn something.
lol
2006-09-26 15:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would throw it away
2006-09-26 15:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would dumper her cause she should've told you she had it.
2006-09-26 15:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is just NOT good
2006-09-26 15:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋