my hubby and i talked about swinging...we kinda both want to but are having trouble with the jealous factor? swingers, any advice??
2006-09-26 15:06:59 · 20 answers · asked by bossy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wellllllll .... as a poly person I have to say, and I think this goes for swinging as well, always make sure you are communicating ALL of your thoughts; fears and desires included. Jealousy is a normal part of life and it takes ALOT to overcome.. Ther are alot of websites that address this issue via swingers and polyamorous relationships. (Just google either or and you'll find jealousy is always the main topic) If you can't trust each other than you probably don't want to do it. Just remember that the person you are with loves you and you love them and as long as you set your rules upfront about where when and how you should be fine :) Good Luck!
2006-09-26 15:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by fozbend11 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First off you tell no one. You get with a 'good' swingers club, one that has an orientation session or some people getting together for Q&A. Also, a majority of the people in swingers clubs are married. It can strengthen a good marriage and destroy a bad marriage.
2016-03-27 12:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of courage and openness of both of you to do it. I believe at some point of time in a relationship, some couples during their love making, may have kinky thought or discussion when they get high. It is ok just between you two during your intimate time to create some out of the norm stimulation.
But going for the actual swing could be really a total different things. You won't know what is the expectation during the swinging and outcome could be at both extreme.
I had briefly mentioned about it with my partner but have not do it as both are not comfortable. Merely for our own private consumption.
Both of you should discuss in more details before you proceed. Don't do it if you are not comfortable and not ready. Good luck and Happy Marriage.
2006-09-26 16:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Adam S 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My experience with any type of swinging didn't go well. My hubby and I had a 3-some with another guy. It was fun the first couple times and then I didn't want to do it anymore. My hubby like to "watch" so much that he pressured me into doing it more and more. I felt terrible, like he was being my pimp. We are still together but we almost didn't make it though it. If I had to do it over I would have even opened that can of worms. Good Luck and tread lightly you might get MORE than what you bargain for.
2006-09-26 15:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
If you're in any way insecure about your relationship I could see BIG problems years down the track from doing this because once done, there's no going back. Watch some porn or something together? I don't know - most poly people I know are just "meh" about sex & stuff like it's no big deal when it's with anyone but their partner.
2006-09-26 15:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk about it, alot of talking...BEFore you do anything..find out what it is that makes each of you jealous and make it a point NOT to cross those lines when you find someone to play with. There are a TON of sites you can go to and meet people..just take it slow and always respect your spouse..just remember, this lifestyle is NOT for everyone and can make or break a couple..so just talk things out and never take things for granted.
a good site to go to is playfulswingers.com
2006-09-26 15:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by blondemom133 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have any feelings of jealousy then don't do it.
In my experiences, jealousy will tear the strongest bond apart.
Don't just jump into it either. Find a couple and become friends,see if you can share that time with out it becoming a problem.Then ease into it! Literally!
2006-09-26 15:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by throatp0ker 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not a swinger but me and my husband has thought about it. We can't decide if it should be someone we know or a stranger. That is why we haven't presued it
2006-09-26 15:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by purplepeep 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My advice is for the two of you to go ahead and do it. You sound like you need a well hung stud and your husband needs to have some extra p***y. I think the both of you should do it side by side in the same bed. Have fun.
2006-09-26 17:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Dont know much about it but I sure wouldnt think it would work for jealous people!!
2006-09-26 15:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by itsallover 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋