Wow, I am sorry to hear that. But, have you discussed it with him? If you have not said anything thus far, then he will think you don't mind even if you sleep on the sofa at night and the mere fact that happens should trigger a light bulb in his head that something is wrong and since it doesn't there may be much more here than you realize.
You can tell him you love him very much but... and then tell him that what he does so nonchalantly in front of you, is rude and disrespectful and it has cause him to become unattractive. What he does while he is asleep cannot be helped, but I see how it has gotten to you.
In regards to hygiene explain to him in the same loving way that it is a complete turn off as well. He needs to bathe and change clothes underware included.
As you noted all of this has culminated into a complete disgust for him and now you are turned off by his advances.
I think his explanation of body oder is an excuse to keep doing what he is doing.
It comes down to respect and self respect, which seems to be lacking in him.
It is one thing if there is something he can't help and you don't want to hurt his feelings, but what he is doing is rude and disrespectful and you should tell him in a loving way how it has affected you. How he responds from there will be another dilemma in which you will have to take on.
Again I am sorry to hear this and I wish you well and I hope your husband responds positively.
2006-09-26 15:15:56
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answered by Martin M 2
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Um....I feel for you... Try to give him little hints, like preparing meals that don't give him gas,or tell him that passin gas is nasty and he stinks... buy him some sweat suits, suggest working out together.... ear plugs for the snoring... If that doesn't work, seek a therapist to help you talk to him.... you don't want to make him feel insulted by rejecting him. He will start to think there is someone else..... I don't know what to tell you about the sex part...... To learn to love him again, bring some fun to the bedroom, take a shower together, take his hand and show him how you want to be touched... girl... that's your husband... you know what to do.... use your imagination....
2006-09-26 21:57:24
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answered by msladykm 2
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Wow, I thought I had problems. Talk to him and let him know his is a turnoff with his actions, looks and smells. If he acts like he does not care, offer to go to counseling. OR you can try giving him some of his own actions. Fart in his presence, get a can of spray deodorizer, spray him with it. Take his smelly pants and wash them or throw them away. And when he shoves his penis against your body when you are not in the mood, grab it and squeeze hard til he cries out in pain, telling him to put it away or he will have to be fitted for a rubber hose, provided he is not prone to violence. And for the snoring, get one of those nose things that helps people to stop snoring.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 22:17:55
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answered by geri11066 2
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If you feel fear, you think of things that give you courage. When you are sad, you listen to a song to cheer up. You need to remember things that make him honorable to you. Would he protect you in dire times? Is he a good provider? What made you marry him? Is he respected by those who know him, if so why? A man's metabolism slows as he ages and his eating habits need to change too. He needs to eat smaller meals. Approach him about this respectfully. And remember, everyone's youthful beauty fades with time. It takes maturity to handle this well in others and yourself.
2006-09-26 22:01:03
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answered by RM 2
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i think if u dont speak to him right away u will have negative thoughts about him... u need to go and speak to him about him in a harmless manner... DONT LET HIM KNW ABOUT ALL THIS in any other way.... the most common being when u ppl have had a fight... remove yr old photographs... let him knw indirectly how he was be4 and how he is now... he will definitley understand what u are trying to say,,, if u love him more anf dont run away from him then even he will try and make efforts to look beautiful... if not dont loose yr cool... let him know all your thoughts.. let him feel special...
good luck and GOD BLESS =)
2006-09-26 21:52:34
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answered by Anonymous
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Learn to love him? I can't understand how you can even stand to be around him. His behavior shows an obvious lack of respect for you. A sincere talk, peppered with threats of leaving him might wake this slob up.
2006-09-26 22:02:29
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answered by Anonymous
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I guess you have to look back and figure out what attacted the two of you in the first place. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Maybe he'll get the hint maybe he won't try to find the good things about him.
2006-09-26 21:51:04
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answered by poohbaby 3
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If i were you i would think about marriage counseling,Or try and remember the reason's you feel in love with him,He is human no one is perfect maybe there are thing's that you do that bug him.Think about it.Good luck
2006-09-26 22:00:55
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answered by Anonymous
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hahaha
welcome to men hun. this isn't a question you can ask a stranger, you just have to follow your instincts. put aside his grossness and ask yourself: do you really LOVE him; is it worth it? if the answer is yes then you need to forget about his appearance and see to the part of him you care about. if you are still worried about it maybe you should tell him that his atrocious behavior is a turn off.
this is just my opinion.
2006-09-26 21:58:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Well tell him he needs to get fit and healthy...he needs to shower and put on clean clothes everyday...tell him how you feel about his bad mannerisms.....and then maybe once he improves on the things you dislike about him...you might start liking him again?? Do you see what I am saying?
keep us posted!
All the best!
2006-09-26 21:53:34
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answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5
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