Marriage & Divorce - 19 June 2006

i've been married 5 years. he's 30, i'm 23. he has a heart of gold, provides steady income, & will be there for me. problem: he is unemotional & a homebody. i'm not attracted to him sexually. (i never really was). we've been seperated 7 months. (my choice). but i think about him all the time & i still love him. it's almost painful to love him, cos i'm still yearning for a partner who is more attentive to my emotional needs. he's asking me for a 2nd chance, but i know if i go back to him i'll get stuck in a 9-5 life, living in the subarbs, etc. he promises me he'll work to change his stoic ways. all of this is making me feel very guilty too, which makes me wonder....am i considering going back because i really want to, or is it out of guilt, pleasing others, feeling sorry for him, etc. what i really want is to go our seperate ways. but i'm afraid of breaking his heart & feeling guilty, wondering "what if i tried" years down the line. what to do?! (i can provide more details if needed)

2006-06-19 09:30:53 · 18 answers · asked by llamaleo82 1

i am now in my early 20s and at an early age my mom divorced my dad later remarried my step-dad which i see as my father, he has been there for me more than my real dad (havent spoken to him in over 15yrs) my mom recently left my step-dad for another man and now engaged. i have accepted him as her bf but should i accept him as her husband? her 2nd divorce hurt more then the 1st. How do i deal with this situation? do i blow it off?

2006-06-19 09:23:51 · 31 answers · asked by odadaisy 2

I broke up with my patner. It was a 5-year relationship

2006-06-19 09:09:45 · 11 answers · asked by silenthillvictim22121xy 1

Easy, killers. Humor is all around us. Don't try to stifle it, ok Hitler?

2006-06-19 09:04:43 · 8 answers · asked by yosoyfantastico 1

I have a roommate who I have fallen in love with. We have not had sex but we do play with eachother, hug, kiss, backrubs, snuggle. We go to the mall and we will go into jewerly stores and we look at engament rings for fun. But then he has told me at least 4 or 5 times that he can not marry me.

Now I am married (8yrs) my husband has not been home sience April. I met up with the husband on May 12th. He is a truck driver. My husband has lied to me a lot as well as tell me that I am a waste of time the marriage is a waste of time. He has thrown his ring at me and just make me feel 2" high.
I have thought of divorce sence 2004. The roommate moved in in 2005. We do not have any kids. I just need some guy advice please!!

2006-06-19 09:00:57 · 28 answers · asked by firecrackertx 2

The matter of child support was resolved in a divorce, isn't that perjury?

2006-06-19 08:54:29 · 18 answers · asked by PattersonP357 1

I'm 20 years old, and my boyfriend (22) and I have been pretty good friends since we were 14 and 16, respectively. We became best friends in the past several years -- nonstop talking -- and have been a pair for a year. Our relationship is very happy -- there is no abuse or concern, I cannot remember any real fights or arguments, and we are on the same page regarding our futures and goals. My university obligations are finished and he will receive his bachelor's in the winter, and already has a very excellent job and graduate program lined up. We are considering the idea of becoming engaged when he graduates, and to marry once he's more established in his job and has completed his graduate degree. At the time of engagement, we'd be 21 and 23 respectively. I am from a European country where it is acceptable and normal to marry at a young age, and I am more than ready to be a wife (not looking to be a full-time career woman). I feel that within the next 2 or so years, he will be, as well.

2006-06-19 08:38:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anna 1

2006-06-19 08:37:01 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been divorced for 1-1/2 years now with two kids 16 and 14. I'm still so much in love with this man. The kids are now primarilly with their dad and with me a portion of the time. That was a huge decision and transition for me. I moved 45 minutes away closer to my job. I have been a mom at home all these years and loved every minute of it. I'm now working full time and am so depressed. I would love to have our lives back hoping that my ex-husband got all of his mid-life crises out of his system. He was unfaithfull during our marriage. He's moved on with several woman. I have not even dated and have no desire to. I still feel deep down inside that he still loves me. I could be so wrong too. How can I just get on with my life and look forward and start enjoying who I am and enjoying life and meeting people. My kids love being with Dad because he has the $ to do extra things with them as I can not afford anymore. They are still doing things with Dad as we did as a family

2006-06-19 08:35:40 · 1 answers · asked by Mermie 1

2006-06-19 08:27:19 · 19 answers · asked by Blondie 2

Separated from spouse for quite a few months now after another infidelity but have kept in touch bc of our child. Now that I have begun the divorce papers, he is telling me how depressed he is w/o me and will do anything to make it work. He wants to go counseling and get remarried and start out new and despite the fact that i still care for him since he has been part of my life for so many years (7), I have been seeing someone else who treats me the way he shouldve in the first place. I just have the issue of whether or not I should believe him and if he is sincere would it be best for my daughter or will this be like the last time where he swore to change and the abuse and cheating continued? I mean I was finally beginning to move on from this whole ordeal and now that he has sprung this upon me, I dont know what to do and I really dont want to hurt either party in this and especially my child. Any inside advice would be greatly appreciated because I dont know what to do anymore...

2006-06-19 08:27:12 · 9 answers · asked by sicofitall325 1

I lived over in South Korea for 5 years in a church and am married with 2 children. Earlier this year I was kidnapped, beaten, and they took my passport. I tried to come back to the U.S. with my 3 year old son afther that and was stopped by them. My wife is completely brainwashed and will not talk to me. I secretly left on my own 3 months ago and am back in the U.S. How can I get my family back without going back over there to live again?

2006-06-19 08:25:54 · 17 answers · asked by cam 2

When men and women have discussions & arguments, they have different perspectives. Men tend to stick to reason, facts and problem solving; whereas women tend to be emotional/intuitive. Sometimes, the emotional response is better, and many guys know that. There are many exceptions, but this tends to be the way that it is.
I'm not referring to a guy who is equally emotional and manifests this with rage etc..., nor am I talking about guys who have no concept of the emotional needs of women. I'm talking about guys who feel they have to listen to unreasonable, unfair nagging and arguments about what to buy, fix, or do with their time.
Is there some reason that a guy should put up with this other than to appease his woman?

2006-06-19 08:15:24 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

This will be the 4th time for her and the second time for me.

2006-06-19 08:02:44 · 22 answers · asked by jacdog61 2

My husband and I planned a trip back east to attend a surprise birthday for my cousin. We visited back there last year and my husband and her husband got a long great. As I was making plans my husband said "Why just the weekend, lets make it the whole week". I was thrilled that he wanted to go and make more of a vacation with it. I got plane tickets, got a rental car and even booked a hotel for one night in New York City. I think he was trying to make up for missing HAWAII because of his coaching. My husband coaches little league - we have no kids playing, but it is something he loves doing. It fills a void for him not seeing his own his kids. Then something that we never expected happened - he was asked to coach the Allstar team and he was thrilled and I am very proud of him, but it conflicts with our trip. We were going to compromise-go for the party. Well the first game is the same as the party, so he wont go at all. Now 2 trips gone due to baseball. What do you think of his choice?

2006-06-19 08:00:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

So my boyfriend and I will be having our 2 year anniversary pretty soon. And I have absoulutely clueless about what to get for him. i want to do something big and special. something he will never forget. Last year, I came up w/ 365 different reasons of why i loved him, blew up 365 balloons and put a different reason in each balloon and he had to pop them to read them all. it was really sweet. then he bought me 365 roses...so i want to do something that grand this year for our 2 years. but i can't think of anything to compare. i know he will do something grand too. any suggestions??

2006-06-19 07:57:57 · 11 answers · asked by Amy M 1

My husband and I have been together 10 years and are not getting along real great. We have three kids and at this point they are the only keeping us together. I know that I love him, I am just not In-love. We have gone threw some major problems in the past. He has stopped taking his depression meds. It has gotten to were i can hardly stand to be around. What should I do? I feel like I am just going threw the motions. is the grass greener on the other side?

2006-06-19 07:50:59 · 51 answers · asked by Hollli 3

2006-06-19 07:47:43 · 22 answers · asked by Bent 5

I'm just trying to get a feeling similar to one when you first meet. I know you can never get the same butterflies but how do i get my husband to renew his interest in me?

2006-06-19 07:45:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

In most cases I know the kid goes to the mother. However, what if the child wants to live with the father? How old do you have to be to chose which parent you want to live with if both parents are capable of raising a kid and none have handicaps or issues? I am 16 and I was wondering if that's legally old enough to chose if my parents were to divorce (which looks like might be the case).

2006-06-19 07:39:29 · 6 answers · asked by OMGxitzjade 2

like when an underage person wants to get married and you need to get married in a court house but you need your parents to sign if you are under 18.

2006-06-19 07:38:52 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you just leave some one after 10 years total? He is all I have known since I was 18 and im 28 now.

2006-06-19 07:33:29 · 6 answers · asked by Youngstill 2

she does pot with other men and hates me

2006-06-19 07:30:20 · 9 answers · asked by johnkermitabbott 1

What will I do as a new wife when my husband's 5 grown up kids ages 29 to 33 years old always call their dad through phone for money. For all the wives out there, do you have control of your husband's money. I'm not a selfish wife; but I think it's too much to support five grown up kids and whenever they need money my husband always give them and we are already drown with debt because of their child support when they were still minor and now my husband's ex-first wife as if she is using again their grown up kids to ask for money. What will you do as a wife?

2006-06-19 07:24:37 · 24 answers · asked by NONE 1

My ex and I are recently divorced, but every time I see one of our friends or his relatives they insist on telling me what they saw him doing. How can I get them to stop doing this? I have told them repeatedly that I don't care what he's doing and I don't want to hear it. We are divorced and I have no control over him or what he does. Ironically I know more about what me ex is doing now than when we were married. Why weren't these people so anxious to tell me that he was lying too me and cheating on me?

2006-06-19 07:18:32 · 19 answers · asked by Fed Up! 2

2006-06-19 07:16:40 · 71 answers · asked by raisin 1

My wife came home yesterday (yes, on Fathers Day) and told me that she doesn't love me anymore and wants a divorce. Basically there is too much water under the bridge and she can't get past it. I want to keep trying, get counseling, something...but she just wants me to let her go.

We have 2 children, so this is a very painful loss for me. Has anyone been through this? How can I cope with this pain?

2006-06-19 07:14:54 · 4 answers · asked by co2boi 2

I love all the advice you have given me......but hubby is now being evry thing that I have wanted. Do I stay cuz hes trying to change?

2006-06-19 07:12:31 · 7 answers · asked by Youngstill 2

2006-06-19 07:12:21 · 28 answers · asked by living this life 2

I'm guessing adultery, financial problems, alcohol... but anyone know the actual list or statistics?

2006-06-19 07:11:22 · 19 answers · asked by sunnyannie 5