how many men and women would live with a partner without being married? if you are currently in that situation... what are some of the good things? the bad things? I know it doesn't represent what life would be like for a married couple, but my fiance wants us to move in together (we are getting married in Dec) for convenience and financial reasons... would I be making a terrible mistake? Someone let me know what you think depending on your own experiences... Peace.
2006-06-19 17:25:31 · 16 answers · asked by julianna76301 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have just come out of a live together relationship of 14 years and your wrong hun, it does represent life as a married couple the only thing missing is the bit of paper that says so, we had three children together and are very disapointed that it didnt work out for us and dont feel that making it legal would have helped.
Your situation however is worrying, you say "your fiance wants you to move in together for convenience and financial reasons"
If that is the only reason youre going to live together then dont do it it wont work as i said its just like being married, I have no doubt that you love each other and wish you all the best, dont take each other for granted, stay faithful, and be honest with each other. good luk. ps ignore fies advice she is an antique
2006-06-19 17:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this modern age, I think it is necessary to live together before two people get married. I can tell you from experience with my ex-fiance and from past room mates that you don't really know someone until you live with them.
The good thing about living with someone is having that person around all the time, but it is also the bad thing. What I mean by that is there are times when you just need your space to deal with or do something. At the same time, you know that person is going to be lying next to you when you are sleeping (it can be a very nice feeling).
It can be seen as a test run for marriage, for what that is worth. I am very grateful that I moved my ex-fiancee in with me, marrying her would have been the worst mistake I would have ever made. She had no sense of financial responsibility, no drive to do anything and a couple other things that I don't want to get into here.
I hope that I was some help to you.
2006-06-20 00:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on your fiance...do you think they would not go through with getting married if you agreed to live together? If so then I would not do it. If you are sure that this is not the case then I don't think it would really hurt. It is exactly the same before you are married as after (I have been there I know) nothing changes but the piece of paper and the commitment. The day to day stuff is pretty much "what you see is what you get". So, if you have a hesitant "buyer", then don't give him the cow if he can get the milk for free. ;)
2006-06-20 00:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what terrible mistake you might feel like you are making...living together feels like being married, especially if you are engaged to be married. I can't really think of a bad thing.
Reading through your question, I am concerned about your thoughts that living together would not really represent what life would be like for a married couple...I wonder if you are being realistic about what marriage will be like?
2006-06-20 00:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by c_schumacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm more than likely gonna be living with my bf at some point, and I'm actually looking forward to it. If it works out, it'll give me proof that I can trust him if we do get married at some point. Sometimes you get along great but when you actually have to LIVE with each other you realize all the faults the other person didn't show you before. Just make sure you both get plenty of time to do things separately too, because too much togetherness can be a bad thing too.
2006-06-20 00:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by onyxflame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with having sex and live together before married. Be patient its only 6 months until you get married right??!!
and if that moment come,...you will feels very proud and have the outrageous feeling being having first sex,..first experience to have a partner,..etc..
Make an observation your self.....how many couples divorce after they live together as a partner before they had getting married?
They much untold reason for this case.
2006-06-20 00:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now but we've lived together for about 2 1/2 years now. I think it's great!! We're not married yet but have been seriously thinking about it for our near futures. You can experience what it will be like living them before you get married. Sometimes it takes living with your partner to decide on marriage or not. I love it and the only thing you can do to decide for yourself is to try it!! Good luck!!
2006-06-20 00:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Courtney♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes sense to me.
My husband and i knew each other for 6 or 7 years before we got married. We moved in together just 2 months before the wedding and there were so many little things that we never realized about each other.
Congratulations!
2006-06-20 01:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i currently live with my boyfriend and my 2 kids. we LOVE him and cant survive without his love and support. some of the worst things are that i cant get on food assistance (im partially blind and cant work and only get so much on ssi) with him in the house and working. him farting in the bed is also a downfall but i get over it.
the good things are that he has been with us for a year now and my kids have started to call him daddy. i dont worry about not being able to keep the power or phone on. he carries in the groceries for me. he snuggles me at night. he pays the bills.
personaly i think this is a personal experiance and each one is going to be different. I have a "top shelf" of a man and not a "bottom feeder" man who likes to beat his women. my man is good to me so our home life is good. i hope its the same for you. good luck.
2006-06-20 00:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you have been dating/engaged for a while. But you do get to know them better living with them I lived with my husband now of 13 years before we got married. But I am a firm believer that you never know them till you marry them.
2006-06-20 01:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋