Is sleeping with your sisters husband OK?

Question

Have to ask because this has become a real SORE point. Before I met my wife she slept with her sisters husband and got caught. Her explanation 10 years later is that everyone does it and what harm was she causing...of course it took another 10 years to makeup with the sister who did not feel the same way. Turns out the guy was a doper and a major loser. He's now in jail and becomes more of a loser every minute. So, does everyone do this and as a woman could you sleep with your sisters husband and not feel guilty...is it normal behavior? ALSO what is the attraction that so many women have to SCUM BAG LOSERS.???

TO: cheeky chick: I think you are wrong to judge me for asking a legitimate question. I was raised in a strick catolic home and was a virgin when I married. Wanting to know what other people think and have it be annonymous is really the reason for this venue. I have every right to explore any avenue I have available to help further my growth and knowledge. I am sorry this offends some of you but I will continue to search for impartial and valuable insights.

Its impossible to judge anyone and yet each word that comes from my mouth, to her, is a judgement. If the sentence starts out. "How could you.." then to her it is a judgement. I realize she has problems but its more important for me to find out why she needs to act out and always with the worst type of men. I am married to this woman, I make great money, I am a great dad and I treat her like a queen. yet she choose the wrong path repeatedly. At what point do you throw in the towel and say screw it?

Answer 1

OMG What kind of women is she if she could just do that and not have remorse at all. It is not okay at all, it is bad enough to sleep with a married man but with her sisters husband. I would seriously think about what kind of person she is, she obviously has no heart what so ever.

Answer 2

"NO this is definitely not normal and why do you even need to ask?" That is one of the most lowest things a blood relative could ever do.... And your wife should feel very humbled that after that her sister was able to forgive..... I only hope that your wife is woman enough to face up and own up to the mistake she made.... And with all respect I hope you don't have the same thing happen to you if you have a brother or some relative around..... And even if the man was on some form of narcotics, your wife was and is again the blood relative. This is where blood is thicker than water..... The rule applies here.......... "Is Cheeky Chic your wife?" She sounds like she may have practiced the same kind of deception herself...... Just checking back in... to see how this one was going and well you added to it and I think if you are this miserable from all the effort you put forth and she is not making good choices then you really need help.. If all you are saying about yourself, you sound like a man that deserves a woman and you need to face up to the fact that you are searching for help all you have to do is want it and move forward and stop letting her manipulate you.... My heart goes out to you in ways you have no idea....... "Throw in the towel."

Answer 3

I actually have 3 sisters . i love them to death...although the day that my husband has an affair with one of my sisters is the day that I kick that sister and my husband out of my existence. don't be so rattling egocentric. it quite is your sister. Have some understand for your self and your relations because once you want help on the most important time, it really isn't any longer a guy that is going which could also help you. that's relations. you do not have any self understand and it exhibits. I forgive human beings for most stuff even though it quite is one element i'd never forgive my sister for. and no matter if she would not locate out proper this second. she will locate out in the destiny. the truth does come to the mild quicker or later.

Answer 4

Well, my sister slept with my husband about 10 year ago, it was before we were really married, but had one child together, and living together. Now, after almost nine years of marriage, I have just filed for divorced because he is a loser and got himself put in prison. When the affair happened, I was torn, because I wasn't ready to leave my then boyfriend, so I didn't feel like I could hold a grudge against my sister either. However, we weren't very close because of my husband's doing for about 6 years, then we was arrested, and yes now I have forgiven her, but divorcing him. Funny how life turns out, isn't it? I wish, I knew the answer to why women are so often attracted to losers, my sister is also, married to a loser right now. It pretty much sucks, but with the help of my therapist, I am making a vow to not get myself in that predicament again. Best wishes to you as well.

Answer 5

NO I DON'T BELIEVE IT'S OK TO SLEEP WITH YOUR SISTER'S HUSBAND....IT'S MORALLY WRONG AND I COULDN'T IMAGINE SLEEPING WITH THE SAME MAN AS MY SISTER....BUT HONESTLY, THINGS YOUR WIFE DID BEFORE SHE EVER MET YOU ARE THINGS FROM HER PAST THAT SHE HAS TO DEAL WITH HER SELF.....THE ONLY PEOPLE SHE NEEDS TO MAKE IT UP TO IS HER SISTER AND GOD...I'D SAY FOR THE MOST PART EVERYONE DOESN'T DO THIS BUT IS PROBABLY VERY COMMON.....IF SHE DOESN'T FEEL GUILTY THAT DOESN'T NECESSARILY MEAN SHE WILL DO THE SAME THING AGAIN...SHE MAY FEEL LIKE IT WAS A HUGE LEARNING EXPERIENCE FOR HER AND FEEL LIKE SHE REALLY LEARNED A LESSON ABOUT LIFE AND WHAT IT MEANS TO BE HONORABLE AND FAITHFUL....THE FACT THAT SHE WAS ATTRACTED TO SUCH A SCUM BAG LOSER WAS PROBABLY A PHASE SHE WENT THROUGH BECAUSE AFTER ALL, SHE IS WITH YOU AND YOU SEEM TO BE AN UPSTANDING PERSON WITH MORALS.....I COULDN'T SAY THAT I WOULDN'T BE GUILTY BECAUSE I MOST CERTAINLY WOULD BUT GETTING TO THE POINT OF HAVING FEELINGS FOR MY BROTHER IN LAW IS SOMETHING I JUST NEVER EVER THINK OF AND DON'T KNOW HOW ANYONE WOULD OR COULD BUT I'M NOT HER AND NEITHER IS ANYONE ELSE ON HERE SO WE DON'T KNOW WHAT SHE WAS FEELING OR WHAT STATE OF MIND SHE WAS IN TO DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT......GIVE HER THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT AND TRUST SHE'LL NEVER DO THAT TO YOU....GOOD LUCK! THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION ABOUT "THROWING IN THE TOWEL AND JUST QUITTING" IS ONE TO TAKE INTO CAREFUL CONSIDERATION...IF YOU LOVE HER THEN AS A GOOD MAN AND HUSBAND TRY TO MAKE IT WORK IF THERE'S EVEN A SPARK OF HOPE.....IF YOU TRY AND SHE DOESN'T CARE EITHER WAY THEN YOU KNOW WHERE YOU STAND WITH HER AND MAYBE THAT'S WHEN IT'S TIME TO LEAVE......

Answer 6

It is WRRRRRroooooooonGGGGGGGG!!
That is so sick.
I feel bad for you. She sounds like she made a mistake, but she is still acting childish--like everybody does it and no big deal. Well it was a big deal. If it wasn't she wouldn't have lied about it in the first place. she sounds like she is not all there. You know.. But I can not tell you what to do. Has she cheated on you during your all's marriage. If not, she learned a lesson maybe. But she is still childish for acting like it was nothing. She hurt her sister!!!! There were plenty of other guys out there and she did it with him!! either she was sick at the time or she was getting even with her sister for some stupid reason. Who knows really?? She is probably a liar. I am so sorry. But if you love her and you just found out about this and she did not cheat on you, then you may be able to work things out. Maybe counseling if you really can't handle it alone. If she won't go, you need to go to a counselor alone. You can still get help about how to handle things and to not be bitter at the world. That may help you make a decision. Good luck my friend. God Bless.

Answer 7

the closer kin the deeper in I always heard, I don't think it is normal, but I have always wandered what made people do it, only thing I have been able to figure is that both sisters have the same taste in guys, they have similar physical features and were raised by the same parents with the same values (usually) so why wouldn't she be attracted to her sisters husband. is it right, hell no, it would take someone insane to try and argue that point.
women are attracted to guys that make them feel better about themselves, guys that won't make them feel cheap and sleezy, scum bag losers fill the bill, they are the bottom feeders, can't be any lower than a scum bag loser.

Answer 8

No, this is not normal behavior and your wife was TOTALLY wrong in doing so. I'm surprised that her sister forgave her at all to be honest. There is NO WAY I could do this to one of my sisters, no way. That is as low as you could go. As far as women being attracted to scum bag losers, well, I think some women have too much of a nurturing instinct. They want a man that they have to keep doing for. Sick yes, but it happens.

Answer 9

NO Way!!! It's a very selfish attitude to feel your entitled to your sisters husband and then dismiss the wrong done by simply saying 'everyone does it'. Some women are attracted to scumbag losers b/c birds of a feather...but, then some believe they can truly change them into a better person who knows really? But, I'll ask this-Do all men cheat on their wives and leave them and their children for other women? I could choose to convict ALL men of this crime simply b/c my husband just did that to me. But, I'm not going to do that. I suggest you talk to your wife about this and see if you can get her heartfelt answer not the one she gives to dodge the subject.

Answer 10

Yes this is a very wrong thing to do.And i think a person that will do that will do anything.And if my sister ever done this to me.I would love her still. But feed her out of a long handle and spoon.Iwould not want to have anything to do with her all that much. These kind of people have no heart.