Marriage & Divorce - 23 July 2006

what is important qualities you look for?

2006-07-23 12:30:27 · 7 answers · asked by trouble comes a knockin 5

After 27 years, my husband came home from work one day and basically said he was tired of his job, tired of living in this town, and tired of me. Is this something that other long-married couples go through? Maybe male menopause? It's making me crazy and I feel like if he leaves my life is pretty much over. I can't start over at 52!

2006-07-23 12:25:19 · 23 answers · asked by baffled 1

2006-07-23 12:20:53 · 35 answers · asked by dchella 2

My husband and I have recently divorced. I found out he was having an affair and kicked him out of the house. I filed for divorce immediately. Because he was willing to admit to the adultery the divorce was final in three months. Four weeks after we separated he came to me and said he made a mistake and wanted to give our marriage another try. I was too hurt to consider it. Our marriage was not perfect but I never thought he would have an affair. I told him our marriage was over but I had not given up on us completely. I told him we both needed time and if we were to find each other again I wanted it to be for the right reasons. Two weeks after that he seemed to change his mind. Then he called me three weeks ago and asked me to try again. I agreed and we spent some time together - it went well. But then I felt him pulling away again and when I asked him if he still wanted to try again he was not sure again! What do I do? I believe we can be happy but he keeps changing his mind?

2006-07-23 12:19:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

its hard to find that girl when all i think about on the weekends is my little girl who stays with me!i wook full time in the week so weekends are for my little one!anyone in the same boat as me let me know:))

2006-07-23 11:24:46 · 11 answers · asked by Nick c 1

she is in minnisota and I HAVE NO WAY TO GO TO HER, AWHAT RIGHTS DO I HAVE

2006-07-23 11:23:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

He always hung out at night,then i was hearing he was cheating on me by my a co-worker who had hung out with him.My husband said he never cheated on me,even though I was seeing condoms in his wallet when he was asleep.I always wanted to spend time with him,but he never wanted to,so thats when i met a friend,it's not like i was looking for one,he happen to be their when i was going through.I know I was wrong,because he said he worked and all I did was sit home.He caught us on the phone and he went to jail for fighting me,and spend alot of money to get out of jail and we had to go to counseling,but it seem like the marriage is not right.

2006-07-23 11:19:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband always knew that I wanted to start my own business one day from day one. For years I didn't know exactly what I wanted to do. It took me a while to find a career that I loved and then I was SAHM for 2 years. I know what I want to do now and I picked up a book on writing a business plan. He saw it and asked me why I wasted my $. He's one of those people that no matter how much you change he will keep judging you by some past behavior.

I brought up the idea of moving to GA a few months ago. His father the in GA and recently tried to reconnect with him. I didn't want to move there to be close to his dad, but to take advantage of the much lower cost of living. He seemed onboard with the idea at first and then lost interest. I asked him why and he said that staying where we are is best of our family. I asked for specifics and he couldn't give me any and he said he wants to be close to our family where we live.

I know deep down that my marriage is close to an end...:(

2006-07-23 11:16:24 · 8 answers · asked by hrmom02 2

confused

2006-07-23 11:13:34 · 7 answers · asked by ctownparts 1

lately my married sister came to me with a problem.. her husband is very intelectual and well informed about almost anything .. for instance he knows all the capitals and huge cities and history of even un-known small countries ..
she is very smart and well educated but has another interests (art, music , reflexology)
she feels she can't interest him (since he knows almost everything ) .. what should i tell her ? she's starting to suffer from low self esteem , especially after gaining alot of weight
after giving birth to her first child
how can she look smart and interesting to her husband ?
please help me help her ...

2006-07-23 11:06:17 · 8 answers · asked by rahaf 1

We heard the divorce rate here was like 70%. It's believable. People have been splitting around here at an unbelievable rate, especially the months right after the storm. What is it that makes so MANY people hang it up?

2006-07-23 11:04:52 · 7 answers · asked by Scorpius59 7

2006-07-23 11:00:50 · 21 answers · asked by Abi nana 1

2006-07-23 10:58:15 · 3 answers · asked by suckowsgirl 1

i been in a marriage that never went anywhere.I tried communication.It just won't do any good.He spend time with his friends and family,he doesn't take me out,and when i leave the house for a second,the kids say he closes the door to be on the phone.I'm not working and all i do is sit in the house all the time and be with my kids.Help?

2006-07-23 10:45:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

he admitted to thinking he loved someone else and me both but they talked and decided to not let it go any further, i have forgiven my husband and kudos to him for telling me. But the pain and grief I feel are sometimes unbearable. I want us to be happy again. I wanna trust him with my heart and my love again, because he is in deep regret for ever thinking he could be, after he told me he said that he felt completely different towards her because he saw how much he loved me and how much pain he was in for hurting me. I want to get through this but I feel like my heart and love was betrayed, I still love my husband and I am still friends with the girl he thought he loved, I just feel like I cant get past this, I could really use some advice on how to start healing my heart and to keep our relationship in tact without feeling spiteful towards him, this is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with, infact I would have rather him had sex with her then feel that sort of connection...

2006-07-23 10:44:24 · 10 answers · asked by hearts_bleed_dark 3

I have a beautiful, faithful 30-something year old wife. We are both white. Recently at a wedding, I was having a temporary knee problem so i agreed to allow my wife to dance with anyone she wished at the reception. I'm not the jeolous type.She danced with EVERYBODY. Later, she came to me and whispered, "You're gonna get lucky tonight, mister." She explained that a young handsome black guy had pressed against her while dancing and, let's just say she was impressed. He told her, "I'm so embarressed that I'm rock hard. Please don't walk away and allow everyone to see", so she kept dancing, obviously turned on. She was honest. So I wouldn't get upset, she stayed close to me the rest of the night. We had amazing sex that night. A week later, she asked me if she could have a black stripper for her birthday. She said that she just realized at the wedding what a turn on seeing a large black dick would be. She said that she only wanted to see one and it would be a fantasy come true.

2006-07-23 10:43:53 · 44 answers · asked by yofreshbreeze 1

If you could list one MAJOR thing that made your marriage work, or wished had happened in a marriage that didn't work, what would it be? I'm not married, but I write from time to time in a journal on things to remember if I ever marry. I'm always eager to learn all I can about relationships so that I can help my friends and family when they come to me with questions, and so that too if I ever marry I will know the mistakes to avoid, and the things I should never forget to do. Please, no dirty or nasty comments. Thanks for all your answers. :)

2006-07-23 10:39:24 · 10 answers · asked by Kendra 5

My friend who is married now for 7 years but who is secretly seeing a guy she works with is ready to leave her husband for this man.

I met this guy and I know that he is not a very nice person he is very immature and besides that he also is a cheat because he is seeing a woman who he just proposed marriage to.

My friend tries to validate this by telling me she is not happy in her marriage (although her husband is a pretty good guy) and that she has fallen out of love with her husband and is in love with this other man and wants to take the relationship to the next level.

Whenever I try to talk to her and to make her see that she is endangering her marriage and making a mistake she gets angry with me. This is putting a real strain on our friendship because I don't agree with what she is doing I think it is deceptive and wrong. At this point I am so worn out emotionally that I am ready to end the friendship. Is it time to throw in the towel?

2006-07-23 10:38:16 · 13 answers · asked by Footballguru71872 2

I am celibate and struggling with it. Thoughts of the opposite sex dominate my thoughts more than they should. How can I cope with this? I am kind of trapped in this lifestyle.

2006-07-23 10:36:28 · 33 answers · asked by Tomas E 2

is it happiness? Love? or just to make a baby?

2006-07-23 10:33:57 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-23 10:31:08 · 6 answers · asked by Tim D 1

in a week?

in a month?

2006-07-23 10:30:36 · 7 answers · asked by llanna 1

way too infrequent. she responds that at least i get one every once in a while, not like so and so who never gets it. i respond, that's irrelevant, it's just you and me, not statistics or something.

2006-07-23 10:15:55 · 51 answers · asked by QHS4791 1

He's mentally retarded, but big as a bull, What can/should I do?

2006-07-23 10:07:53 · 50 answers · asked by Ari A 4

hard to get back in the sadle

2006-07-23 10:06:25 · 18 answers · asked by Nick c 1

2006-07-23 10:00:16 · 25 answers · asked by ladyoblivion 1

Most men come with baggage I don't want!!!!

2006-07-23 09:58:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

It seem to be that I'm attractive to the guys with lots of unwanted bagged...

2006-07-23 09:50:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Use an alias to be safe on your anwer is recommended.

2006-07-23 09:48:31 · 5 answers · asked by Alex S 3

Well my husband is a recovered addict of coke for 5 years now.. he quit when we meet and i told him i do not want a coke head.. anyway my brother who he hangs around with all the time.. got in to coke.. now i am so scared that he is going to relapse and do it all over again. I talked to my brother about it but it was like talking to the wall.. i asked my husband to please tell me if anything is going on so we can get help again. but all i got what shut the fuc* up i am not going to get in that **** again... i know oh if he loves you he will not do it.. that is not going to work for us..so many people love there families and still do that stuff..

Anyway what can i do to make sure that he does not fall in them tracks again? And what can i say to him to keep him strong..and try to keep him away from my brother.. him and my brother are best friends!

I will not think 2ce i will leave him if he gets back in that crap!

2006-07-23 09:47:42 · 15 answers · asked by ~Mrs.C 4