2006-06-19 15:40:28 · 25 answers · asked by lanika k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you still there is the question...Leave his as*
2006-06-19 15:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by fadded 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got into this marriage waaaay too fast. But don't torture yourself over a mistake. Calmly sit him down and let him know you won't be sticking around for a lifetime of abuse, so he better figure out real fast if he can do this any differently. No sane woman would put up with constant ridicule. Everyone has a bad day, but you are not the cause of his unhappiness.
Leaving is certainly an option but DO NOT threaten to leave. Again, tell him that this dialogue isn't working for you and that you are willing to try a different approach. And you are committed to the same love you confessed in your wedding ceremony. But don't torture yourself with guilt if he isn't giving you at least a listening ear. On the other hand, make damn sure it isn't YOU who is impossible to live with. Be open minded and allow him the room he needs to mature into adulthood with you, believe in him, love him, support him, but don't worry if there is nothing you can do to earn his respect. I said respect, not control.
2006-06-19 22:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seriously consider moving on! When married men are committed, they come home from work without issue. When there is something 'going on' they linger longer each day. Combine this with no sex and you can almost be sure there is someone else. Trust your instincts and leave. If leaving is not an option for you, seek counseling.
2006-06-19 22:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by long_ebony_locs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking if you should leave, maybe you should be asking why should I stay? And there doesn't appear to be any reason other than you spent a 1/2 hour in a church one weekend and got married. If it's gone bad this quickly, get out -and get out before you end up pregnant following some make-up sex and end up dragging kids through a messy divorce in their youth.
2006-06-20 17:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by jerryg1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you havent been married for more than a week you can get a marriage anulled. Dont let me treat you like that its called mental abuse. I think when he gets home you to better lay it on the table and and have a heart to heart talk about why doesnt want sex and doesnt want to come home and calls you names. See if he wants the marriage to work seek counsiling ...if not if there is no kids get out. good luck
2006-06-19 22:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you know him before you married him?
But if he stays out and spends the night somewhere else, calls you names cause he has no respect for you and dont even want to have sex with you.. and you r his wife. and no way to work out the problem, well yeah get a divorced.
Didn't you see the problem before you got married.
you dont have to put up with his crap and be unhappy. move on there are better fish in the sea. someone out there would treat you allot better. get a divorced
2006-06-19 22:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, while it is easy to put out a quick retort that he is cheating such a thing should not be done. The old phrase "dont look for whos to blame look for how to fix it" stands true in this case. I would monitor his behavior and if it comes back questionable than it would be wise not to continue having intercourse with him until you know that he is clean health wise. Not only is he neglective but he is verbally abusive.
2006-06-20 00:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by KelBean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave. That is the easy way out. Remember you married him for a reason. Seek counselling or hire a PI to make sure he is not committing adultery.
Hope everything works out.
Matt
2006-06-19 22:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by MastaP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just got married and he doesn't come home, and he calls you names, and there's is no sex.
YES.
I'm sorry about your problems, but sounds to me like spouse abuse.
Call the police and turn him in, you're a human being not a pet.
2006-06-19 22:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by curious rudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just gotten married and your husband acts like that? Get an annulment, honey, before it's too late. You deserve a man who will love and cherish you. It's obvious that this man doesn't.
2006-06-19 22:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the marriage is over before it even got started. This is not a marriage, move out and move on with your life. You don't need to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you or make love to you. Being with someone who loves you and wants to be with you is marriage, not what your living.
2006-06-20 00:42:29 · answer #11 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋