People are in real, loving relationships for a host of reasons...with people that may not be their one true love. Either that passed away or that person just couldn't be a good companion. But what if you ran into that one true love from years ago and all the feelings are real and the same. What would you do? What would you go through to be with that person that completes you? Would you move cross country? Would you leave your current significant other? Ultimately, tell me if there is anything more important in life than that person who looks into your face and sees you for all you are.
2006-09-26 14:15:34 · 9 answers · asked by Luis LU 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What happened was two disapproving families (race) and two people without the financial means to do anything about it. 20 years and one marriage later the question remains the same. So, what would you do?
2006-09-26 18:10:20 · update #1
Dealing with this very dilemma right now...and I haven't got a CLUE!
2006-09-26 14:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by mamasita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many people would be tempted to leave their spouse for that long-lost love in the hope that they would be "complete" and "live happily after" - unfortunately real life seldoms works out that way. Unless you are in an emotionally and/or physically abusive marriage - and your spouse does not show you respect and love - then maybe it would be a good thing. But when you start mixing kids - if there are any - into the picture that changes things.
Also, when the "honeymoon" fades and the reality of daily life sets in - that is when you see the "love of your life " for who they really are.
Many people - I bet - then regret leaving their husbands/wives at that point - because they see that - while their marriage was not perfect - it was a commitment based on love and trust - ( at least it should be ) .
Anyway, that is just my opinion.
2006-09-26 14:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cardinal64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first make sure that this person that you think is your one true love, is for real. Make sure that they are not jerking you around to fill some void in their life. And if they are trying to fill a void in their life, find out if that void is possibly you. Don't mess up a good thing unless you know for sure. But bottom line is you only live once, lots of people have only one chance to be with the true love of their life, if this is a real situation for you, you are one of the lucky ones that got a second chance. Are you really willing to pass it up again? If you do pass it up and stay where you are at look at the future will you really be happy knowing what could have been, Or will you end up resenting, your current significant other, and ultimately yourself???
2006-09-26 14:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was meant to be with your "one true love" from years ago, what happened? Why aren't you with him now? No, I wouldn't leave my spouse to rekindle a relationship with a "long lost love."
Once the honeymoon phase wears off with the "love of your life" your still going to be dealing with all the issues couples deal with day in and day out. You have stars in your eyes. Don't throw away what you have now for something that's probably not going to last.
2006-09-26 14:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the same thing they did with the one they married, it was such love, buuuuuutt oveer timeeeee things got so oo soooo, and they see some fool on the other side of the fence, and think they are in love AGAIN, well then it will happen again, and again , and again, because over time we take eachother for granted, you say you love your kids, but as they age we play less and less with them, but OH what fun they were little, we take them for granted. If you love someone you love them for life.
2006-09-26 14:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as having one true love. It truly wouldn't be worth leaving someone you've shared so much with just to gamble on someone else. This is why you need to think before you say "I do". I would see no reason to leave someone who cares for me already. Ignore those feelings of nostalgia and novelty and put that energy into your current marriage.
2006-09-26 14:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by aqua_regia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been married to a good man for 10 years, but the man I love, however, is married to a woman he hates,and married her to please his mommy. I love him, but I have a better guy with hubby. But i LOVE Sean. And after 13 years, I still do. I ask myself the same ?'s everyday,that you have asked. if sean were employed,single,and had a great home ( big enuf for our families) i would leave hubby in a heartbeat.
2006-09-26 14:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had my soulmate but i let him go because i was older than him and i just thought it would be better for him to be with someone his own age. i reget it a lot, if he came back to me wanting us to be together again...in a heartbeat
2006-09-26 14:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, it cant be the love of your life and his if your guys split up.... solemates dont split up.... they stay together, so think about that the next time your thinking about your ex....
2006-09-26 14:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋