Marriage & Divorce - 21 August 2006

I tend to run away from responsibility, Ive struggled with depression all my life. Knowing this, my best friend, against my pleading, fell for me and talked me into dating her and then into marrying her. I mistaked "not knowing what I want" for "I can handle anything" and we married. I told her before we even started dating I knew a few things, like I dont want kids (she does) and I dont want to live in this area (she does). Didnt faze her. She was driven to do good things back then, plus she was hot. Since we got married 5 years ago, weve degraded drastically. Im sure my depression has brought her down. Shes given up changing the world and shes gained a lot of weight. I was frugal and never had any debt before we married. Now were $30,000 in debt and we live on her parents property. Ive never done the manly thing before. What should we do? Keep trying to work it out and save the marriage, or divorce and save ourselves? No one in her family has ever divorced and no one in mine hasn't.

2006-08-21 12:16:02 · 18 answers · asked by philipjmerrill 1

2006-08-21 12:12:22 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

should i hide?

2006-08-21 12:05:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know so many men who are GENUINELY happy in their marriages, love their wives, and say that their sex lives are great, but still watch porn.

I understand single guys that watch it, but married men can get "the real deal". Yet so many still watch it on a regualr basis. Why do men need that if they are truly happy with their wives?

2006-08-21 12:01:48 · 41 answers · asked by sweets 2

2006-08-21 12:01:38 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

First of all I never said I didn't love him. If I was not worried about his health I wouldn't be trying to encourage him. I do love him, I try to motivate him as much as I could, but he just doesn't seem to budge!!! I have asked him if he is depressed. I have tried to get him to see a doc.
If I didn't love him, I would have left a long time ago. Being married doesn't mean you let your self go. You have to keep up w/ each other for the sake of health. I dn't ask 4 him to look like Fabio, but just healthy and active for his own good.
And his manners are terrible. As mean as this sounds, if a man had a wife who let herself go, he would be trying to get her some help too! On the other hand, I'm sad that he doesn't care that it affects him and our relationship in many ways. I am still young and I don't want him to be a couch ptatoe. I cook good meals, but he over eats junk food, and drnks a lot of beer. If you were a man and had a wife like this wouldn't you feel the same way?GeeZ

2006-08-21 11:57:02 · 6 answers · asked by MuiBella 1

when the girl or women are there for the guy.............................

2006-08-21 11:54:06 · 12 answers · asked by bronxsexxylegs 1

My husband drinks alot and has been causeing havok on everyone.I finally tld him he had to stop the abuse or stay outside ,he came back with I dont stay outside and I will move my stuff into storageWe have only been married 1 1/2 yrs and we are in our 40s.I was shocked and hurt although he did apologize the next morning .I still am shocked !!!!any advice?thanx

2006-08-21 11:49:52 · 20 answers · asked by jessy 3

Based on previous experiences I know my long term boyfriend will get upset at something and act cold and distant towards me without talking to me about what upsets him. The cause of his discontent usually only comes out if I initiate a discussion. Even then,I have to show lots of encouragement and openness for him to feel comfortable enough to talk.

I know his father and his father is very passive aggressive towards others in the family,especially his mother. When some of his friends, who are a bit manipulative, get caught lying to him or taking advantage of him, he tries to talk it out with his friends. But, his friends deny any wrongdoing and will end conversations when he tries to discuss things. His friends are cutting off honest communication. They'll even punish him by not inviting him out if he pursues the discussion too much.

Am I doing something to encourage his passive aggressive behavior? Can anything help?

2006-08-21 11:47:10 · 10 answers · asked by motomotorzee 1

wanting to divorce husband that has been molesting his daughter and would like to know if it falls under the catergory of adulter?

2006-08-21 11:46:45 · 30 answers · asked by Brandy R 1

2006-08-21 11:35:37 · 18 answers · asked by kintrell_olia_wright 2

2006-08-21 11:30:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

or guys, how would you propose to your woman?

2006-08-21 11:27:54 · 18 answers · asked by Amandy 4

I had an affair with co-worker and had great sex with her, now it's over and i'm displeased with sex with my wife..not open or comfortable enough to tell my wife what i really like in bed ;; whereas with the affair it was open and hot.

2006-08-21 11:24:53 · 49 answers · asked by Krispy K 1

he bipolar and has the disorder where he can hear voices in his head and he wont take his meds so he takes it out on me and really puts me down and gets in my face and in the past has hurt me physcly and i would like to know if there is anything i can do to make it better for him so he can see that treating me this way wont make his problem go away

2006-08-21 11:20:37 · 11 answers · asked by vicki g 1

sunday i saw my ex come by at church. he did`t wave are anything , he did`t look at me at all. .and iam not the one that end it he is .would you call . yes are no.thamk you.

2006-08-21 11:16:54 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have only been married 4 months and so far we have more bad days then good days. I'm talking about arguments. Money is a major problem. She loves spending money and I'm totally fine with saving money. We have a huge debt and this is starting to affect our entire marriage. We argue about every little single thing. I hate to sound like this, but I am the level headed person and I think I'm right most of the time.... So I'm asking for advice from anybody reguarding marriage, money, and argruments. Please help! I need it!

2006-08-21 11:04:58 · 54 answers · asked by Mr. Stuart 2

Me and my husband are not talking now because yesterday, he was sitting in the back of our vehicle, me and his brother in the front, & my sister-in-law standing by her husband. My husband was setting behind his brother. I catch out of the corner of my eye my husband sexually wagging his tongue again at my sister-in-law. I darted him a most evil look. I didn't say anything when it happened, just that one look.
We left very shortly and I told him I was not putting up with that. He said last week he wouldn't do it anymore!
Now he says I am stupid, he said was sticking his tongue out at his neice, who was on his brothers lap. I know he was not sticking out his tongue at his neice. He says his neice was looking over her daddys head & he was sticking it out at her. It was a very sexual wag.
I don't believe this for a minute.
We have been married for 8 years& when we got together that is the way he started pursuing me.
What do you think? Am I stupid or is he just a dog?

2006-08-21 11:04:04 · 15 answers · asked by Tljabgdvhj 3

The nonpresent parent hasn't seen our children since March 2000. Children are now teens and would like to give up that part of their life and take my spouses last name.

2006-08-21 11:01:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or just deal with this loneliness while she's at the supermarket getting ice cream? Do you think a sundae will make me feel better about her being 5 minutes late? I'd hate to leave her, I really love her.

2006-08-21 11:01:04 · 11 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

Is it ok or healthy for your daughter to stay with a stepdad during the week in the summer while you work and also discipline with spanking?just curious if anyone else does this

2006-08-21 11:00:06 · 15 answers · asked by samwise25 4

SHE DONT WANT TO GET DIVORCE BUT I DO WANT AND I NEED TO

2006-08-21 10:54:26 · 11 answers · asked by ismemic 1

2006-08-21 10:52:29 · 16 answers · asked by Fee4Lyfe 2

2006-08-21 10:49:00 · 6 answers · asked by K F 1

Hi< i got married in last December. It was an arranged marriage. I didn't even know him before. I stayed with him for 13days and i came back to USA. I tried to love him but didn't work. Now i met a guy who said he is crazy about me and i fell for him. we both like each other but his ex wife wants to move in. what should i do? Please help me!

2006-08-21 10:48:04 · 13 answers · asked by Sonia 1

2006-08-21 10:47:08 · 8 answers · asked by Dana C 1

OKay, I meet this married guy in Yahoo 360. He says he's separated from his wife and has been for 2 years. But because he's Catholic he won't divorce her. The attraction between us is sooooo strong: Sexually, intellectually, and just in general. We chat, talk on the phone (sometimes having phone sex), we exchange poetry, talk politics, and about anything and everything else. I really like him. But he will not meet me in person. I told him, I will not have sex with a married man and I mean it (don't need that kinda drama). But I've been talking to him for almost 2 months and just want to meet him.

Questions:
1)Would u believe he is really separated from his wife? Why stay married is you are gonna live apart; you can't fool God?
2)Do you think I'm wasting my time spending so much time talking to him when he won't even meet me?
3)What would u do in this situation?

2006-08-21 10:44:03 · 12 answers · asked by letmesurpriseu 4

This question is for married people. When you and your husband/wife fight do you/they ever mention seperating or divorce even when you dont mean it?

2006-08-21 10:40:26 · 25 answers · asked by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7

& broke out laughing when the ink started to pour down her behind. The pen in her back pocket had broken, and I had to laugh. Do you laugh at your significant other when you probably shouldn't?

2006-08-21 10:37:28 · 21 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

What if he leaves his wife, because he is gay, and finds another man? Is that any different?

2006-08-21 10:35:34 · 22 answers · asked by Dallas M 2