hard to get back in the sadle
2006-07-23 10:06:25 · 18 answers · asked by Nick c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure its the same for a lot of divorced women too. x
2006-07-23 10:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by odette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like a looser, because you've "lost" your wife.
You've got rid of the old bag, now get rid of her baggage.
She left you because she loves you, she could see she'd almost wiped you out, emotionally, financialy,and drained your energy.
She needed a new victim. She didnt want to kill you outright, just sap you, which she has. She has has some pitty on you, and Fxx'd off, sparing you.With the exception of seeing kids, forget the girl, she no longer exists, That was a hologram of what you wanted to see, to procure a wedding ring, and a "daddy", to the femininly needed children she Must have. Now, she's "changed", as she says, but really she just sapped you dry! she may even have said you changed! Hmmm, wonder why,
Find your inner teenager, the one you were before you met her. Embrace life, younger women, Ferrari's,travel, Not having to say "yes" (dear) and re find the confidence you had when you met her. You worry that youll meet someone else like her, you will, but this time your fore armed, you can leave it as just a fk.
This sounds shallow, because youve just lost "everything". Embrace the shallowness, be irresponsible, flirt, fk, tell her your new "thing" as you call her, thought she was your mother, Dont spend more than 20% of your new free time on answers/chatrooms/single site, the real romance is at the gym, library, pta meeting, sainsburys, wherever, you make it, by your new inner smile, confidence, and zest for....YOU! It takes just months to make new friends, you just do do do (as in new things, constantly) and from there, romances, flirting....You are not divorced. You are Single. Do not say get back in the saddle, it sounds like you are seeking comfort, a quick replacement for your wife, and comfortable life. Its a NEW world Now.
2006-07-23 11:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by ben b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels alone when they split up with someone. It must be worse if you have kids and there's not the noise and mess around from them any more.
Heartbreak always passes though. Just grit your teeth and get through it. Don't make the mistake of jumping back into a relationship too quickly, give yourself some time to get over this one properly.
Good luck with it all.
2006-07-24 01:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard for any divorced person you find it hard to trust again when u have been hurt and u sometimes need a time to heal before 'getting back in the saddle' so to say. The healing period is best done alone if you get the drift?
2006-07-23 10:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by f.harrison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well My ex husband hasn't found it hard to get back in the saddle. He's on number 5 in 4 months!
2006-07-23 10:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been "taken for a ride"irrespective of who caused the divorce,they feel short of cash!Sure wish to start again some day but it is hard to trust another woman!!!!!Also difficult to find an understanding bank manager!!!
2006-07-23 10:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by spud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its harder for men than women. Women can talk about their feelings with girlie cums and cry on their shoulders.
A bit more difficult for a man mind. Dealing with feelings overall I think is a hard chore for a man really as I don't think they are ever taught about how to handle stiff like that.
2006-07-23 21:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been alone for a few months after my wife went off with an army bloke. I know what it's like... your confidence is at rock bottom... thinking what's wrong with you.
Sorry can't offer you any advice... I'm still there mate! Fancy a night round town?
2006-07-23 10:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by liquid_ice_71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After having a woman take care of so many small details of their life, after having shared a bed with a woman, after being in a woman's arms for most of the night and feeling her close to you, after listening to her talk and share jokes with you and annoy you...who wouldn't be lonely when she's no longer around!
2006-07-23 22:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to get back in the saddle, Bra, but the sooner you do it, the better you'll start to feel - just don't go crazy and latch on to the first woman that shows interest in you!!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-07-23 10:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋