Me and my husband are not talking now because yesterday, he was sitting in the back of our vehicle, me and his brother in the front, & my sister-in-law standing by her husband. My husband was setting behind his brother. I catch out of the corner of my eye my husband sexually wagging his tongue again at my sister-in-law. I darted him a most evil look. I didn't say anything when it happened, just that one look.
We left very shortly and I told him I was not putting up with that. He said last week he wouldn't do it anymore!
Now he says I am stupid, he said was sticking his tongue out at his neice, who was on his brothers lap. I know he was not sticking out his tongue at his neice. He says his neice was looking over her daddys head & he was sticking it out at her. It was a very sexual wag.
I don't believe this for a minute.
We have been married for 8 years& when we got together that is the way he started pursuing me.
What do you think? Am I stupid or is he just a dog?
2006-08-21 11:04:04 · 15 answers · asked by Tljabgdvhj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is a dog.
I could see if it only happened on one encounter that perhaps he didn't mean it in a sexual way but apparently if he does it again he thinks it is OK to do those kinds of things!
First, he's sick because he has been married to you for 8 years and that his brothers wife. What kind of sick and twisted husband do you have?
My advice to you is get marriage counseling immediatly. I get the feeling an affair is going on behind you and your brother-in-laws back. Please be careful.
You are not stupid because there is a definite difference between sticking your tongue out in a playful way as apposed to sticking it out in a sexual way.
I get the feeling him and his brothers wife have already taken part in intercouse with one another and that they are both sexually attracted to eachother, so much that your husband can't even control it in front of you.
He is being sneaky, see a counselor immediatly before you get hurt!
Also, I suggest talking to you brother-in-law about this as well.
2006-08-21 11:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eeewwwwwww ... on so many levels!
The wife of his brother in front of you?!
IF you know him and you're sure you're not misinterpreting a harmless playful gesture meant for your niece... then, yes, he is a dog.
BTW... is he Italian? (Just kidding... although, that would explain a lot ;) )
How would he react if you made a similar move toward his brother? To help him understand your reaction, you might want to calmly ask him. (He might not think you were "stupid" for being upset by it if he puts himself in your perspective. I don't know... is he capable of that kind of basic empathy?)
Sometimes guys have NO idea how their behavior comes off... although, that gesture is offensive (again, on many levels) so he'd have to be really insensitive not to understand the vulgarity/inappropriateness of his conduct.
If you're right, then why did he do it?
A. To be funny
B. To offend his sister-in-law
C. To upset you
D. To hook-up with his brother's wife
???
Obviously, the motivation behind this is important. If he thought it was funny, well, he has an obnoxious sense of humor... but perhaps there are no deeper implications than that. If he just doesn't like your sister-in-law, then it's a matter of rudeness, and for his family's sake (and yours) you can talk to him about toning that down. Options C or D...*sigh* are troublesome....
Rather than not talking with him, though, once you feel reasonably calm and confident within yourself, perhaps you should thoroughly discuss it together.
2006-08-21 18:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head level and don't let your temper get the best of you. You assume he's a liar with only the reference that the tongue wagging is how he started his relationship with you. He may have been doing something to get your sister-in-law's attention but throwing a fit and looking stupid while doing it won't get you the response you want. You need to talk to your husband about it, if he keeps denying it keep an eye on him for that behaviour. If you see him doing it, call him on it.
2006-08-21 18:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by jedi_junkie05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ur confusing me, did this happen yesterday or last week???? and if he didnt use the excuse that he was sticking his tongue out at his niece right from the get go, then all that means is he had time to think of a excuse..
2006-08-21 19:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What animal breed is a guy who pursues the opposite sex with a tongue wag? Thankfully I've never encountered one in the wild or captivity.
2006-08-21 18:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this the first incident or have there been such stuff happeining in the past??? if its the latter then well ...u have a serious problem on ur hands. If its the first time ...then give him the benefit of doubt but keep an eye on him in future. If he does such stuff again then get back to us...
2006-08-21 18:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by nice_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not stupid and say something to your brother in law and that way he can deal with his brother on that issue.
2006-08-21 18:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew your husband was like this when why marry him?
Sounds like you two need some marriage counseling. For him to lie about it - that's what's pathetic. Tell him to grow some balls and act like a man.
2006-08-21 18:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just being immature. Lighten up. Unless he gives you other reasons to think he's a dog - let this one go.
2006-08-21 18:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something to the brother.
2006-08-21 18:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋