This will be the 4th time for her and the second time for me.
2006-06-19 08:02:44 · 22 answers · asked by jacdog61 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHAT I WOULD DO:
Run like hell from both of you...
2006-06-19 08:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly there has been some communication issues between both of your prior spouses/relationships. I think that should be one of the first conversations that you have with each other. Ask your partner to give you ideas on how she prefers to communicate. Have a conversation about something "serious" often. Don't be afraid to voice your opinions. These types of discussions often reveal a lot about how a person views/handles the world around them.
Might I also suggest (if you are planning on tying the knot again) to get premarital or couples' counseling. If you know what went wrong before, you can combat it before it arises in this relationship.
Treat her with respect and demand respect (not domination or control). Ask her to respect you as an individual and for her to do the same.
Never stop wooing her, and she'll reward you (I hope!) with the same love and lavish attention. Just because you've caught her, doesn't mean you keep her.
It sounds like a lot of work, but maybe, just maybe, you've found the love of your life here. It's not an easy road, believe me, but it's working walking down, even several times.
2006-06-19 08:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just not in the stars to be truly lasting. Statistacally speaking everyone I've known just went on to get divorced again. I'm talking about the woman being the problem. Some gals just aren't marriage material. A great date, yes. A superb cook, yes. Fabulous in the bed-room, yes,yes,yes. But for some reason they just can't seem to comit where it really counts.She gets married to say to herself, I'm loved and must be a catch. After the honeymoon is over and the glow has faded, she needs a new admirerer to charm her. I could be wrong, but I don't think so. Be careful, be very careful.
2006-06-19 08:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by nervousnellie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach cautiously and with a big stick. You both haven't done so hot in the past. Be patient. If your relationship can withstand the test of time while dating you might have a chance at marriage. As long as you are faithful to each other there is no reason to rush the wedding. Give yourselves time to breath and be free for a bit before confining yourselves. Just a suggestion though.
2006-06-19 08:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you both thought about why the first 3 for each of you didn't work? Are those issues gone or still around in your current relationship?
Everyone has a past. Everyone has baggage. Don't forget it, but don't let it weigh down your current relationship.
Learn from your mistakes, but treat this like a new, fresh relationship.
2006-06-19 08:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can find an insurance company that will write you're marriage, then when it fails you can collect. I'd go for the big money...you guys sound like repeating the same mistake is the norm. Buy an engagement ring with a return policy.
2006-06-19 08:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by dctiger28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel you need to get married? Can't you love,cherish and be happy with each other without getting married(at least for awhile). Why do some people have to jump into it? I was married once before I met my present love. We have been with each other for 20 years. We don't feel like we need that piece of paper. In our hearts we are one and very happy this way. Maybe someday we may get married>
2006-06-19 08:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by sam04m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing and dating her is great. But wait about 2 years before you get married. Wait about 1 year before you even pop the question.
2006-06-19 08:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by I'm all yours 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just weird. Maybe live together for a while first and make sure this is the last time you'll both be getting married.
2006-06-19 08:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off on marriage. Neither of you has a good track record. Let things progress slowly and see where it takes you.
2006-06-26 08:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Dani California 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live together before you get married for at least a year or two.
2006-06-19 08:26:26 · answer #11 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋