Time for some time apart.... let him do some soul searching as to how important you are to him (and he to you) Is he worth putting up with??
If he's an alcoholic, he'll need to quit on his own and you may as well move on with your life because there's a good possibility it'll never happen & you'll be waiting & hurting & dealing with this crap for a long long time....
2006-08-21 11:58:02
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answered by bigbadwolfe_2 5
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Agreed....drunk people are usually more truthful than when they're sober. Just that when they're sober they know better than to say the stuff they do when drunk. So yes, believe him, unforutnately. They're always sorry the next morning, sweetie. It's how it works. It's classic. Talk to him and try to get to get help for his alcoholism (cause that's what that is...he's an alcoholic). He needs to stop drinking, to realize that he's hurting the people he loves. Drunk or sober you do NOT have to put up with that. Don't give in to him.
2006-08-21 12:16:38
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answered by I'm just me 7
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Make no mistake. Drinking is an addiction like anything else,
drugs, sex, whatever. Just because he is drunk when he
says those things does not mean he is not responsible for his actions while under the influence. He needs help, either he
gets it, or you boot his butt outside. That is no way to live your
life, you deserve better and are old enough to act to fix things now. He grows up, or he goes out.
2006-08-21 12:49:49
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answered by rjm96 4
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You havent been married that long and you didnt state how long you courted prior to your marriage. when you say he is causing stress on everyone do you mean your children?
love is blinding and perhaps you cant see that perhaps your in an abusive relationship. If its only when he drinks then seperate yourself (and possible) children til he gets the help he needs. you cant force him to stop drinking, addicts only stop when they are ready. what you can do is better ready him by leaving him alone. Then he may realise he really does have a problem because you took such drastic measures.
2006-08-21 12:02:41
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answered by InProgress:-) 4
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alcoholc totally changes a person. they are totally different from the nice peopel they are when they are sober and it sounds like your husband is that way when he is drinking. have you tried to talk to him when he is sober and if he has a drinking problem and is willing to go for help, alcholics anonymous is a really good place to help families work through the problems booze causes in thier lives, and can help the alcoholic stop drinking and make changes to stay off of the booze. i am not saying your husban dis a drunk, i am just saying that if he is there is help.
2006-08-21 12:05:02
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answered by manyhartz 3
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Tell him good bye.. if u keep forgiving his actions all ur doing is enabling him to act this way.. If he wants to leave fine hold him to it.. drunk or sober pack all his stuff set it on the front porch change the locks on the door.. "i dont mean u have to divorce him" just scare the heck out of him to make him realize that u mean business when u say ur not going to put up with this stuff..
2006-08-21 12:12:37
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answered by brwneyedgrl 7
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You must understand when he is drunk you are talking to a chemical in a bottle, so don't waste your time. Go to Al-anon meetings. They will help you cope with his disease, help both of you understand and how to deal with the situation. If he an alcoholic and wishes to stop drinking he should check out Alcoholics Anonymous, but that must be his choice.
2006-08-21 12:00:37
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answered by jodie 6
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Well you need to catch him sober and talk about your relationship.If the drinking is causing that much of a problem you know what you have to do.If you knew he drank when you married him you will have to accept him as he is or if he wont change leave.
2006-08-21 12:23:14
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answered by nanny2 4
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it depends really sometime the truth comes out when they are drunk cause they dont care about anything when the are drunk
why would u want a drunk as a husband anyway
he seems like he has a drinking problem and he needs couceling
2006-08-21 12:17:11
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answered by Cat 4
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tell him when he is sober, if he does not stop drinking, you will buy the storage unit for him....when doing this, remember anything bought while married is yours also.....why didn't you know about this problem before? and Yes, you should, even though threats during such times are more what they would like to do, than what they would really do
2006-08-21 12:00:14
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answered by Anonymous
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