When you fight???

Question

This question is for married people. When you and your husband/wife fight do you/they ever mention seperating or divorce even when you dont mean it?

Thanks for the opinions. I personally don't think its a horrible thing to do. My parents have done it before and they are still together and have been for like 27 or 28 years. My husband and I have done it before and we are still very happy together. I was just wondering how it is for other people.

Answer 1

Yes that is just what we do when we are mad but when you constantly are saying that it needs to be brought to the other attention.

Answer 2

I am not married yet but saying about ending the marriage is pretty much the same for bf-gf relationship.

Don't say when you don't mean it. Some of the people get used to hearing it, but time will come when the other person will get fed up and do what you just said. Better think twice before saying anything. If you really feel like you want to explode, just keep your mouth shut rather than be sorry for things that shouldn't have been said.

Answer 3

No, we never say it and wouldn't think of it. But we fight fair.

Fighting, like most things, is okay in moderation. Here's a website with tips for married people to fight fair and also some website for marital advice. Look at it. What could it hurt? These are just a few of the HUNDREDS on websites which could help you.

We've been married 20 years this September.

Good luck.

Allways remember to give your spouse the respect deserving of the person you loved enough to marry.

Answer 4

Yes, the D word comes up in our fights but we have not moved in that direction. I think it is a common way tha married folks say when they fight. We have been married 19 years now. Good luck.

Answer 5

Yes. This is a common threat, especially by drunk males in the first five years or so of marriage. But if you read between the lines, it really means that he loves you. I bet you get mad too, and you run out, and I bet he doesn't chase after you? You know why? Because he feels if you love somebody, set them free.

Answer 6

NO

we never talk about divorce when we are angry. We have talked, when not angry, about the things that are grounds for divorce - but we never threaten it when we are mad.

We are also very good at apologizing, admitting guilt, saying we love each other and resolving fights before we go to bed.

Answer 7

Fighting is taboo... I encourage you to openly discuss whatever you want with each other. You don't have to agree on everything, but to threaten divorce over a disagreement is immature and no wonder there are so many divorces.

Answer 8

No, I don't and neither does she, it's just something that shouldn't be brought up at all and certainly not during or after a fight because that's when you or they might say something that you don't mean or don't really want. Good Luck and stop fighting because nobody ever wins.

Answer 9

Yes and its the worst thing to hear or say, and even if you dont mean it, you cant take it back the damage is done, the hurt will last for a while.

Answer 10

Always and most times....I have been married to my sweet Lady for one dang long time...I am on the downhill slide to seventy and not once did the love of my life and myself fight verbally or otherwise let alone threaten divorce....course my honey knows karate and if I miss behave she will kick my ever loving rear end all over the planet...hence...no fighting....but then again.....I imagine it would be great to make up....

Answer 11

Yes, when I was younger, but I did mean it. I was immature then, and keeping what I thought, even though only in the heat of an argument, was a crap marriage together wasn't important to me.