Marriage & Divorce - 19 June 2006

i have been married to him for 25years.i sometimes knew i should leave but the minute idecide to go through i get this sick feeling in my stomach and and become very scared .i do not like myself for what i have become and i know it is because of being with someone that liks control and abuse you. my dad did cheat and i always asked my mom why she didnt leave now i understand it is easy to say it than do it i have more open doors and oppourtiunity.i know this time is for real and i have to leave him because i would hate myself more to stay with sombody who caals his actions love. i have been through thaugh and lonly times that i can not take it any more eventhough i have 2 kids 19&II years.i stayed for their sake more than i ever imagined to stay with him he has 2 diffrent personality when he is bad he is heartless it is like he is not the same person 10 min ago it makes me very sad that he is diffrent from what ibelievedor better i made myself believe because i was and am depended on

2006-06-19 17:39:05 · 21 answers · asked by tala 1

2006-06-19 17:34:47 · 2 answers · asked by Stefan Z 2

We have talked about it time and time again and I don't mind that. But we have 3 wonderful kids under five years old and I am so very afraid that if I do go through with this it will forever change our marriage and wreck us forever.

Can anyone offer advice? Should I just give in and shut up? Or should I walk away forever?

I know truefully that I can not deal with this anymore. It's all he talks about and searches threesome porn all the time... it just never ends....

Please Please Please help!!!!!!

thanks in advanced.

2006-06-19 17:32:30 · 30 answers · asked by Bay Girl 2

My wife is pregnant & I just cant hold on without sex. How can i get satisfied.I mean what all I can do for it.

2006-06-19 17:28:14 · 19 answers · asked by bharat d 1

2006-06-19 17:27:57 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

how many men and women would live with a partner without being married? if you are currently in that situation... what are some of the good things? the bad things? I know it doesn't represent what life would be like for a married couple, but my fiance wants us to move in together (we are getting married in Dec) for convenience and financial reasons... would I be making a terrible mistake? Someone let me know what you think depending on your own experiences... Peace.

2006-06-19 17:25:31 · 16 answers · asked by julianna76301 5

2006-06-19 17:24:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Couple months ago, I had an affair with my boss who is like 8 years older then I am. I knew he was married, but I loved the attention he was giving me. Well, his wife ended up finding out about us b/c he put everything we did in an online diary and she found it. She confronted him and he confessed. The next day he told me about it all, and I was freaked. I figure she will probably try to find me and hurt me. The thign is, she knows where I work since I work with her husband. I haven't told my bf about all of this, I am too scared. I am going through a divorce from my first husband and am living with my bf and my two kids.

I have apologised to him a bunch of times. Should I send her a letter or something apologising to her too?

2006-06-19 17:23:55 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

What advice do you have for a woman who really wants to be married? How is it some people can get a man to the altar after 6 months and yet other women like me (no, I am not a toad; I am actually very attractive and extremely intelligent) cannot seem to get a man to commit.
Do you think that women who are very intelligent intimidate men and this dooms them to be single for the rest of their life.

2006-06-19 17:23:23 · 13 answers · asked by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4

This is what happened I met my husband in school we date for 6 months. after about 5 months he scheats on me and gets this 39 year old woman pregnant he is only 19 ok I am stupid and totally in love with him so when he asks me to marry him I say YES. He is my first boyfriend by first I mean first everything first kiss first sex first love I was 19 Im 25 now we have been having a long distants relationship for about 2 years I came back home to USA to have my daughter here he was supposed to come with that didnt work out he lives in Costa Rica Last night I found out he got this girl named Fanny pregnant heres the thing I know he has his physical needs so I told him go ahead and sleep with someone so long as its SEX and just SEX no I love you and nobody can get pregnant and dont catch no diseases now I find out not only is she pregnant she claims thats the love of her life!!! what do I do help me please!!!

2006-06-19 17:17:35 · 35 answers · asked by theoneladypink 2

I am curious to know who in the household performs and handles the finances. Also, why you made the decision the way you did?
Thank you!

2006-06-19 17:03:08 · 22 answers · asked by soozemusic 6

She admitted under oath that she slept with another man. I gave into her demands in the divorce(like an idiot), thinking that if I guive her what she wants then maybe we would have a chance to work things out later. I got screwed when she screwed him. I can be very vendictive myself. So I want to put this in the small town paper where she lives. Don (me) I very sorry that your wife and I slept together when the two of you were married and I'm sorry that I contributed to your's and Wendy's divorce. Please forgive me.
Joe M.
An anonomous ad in the personals should do it.

Adultery is a major thing remember the scarlet letter. When I saw that I thought it was harsh. But now I see that it was Justified. It damages lives. And there is no justification for it no excuse and no retrobution. Do you think it to harsh ?????

2006-06-19 16:47:20 · 9 answers · asked by bigblock_475_hp d 2

this is further to the question about my boyfriend talking to the 17 year old. i found out she sent him a naked body shot of herself.he said he loved it. he doesnt think he did anything wrong but clearly boundaries were crossed and he didnt even consider my feelings.so how can he say he didn't do anything wrong?you don't do that when your in a relationship and if thats what you are doing its time to get out right? what do you think?

2006-06-19 16:44:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-19 16:32:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-19 16:29:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-19 16:19:15 · 26 answers · asked by half insane 4

He has been married twice and his x wife #2 shows up at family gatherings because she is invited by x wife #1 adult children to birthday parties, 4th of July celebrations etc...
At one point the daughter from x wife #1 moved in with my significant other for a year with her husband and kids and she invited x wife #2 to come over and visit. I feel uncomfortable with the whole thing. We were in bed when she was walking around the house. I think x #2 should gracefully decline to come to his house. My significant other says she has a good relationship with his adult children. He and x #2 have 2 teenage children together, so the family is going to be together at gatherings.
I think his adult children need to be figuring this whole thing out. She came to the hospital when he was sick and reviewed the chart. She is in all of his financial business.
What do normal people do?

2006-06-19 16:10:28 · 7 answers · asked by happydawg 6

im talkin bout does it really take til your forty to be faithful to someone?

2006-06-19 16:09:21 · 11 answers · asked by mokie 1

he calls me names, won't take me anywhere on honeymoon i jamaica we didn't have sex, i am so lonely cant tell parents mom would just cry. i rather be hurt than she. why did he marry me i have gained weight maybe 15lbs. but do i deserve this

2006-06-19 16:06:29 · 12 answers · asked by lanika k 1

I mean wow ladies and gents; she is wearing those short shorts, no bra, long hair, good smelling. Whats a guy to do?

2006-06-19 16:01:36 · 11 answers · asked by Jman 1

but i don't want it to be the usual dinner and a movie and i'm not into getting a motel room for something kinky~ any ideas on planning a special evening with my husband?

2006-06-19 15:58:38 · 8 answers · asked by Valsey J 1

2006-06-19 15:56:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have to ask because this has become a real SORE point. Before I met my wife she slept with her sisters husband and got caught. Her explanation 10 years later is that everyone does it and what harm was she causing...of course it took another 10 years to makeup with the sister who did not feel the same way. Turns out the guy was a doper and a major loser. He's now in jail and becomes more of a loser every minute. So, does everyone do this and as a woman could you sleep with your sisters husband and not feel guilty...is it normal behavior? ALSO what is the attraction that so many women have to SCUM BAG LOSERS.???

2006-06-19 15:52:15 · 28 answers · asked by art_fart 1

2006-06-19 15:46:07 · 2 answers · asked by Sukhendra Singh S 1

I'm wondering if my husband could be gay. It may sound like a dumb question but I don't think so. He has porn pictures on his computer some are girls but he also has just pictures of guys. He's not very loving toward me and we are still newlyweds. We only have sex about once a week if that and I feel I beg for it. I think he might like guys. He always seems to want to be around guys more than girls and I don't know I just have a weird feeling about it.....plus he told me once when he was a kid he was naked with a guy friend and got caught kissing him.

2006-06-19 15:41:26 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-19 15:40:28 · 25 answers · asked by lanika k 1

2006-06-19 15:25:56 · 3 answers · asked by friendsrule4ever 2

I was seeing a married man for about 5 months. I know stupid. Karma always kicks ya. He promised me over and over again that his marriage was almost over he was just finishing the technicallities. Long story short he never really ended things with me continued to stay married and is now having an affair with yet another woman (a stripper none the less). I am hurt - I deserve to be hurt because I shouldnt have gotten involved in the first place but still feeling pain like I have never felt before. There are numerous ideas going through my head. I want him to hurt because he lied to me amongst many other people. Should I tell his wife everything? Show her the emails he sent saying how much he didnt want to be with her? How he couldnt wait for us to be a family? All the promises he made me and never kept. I dont think its fair that she isnt aware of all this. She knew about me but not the new chick. Or am I just going to create more problems? They have 2 small kids together as well.

2006-06-19 15:25:16 · 32 answers · asked by Waiting2Exhale 2

He goes to his parents about everything and never tells me anything! I just dont know what to do anymore I'm sick of it!

2006-06-19 15:24:36 · 10 answers · asked by tx80sgirl 2

If you found out that you're boyfriend is cheating on you and you still love him until nOw... can your love fades in the future????

2006-06-19 15:24:35 · 13 answers · asked by g. 1