OKay, I meet this married guy in Yahoo 360. He says he's separated from his wife and has been for 2 years. But because he's Catholic he won't divorce her. The attraction between us is sooooo strong: Sexually, intellectually, and just in general. We chat, talk on the phone (sometimes having phone sex), we exchange poetry, talk politics, and about anything and everything else. I really like him. But he will not meet me in person. I told him, I will not have sex with a married man and I mean it (don't need that kinda drama). But I've been talking to him for almost 2 months and just want to meet him.
Questions:
1)Would u believe he is really separated from his wife? Why stay married is you are gonna live apart; you can't fool God?
2)Do you think I'm wasting my time spending so much time talking to him when he won't even meet me?
3)What would u do in this situation?
2006-08-21 10:44:03 · 12 answers · asked by letmesurpriseu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1.like most things when it comes to meeting ppl..the internet is filled with liars...u never know who the fudge ur talking to...even though ud think hey its the net y lie..nothing to gain...u never really know...if he's lying why would he?he admitted to being married..but seperated..he couldve just told you he was single...
2.no if when its all said and done if ur cool w/ this internet friendship & know nothing will come of it, enjoy the chats/emails/poetry exchange.theres nothing wrong w/ having someone out there in cyberworld to chit/chat with
3.chill. dont EXPECT anything...
2006-08-21 11:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by REAL24/7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) IF what he says is true: he's being irrational at best, stupid and closed-minded at worst. I think, he's just full of it, he's probably married and lives with his wife, and just looking for an escape or a distraction. He found it with you, and he neither needs or wants to meet you, it would complicate and spoil what he sees as an ideal fantasy relationship.
2) You're not wasting your time as long as you're satisfied with the situation and are having fun. If you want a real relationship out of this - then yes, you're wasting time and emotional resources. He made it clear that he's not interested in meeting you.
3) I would be looking elsewhere for a real-world relationship. It's too dangerous and destructive to get involved with a person who's not interested.
2006-08-21 17:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person should never start a relationship with someone unless they are free to do so. Even if he is seperated from his wife he is still legally married. I think he should take care of his legal business before starting up with another. For you it will only be hurtful.These days Catholic people can divorce and remarry or leave the church if that is what he cares to do. I think he is having the time of his life with you with no strings attached. I don't think he has any intentions of being with you or he would be knocking at your door.
2006-08-21 17:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he's seperated from his wife, but if he is, isn't adultery just as bad as divorce??
Yes, I think you are wasting your time IF you are looking for anything other than friendship. He will probably never leave/divorce her, and is just using you for his little games. You are setting yourself up to get hurt, please cut your losses. Turn around and never look back. (I would do the same, though as soon as I would hear a guy was married I would run in the other direction!!)
2006-08-21 17:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- no, this is a new time and Catholics get divorced just as often as the rest of the world- my entire family is catholic and 1/2 of them have been divorced, that line is just that- A LIE.
2- Yes, you are wasting your time and you know it as well or you never would have posted this question, right?
3- i have zero respect for cheaters or people who have affairs with cheaters- that includes internet and phone relationships, because you know he is married irreguardless of what he says! so i would never allow myself to get into this relationship! say good bye and tell his wife the entire story- as a woman you owe her that much!
2006-08-21 17:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Army Wife & Mother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is so wrapped up in his Catholicism why is he sinning with adultery. Be very careful with a guy who claims adherence with only part of his religion and ignores the part which is not convenient. Long and short, what do you believe regarding messing with married men?
2006-08-21 18:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you blonde, or just plain stupid. He' s playing a game with you. He got the enjoyment of phone sex and other things. He is stringing you along. GROW UP
2006-08-21 17:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most likely is a 65 year old bald fat man who is having the time of his life with you.
Get wise to people you meet on-line.
2006-08-21 17:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Of course he's not separated from his wife. He wants you to think that to lead you along.
2. Of course you are!!!!!!!!!!!!
3. Cut off all ties to him!!!
2006-08-21 18:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling he is not separated and that's why he can't continue the relationship in person.
I think you should focus your energy on finding somebody who is available to you in all ways.
2006-08-21 17:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋