We've been married 10 years. I know it's not proper etiquette but I don't think it's a big deal. She does and it's causing problems.
2006-09-26 14:43:53 · 21 answers · asked by The Tester 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it is. Especially if it's mainly your Mother, or your siblings. Sounds to me like someone hasn't accepted your Wife as an equal in the pack, or you haven't given them the new pack laws.
2006-09-26 14:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by detecting_it 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it may not be a major thing to you. But to your wife, it's like a slap in the face. I see her point and you should too. You have been married to her for 10yrs. Don't you think, that by now, your relatives would remember that you have a wife and address the invites properly? Or is it that they never liked her.
This same thing happened to my husband a few years back. I would receive invites, postcards etc from family members. Of course, they'd all be addressed to only me. I would call and find out if my husband was invited - you know kind of hint that they were being rude - well when that didn't work, I started sending the cards, postcards and invitations back. They got the hint and the rudeness stopped. Maybe you should try something like that. Good luck
2006-09-26 22:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 10 years of marriage what kind of invites do you get where your spouse isn't also invited? How do they address greeting cards? Can you think of any reason why they wouldn't put her name also, or at least Mr. & Mrs.? I know that if I have to send an invitaion to a married relative I always address it Mr. & Mrs even if I dont like the person, Because you dont have to like who a member of your family has married but depending on your relationship with that reletive you keep yuor mouth shut and show respect out of love, otherwise you are just being an azz and arent worthy of having anyone show up at your gathering, So yes your wife should be upset but NOT with just you, and you should confront that family member/s that are constantly doing this and ask them why or if she is invited also if not you should tell them that she is your wife and if she can not attend then you will not be there either.
2006-09-26 23:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by lilrosebud_14801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one of her relatives addressed an invitation to her only, how would you feel? I don't think its a "major" problem, but its obviously upsetting your wife. Since it upsets your wife so much, perhaps she could contact the relative and explain to her that it hurts her feelings when she only addresses the invitation to you.
If the relative is reasonable and polite, she will, in the future, address it to both of you.
2006-09-26 21:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is long enough for your relatives to reallize that you are in fact married and have a family of your own. By sending the invitation to just you, your relatives are disrepecting your wife and you by not acknowledging your wife.
I totally understand your wife's feelings. I would feel left out and hurt too. I would also be angry at you if you went, because it shows that you approve of your relatives' actions.
I hope that helps you.
2006-09-26 21:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Judy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes major big deal she feels a total disrespect and i dont blame her exspecially because you have been married for so long you must put a stop to it immediately if its your relative its your problem remember that is your wife she should always come first and if its a big deal to her it should be a big deal to you as well sometimes in life people dont always think about the others feelings i hope you do the right thing and handle it asap but im sure you will because you asked the question so it must be bothering you to
2006-09-26 21:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by lisaisfunn1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife if right..you all have been married too long for her to be ignored. Put yourself in her shoes..if her family mailed an invitation to her only (except if it was a baby shower where only women were attending), think of how you would feel that SHE was only sent an invitation to some event. You are a couple.
2006-09-26 21:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by watergirl54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly honest, it doesnt matter if you think it's a big deal or not...your wife does. You should address the issue with the relatives that are doing this. It is rude. Whether they like your wife or not, they should include her name on the invitation period.
2006-09-26 21:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by angieb1008 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes! absolutely. I hate it when my husband's relatives call or send invites only addressed to him. Being you wife, she should be respected by your family. Your family needs to realize that you're not single anymore and that you have a family who needs to be invited. I dont think she's over reacting.
2006-09-27 11:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Luv Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh baby address this now!! You are years late in doing so ......sounds like your family doesn't treat your wife right and that Sweety is just wrong!! Respect goes along way ...if you want her to respect them and be loving well they need to do the same and they can start by putting Mrs & Mr on the envelope!!
~Good Luck~
2006-09-26 21:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could just be a simple mistake made by your relative. Maybe you should call her and remind her that you're married. If your wife is getting mad at you, then tell her you have no control over what your relatives write on envelopes.
2006-09-26 21:47:03 · answer #11 · answered by detroitkid17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋