If you could list one MAJOR thing that made your marriage work, or wished had happened in a marriage that didn't work, what would it be? I'm not married, but I write from time to time in a journal on things to remember if I ever marry. I'm always eager to learn all I can about relationships so that I can help my friends and family when they come to me with questions, and so that too if I ever marry I will know the mistakes to avoid, and the things I should never forget to do. Please, no dirty or nasty comments. Thanks for all your answers. :)
2006-07-23 10:39:24 · 10 answers · asked by Kendra 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am really impressed with the number of people saying to trust in God. As a Christian myself, and it being the center of who I am, I find it refreshing to find so many people do believe in Him, and in building a marriage around Him! :)
2006-07-24 05:38:45 · update #1
Honestly, the fact that my husband and I are both traditional Catholics makes EVERYTHING work. We may have our minor disagreements, but we agree on everything important. For example, because we are both Catholic, we never have to fight about:
-how many children we have (as many as God gives us!)
-birth control (don't use it)
-disloyalty (we love God too much to ever do that)
-roles (I'm a SAHM, he's a hard worker)
and sooo many other things because we know there is a right and wrong way to do things
Basically, if you both love God first and foremost, you will receive the graces to have a happy marriage and you'll both dedicate your lives to making each other happy.
2006-07-23 11:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
" I think that communication is key in any relationship and especially in the marriage relationship.." If you communicate well with each other you learn so many things to build a strong foundation within your marriage. Communicating can mean through talking and also learning what makes the other happy physically, mentally, and of course emotionally. So it can also mean at times you should be quietly observing the body language while you are listening to him. And never forget that marriage will have good days and bad. I hope that helps some...
2006-07-23 17:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open lines of communication where one spouse could express feelings and needs to the other without an argument. Did not have that in my marriage, but the next marriage will.
2006-07-23 18:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen more than you talk. It's the biggest key to communication, and one of the most difficult things to master!
Choose your battles -- some things are not worth the arguments, but others are!
Don't be afraid of arguing. You don't want it to become a regular occurence, but arguing is healthy in a relationship, as long as it is focused on the problem(s) on hand, and doesn't turn into name calling,etc.
2006-07-23 17:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejoicing in each other's company, respecting each other's personal space, communicating our needs to each other - and listening. Always trying to be constructive, even in an argument (never saying things just to hurt another person, but saying what we really mean to say). At the end, always coming back to reason.
2006-07-23 18:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(God being number one) Love, trust, communication, and honesty. Without all of these combined there really isn't a marriage...
2006-07-24 08:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by Babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTY, no matter how bad or good always be honest, and never hide anything, grounds for a solid marriage.
2006-07-23 17:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set your marriage up according to the Bible. He should be the head of the household and she the heart. He should love her as himself; she should obey him. She should stress her femininity and he his masculinity. True romance is being aware of the differences in the sexes, in my opinion, and enjoying them.
2006-07-23 19:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was the honesty and being open with each other.
2006-07-23 17:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by Widowed dad in michigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
open communication: no hiding things
2006-07-23 17:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋