My husband and I have been separated for awhile and I don't want a divorce but since I was the one that left, I asked husband do he want a divorce. He tried to ignore that question and I am puzzle by this. I don't know if he really want one. what do you think. all he kept saying is that you left. enough said.
2006-09-26 14:40:22 · 10 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why all the games? Sit down and tell him what you want. Go from there.
2006-09-26 14:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you were the one who left, you must have considered divorce an option at the time. I assume you had valid reasons to leave, so why do you ask him if he wants a divorce? If you want a divorce, get one. It doesn't matter if he wants it or not, you don't need his approval. On the other hand, when you ask him if he wants a divorce and he evades the question, he is essentially leaving the divorce door open for you. He may actually let you walk through it before you get your answer. Start walking and see what he does. If he doesn't stop you...he's done with the marriage.
2006-09-26 21:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is hurt and confused. first u want a divorce then u ask him if he wants, u never gave him a chance first so he thinks y ask now?
as for him saying that u left is because he never wanted a divorce u did so he cannot tell u yes nor can he tell u know. he loves u enough not to hurt u. if he wanted he could have said some thing that would have just told u to get away from him.
its good that u talk and i hope both of u really think of this cause i feel both of u love each other,
best of luck
2006-09-26 21:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left and didn't pursue a divorce? Why not ? do you want to reconcile?
These are the things you need to ask yourself before you ask him. Once you get to that point ,maybe you should consider seeing a counselor. Divorce is a big step and you cant go through it without doing a Little work up front.
2006-09-26 21:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesnt want a divorce,but instead maybe a solution,but at your request since you left.All I can tell you is if you dont want a divorce and you dont want to lose him,you better get busy and fix whatever is broken if it can be fixed.You leaving gives him the option to move on if he so wishes
2006-09-26 21:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by migamw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you both are seperated and have no intentions of getting back together, then cut those strings and let him go on with his life. Why would you be seperated if you didnt want a divorce?
2006-09-26 21:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he loves u still & as u left he sure is hurt now dont play with his ego askin if he wants divorce...he doesnt want to talk of it cause he doesnt think of it...& its normal to hav fights in marriage...differnce of opinion exist every where...so dont make it look further bad...just act wise & go back home...
2006-09-26 21:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by chcuda9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he thinks you want one ...because you left him ..try and talk to him explain why you left and why you don't want a divorce
2006-09-26 21:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he resents you for leaving him. also he is hurt and angry. if you really want to work things out, then talk to him, but don 't try to if you are only going to end up doing this to him again.
2006-09-26 21:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made you leave? You need to examine that issue first- is that problem still there? Is it anything that can be resolved?
2006-09-26 21:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by from HJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋