2006-06-19 16:19:15 · 26 answers · asked by half insane 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can forget them but never forget its considered a lesson learned
2006-06-19 16:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by deviousandsweet 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes you sure should especially if they have asked you to. Would you want them to forgive you for your imperfections and if you hurt them? Put yourself in their shoes. How many times have they cheated and are they still doing it? If not then seek counseling and help and try to forgive them and move on with your life with out without them. I have learned that forgiveness is a necessary tool in healing and getting past things and letting go of the pain. It feels so good to be able to do this. It is a release and you dont feel so bitter and angry any more. I look at it this way. You can choose to forgive and be an overcomer or you can choose to be bitter and unforgiving and be a victim to the pain for the rest of your life. It is a choice and i choose to forgive!
2006-06-19 16:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never forgive something like that. I think cheating is a huge violation of trust. If you did forgive him and get back together every time he is got you are going to wonder what he is doing, and who is he with. I would give forgive it. The saying is true once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-06-19 16:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by cboyce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves forgiveness, I don't care what it is they have done. You have to work through it though. You have to deal with the pain it caused you before you can forgive. But forgiveness is something that makes a person exceptional. For those of us who forgive others, we are in turn forgiven for our misgivings. Not everyone is perfect. We ALL make mistakes, no matter how big or how small. It's usually the cheater that can never forgive themselves. So no matter what you decide, they can forget it or forgive themselves.
2006-06-19 16:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always good to forgive...but never forget what was done. Being angry or upset about someone else's stupidity is draining and not worth it. Give the forgiveness and lead them to the door because no one deserves to be cheated on.
2006-06-19 16:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kookala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!! I wouldn't forgive him, you know the saying, once a cheater.........always a cheater! Why waste your time on someone that doesn't really care about you, when you could be out there trying to find someone that would treat you like you should have been treated in the beginning, it's just common sense.
2006-06-19 16:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jewelz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never 'forgiven' but i enabled many of my soon-to-be ex-husband's affairs by "looking the other way" and choosing to ignore the obvious. After all, he was a good provider, money wise. It's tough to wake up at 39 and realize how someone i'm supposed to love for forever-n-ever-amen would allow his 'female friend' to twist the knife they'd been stabbin me in my back with even deeper. SHE fell into my life the day our 17 y.o son was killed. I knew he'd been "helping" her with her incarcerated husband's DUMP TRAILOR business, but WE'd been providing her and her 17 yr old son a place to live, i s'poze she traded it all out (over $30k in 1.5 yrs.) She acted like my friend. And HE allowed her to continue until i finally woke up 2 years after 06.08.02 and had her evicted. She's moved on now, he's got a new gf. He moved out 06.03.06. Less xanax now. NEVER Forgive, NEVER forget.
2006-06-20 06:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to and are sure the cheater won't do it again. Personally, I have been going through this and I couldn't forgive him. NO way. I believe once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-06-19 16:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Bliss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See LadyHewitt's answer as it is spot on. Seek individual counseling for each of you. Then couples counseling after you both have issues worked out.
I am currently going through this with my ex-fiance. If you love them, then give them a shot. Everyone makes mistakes.
Biblical counseling is working wonders for us right now. God will show you the way. He will not turn his back on you in a time of need.
One step, and one day at a time. Do not worry about tomorrow and take things as they come.
2006-06-19 16:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not telling you to forgive but if ever you expected to be forgiven you must forgive people regardless of what was done to you
2006-06-19 16:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time can be considered a mistake but make sure when you forgive you don't keep throwing it up in their face.
2006-06-19 16:26:43 · answer #11 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋