I have a beautiful, faithful 30-something year old wife. We are both white. Recently at a wedding, I was having a temporary knee problem so i agreed to allow my wife to dance with anyone she wished at the reception. I'm not the jeolous type.She danced with EVERYBODY. Later, she came to me and whispered, "You're gonna get lucky tonight, mister." She explained that a young handsome black guy had pressed against her while dancing and, let's just say she was impressed. He told her, "I'm so embarressed that I'm rock hard. Please don't walk away and allow everyone to see", so she kept dancing, obviously turned on. She was honest. So I wouldn't get upset, she stayed close to me the rest of the night. We had amazing sex that night. A week later, she asked me if she could have a black stripper for her birthday. She said that she just realized at the wedding what a turn on seeing a large black dick would be. She said that she only wanted to see one and it would be a fantasy come true.
2006-07-23 10:43:53 · 44 answers · asked by yofreshbreeze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She said that she has been faithful and would just like one fantasy and would not ask for more. She stresses that I would be the only one who benefits from her being turned on--she would attack me shortly after the strippers performance. She says that she would not do anything sexual with the stripper, but would like to just touch his dick if I would let her. If not, she would just look. Should allow her? She IS a faithful wife and is extremely open with me. I am leaning toward doing it.
2006-07-23 10:44:30 · update #1
It sounds like you better say yes, because if you don't, she's going to sneak around and do it. Have you considered buying her a toy that simulates the LBD she's so infatuated with? Then it could be something you both could share.
Hopefully this is just a sexual phase she'd going through. If not, she may eventually want to find out what a LBD feels like inside of her. Maybe you should suggest that she do it and get it over with?
2006-07-23 10:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by 'Schmod 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
She took a real big risk being so honest and upfront with you you apparently have a very good open relationship that most couples would die for congradulations on finding someone so great.
now onto the question at hand trust your instincts you know her better than anyone on here i don't see the harm in giving her a stripper if that's what she wants if you are a little weary on the touching part i don't think she would blame you she even said she would only do it if you felt comfortable with it i say talk to her a little more and ask what she would think/allow if you wanted a stripper for your bday if you are "allowed" to have the same trust and respect from her that she is asking for than have at it and enjoy the benifits of her fantasy
Also maybe you should try asking about other fantasies she may have or ones you have and get into the practice of trying to make as many of them that you both feel comfortable with come true for one another
2006-07-23 11:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by aeval_anu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are absolutely sure that you'll be ok with it, set some limits (i.e. what constitutes "just touch") and possibly ask her if you can be at least near by in case things get out of hand. (Have her keep in mind though that alot of strippers have no touch policys) It sounds as if your wife is just extremely curious, probably due to never having dated and/or known many black men. I'm willing to bet that after she sees one and realizes they are exactly the same as white penis's she'll be over the fantasy. Allowing her to act out her fantasy within limits can actually be healthy for her and for your relationship. Think of it this way, if you tell her no and she continues to think about it and think about it, sooner or later she may decide to find out for herself. And her request is asking only slightly more than if you were to ask her if you could go to a strip club. The important thing about it is that you know you'll be ok with your decision, if you think you'll regret it or it will cuase problems in the future tell her as much, if she's an understanding person she'll be able to relate. Also, if there are any fantasies you are harboring now would be a good time to tell them to her as well.
2006-07-23 10:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! she wouldn't let u touch a womans "place" would she? Then Y would u allow her to do this just because she's honest? The stripper seems fine, if it is only once, but no touching in my opinion. she might be a regular at strip clubs with black male strippers. Be careful.
2006-07-23 10:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes... I think it's good that she told you about this... and I think it's great that you are so reasonable about it....
BUT, I think the stripper idea is a bad one.... she may have been turned on by this guy and there's really nothing wrong with that, but it wasn't PLANNED..... the stripper idea sounds like a plan... and I don't think you two should test the boundaries like that... it could be cause for jealousy later and then you'd have a real problem.
Don't invite trouble... you seem to have a great relationship. Cherish it.
2006-07-23 10:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mary G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the correct answer to this question. You'll have to decide the right answer and live with that decision. There is a chance this will be a one off situation with benefits for you and her, or maybe this might start things down a path you don't want to go, like wanting more?
Good luck with your decision either way and sorry I couldn't be more helpful.
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2006-07-23 10:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is completely normal to be curious, especially if she's only been with you, or hasn't had much experience sexually. I think that as long as she just wants to "see" one, you should let her. If you don't, she's just going to end up doing it behind your back. You should thank your lucky stars she is being completely honest about it now, instead of going around behind your back. If you don't allow her to act this fantasy out, all the honesty may just be put to an end.
2006-07-23 10:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by miss_hgl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And one supposes that the next thing (after the stripper and his rampant dick) for your "faithful" wife to ask of you would be a "threesome" with a strapping stripper and, perhaps, you'll be writing again to us to enquire what to do?
2006-07-23 10:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, as long as you're comfortable with it. I'm not a jealous type myself, but it would make me uncomfortable to either ask or be asked for something like that... Just a matter of the comfort level in a relationship I guess.
2006-07-23 10:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the Camels nose buddy
just beaware that reality and fantasy are two vastly different animals and you may live to regret your actions.
Buy her a Black Dildo instead.
2006-07-23 11:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by SirenSings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋