Hi< i got married in last December. It was an arranged marriage. I didn't even know him before. I stayed with him for 13days and i came back to USA. I tried to love him but didn't work. Now i met a guy who said he is crazy about me and i fell for him. we both like each other but his ex wife wants to move in. what should i do? Please help me!
2006-08-21 10:48:04 · 13 answers · asked by Sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Check in with a friendly neighborhood therapist ASAP.
2006-08-21 10:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off forget about arranged marriage. That is over. Now why must ex move in? If it's an emergency, let her stay for a week or 2, and then say it's her or me. Never kill yourself. There is always something to live for and you met a guy who is crazy for you.
2006-08-21 10:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what is funny, I have read many questions on this site about arranged marriages. I too, come from a culture of that, and I tell you I was totally against it, because I feel that how can you marry someone you don't know? I know it is about the "families" but do the families actually have any consideration for the future of their children? Arranged marriages are dead, let's keep up too the times. DATE!
2006-08-24 10:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure if I understand what you are trying to say. If he lets his ex wife move back in with him, then that means that he still loves her. Theres no reason for you to stay married to that person if you don't really love them. Follow your heart. You shouldn't have gotten married in the first place when you really didn't know them. Unless that is just your culture, but still, thats no reason for you to just go out and marry someone because your parent's or whomever picked them for you. If he really is crazy about you, then he will choose you to move in with him and not his ex wife.
2006-08-21 12:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by sr04model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why does she want to move back in? And isn't that a red flag that maybe he isn't as in love as you thought if the ex wants her man back? I could be wrong and she could be those crazy chicks that only want back what they've lost once they see it gone. And why kill yourself? Do you feel guilty, overwhelmed? This hasn't turned out to be much of an answer huh, i have more questions. So what's the hole story I'm here to hear YOU!!!!!
2006-08-21 11:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by sisifue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 23:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope your not serious about killing yourself. Never Never NEVER think that this is an answer. you are back in the USA so you could probably annul the first marriage easily. If you've already done that then just be patient and take it day by day. True feelings will reveal themselves. You must like, love, and respect yourself first.
2006-08-21 11:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by catrina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his ex wife wants to move in where?
into his home?
that sounds messed up
if he has kids with her and the kids need a roof over their head to live for a while then perhaps he can take the kids in but not his ex. i do not see any type of reason that his ex would NEED to move in with him
2006-08-21 11:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-800-SUICIDE
nothing is worth killing yourself over. And if you love this other man, consider getting a divorce. Killing yourself means you can't experience love from him or anyone else ever again.
2006-08-21 10:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who wants to bring another person to the mix is crazy, and does not love you to begin with . RUN !!! FAST !!!
2006-08-21 10:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋