Been divorced a month now. My ex is living with the girlfriend he was cheating with. Now he is calling me at night, coming over, and wanting to sleep with me again. Should I feel bad or is what goes around, comes around? He says he cares for the girlfriend but left me because he "wasn't happy anymore".We have a 2 year old son together. The girlfriend is also 7 years younger than him, with kids of her own.
2006-09-26 14:12:52 · 23 answers · asked by blondie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I were you I'd get out of that situation. He is playing you both.
2006-09-26 14:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by aqua_regia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what is right and wrong. If he is living with someone else and wants to sleep with you and you let him you are saying that what he did and is still doing is ok with you. The best way to deal with this in my opinion is move on meet people have friends and when he relizes that you won't put up with that kind of behavior and that you want better he will either be better for you and your son or he will continue to act like a teenage boy and run around and have girlfriends and make babies. You are the one that has to decide what you want if he doesn't want the same let him lead a very unfulfilling life. He went through a divorce that takes awhile to finalize he should have thought of what he was doing then. That situation can only lead to more heartache. Good luck.
2006-09-26 21:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by pinkauddie06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you have enough sense not to be doing anything with this guy he cheated on you and now he wants to come back don't be a fool he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too you are basically telling him that you are okay being the other woman don't settle for less you deserve soooo much more make him realize that he messed up on a good thing with you still having sex with him he won't ever realize what he did was wrong make him want you and then hurt him like he hurt you
2006-09-26 21:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are a stronger woman than I ever could be. If he chose to leave me for someone else, then he might as well stay put where he is at. Remember...he made that choice. I for one couldnt forgive and forget that quickly, however only you can warrant your love for him and giving him a second chance is only for you to decide. If he left you because he wasnt happy anymore, then why did he come back? Strange dude. Good luck to you.
2006-09-26 21:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're sitting on the fence about taking him back. If you didn't have a son together, I'd say kick that fool to the curb. But if you can somewhat set aside your feelings and try to start anew, there's nothing wrong with that. I wouldn't rush back into marriage with him too quickly though.
2006-09-26 21:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and read what you just typed, but look at it like I was typing it. Please, you need to start over. If your husband "wasnt happy anymore" then, what makes this different. He wants the best of both worlds, someone he has a deep bond with (you) and free to shop around (everyother girl he meets at the bar besides his girlfriend)
2006-09-26 22:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his *** to the curb, and take him for every penny you can... Serves the SOB right for not respecting you... He was having his cake and eating it too... Now he's found out the grass isn't greener on the other side... He said he "wasn't happy anymore"... What will make him happier if you take him back??? His underlying unhappiness will still be there... And he'll just cheat on you again...
2006-09-26 21:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you haven't done it he is just playing with your emotions. It is not what goes around comes around. Even though you have a child together. If he wants to get back together, he should try to talk to you, not sneaking around. The only reason he is doing this is because he like the sneaking around, that why he did it to you, now that he is with her he isn't getting that "hi" from sneaking around anymore he wants to get that back and your his easiest way.
2006-09-26 21:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...you've been divorced for just 1 month and already your ex-husband, who cheated on you, is calling you and coming over...? He sounds like a very messed up person who doesn't know what he wants and won't hesitate for a minute to draw you into his fuc*ed up life. My advice to you is to stop letting him drop by and definitely don't have sex with him. Your just feeding his ego if you do that-----he's getting his cake and eat it too. Move on with your life.
2006-09-26 21:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you sleep with him, it's a big mistake. Your not desperate, so don't act like you are. Be strong. Now your the other woman- sorry. I know it hurts but it's true. Be a strong woman for your son and tell him to go to hell. He's an *ss.
2006-09-26 21:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Rairia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turn him away,let him have what gos around comes around,if he left you once he will do it again when he gets a chance,don't get hurt again,move on and be happy.
2006-09-26 21:16:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋