My husband and I planned a trip back east to attend a surprise birthday for my cousin. We visited back there last year and my husband and her husband got a long great. As I was making plans my husband said "Why just the weekend, lets make it the whole week". I was thrilled that he wanted to go and make more of a vacation with it. I got plane tickets, got a rental car and even booked a hotel for one night in New York City. I think he was trying to make up for missing HAWAII because of his coaching. My husband coaches little league - we have no kids playing, but it is something he loves doing. It fills a void for him not seeing his own his kids. Then something that we never expected happened - he was asked to coach the Allstar team and he was thrilled and I am very proud of him, but it conflicts with our trip. We were going to compromise-go for the party. Well the first game is the same as the party, so he wont go at all. Now 2 trips gone due to baseball. What do you think of his choice?
2006-06-19 08:00:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although I am a little bummed that this trip had to be changed around, having my husband asked to be an All Star Coach couldn't have made me more proud of him. He is a great guy and all the kids love him and respect him and he knows exactly how to talk to them at their level. The only thing that's a bummer now is, that I will miss his first 2 games as I do need to go to my cousins party, but I will be rooting him on in spirit and heart. I always felt this way, after the intial shock, but some people I know, said he should turn it down. Well, if they knew how important it was to him, they would stand by him just as I do. Thanks for giving me your input.
2006-06-19 11:35:44 · update #1
Yes, by all means he should accept the honor and you should go to the party! A good marriage is giving and taking. I applaud you for the support you have given your husband. (He definitely owes you one). There will be other parties, but maybe not another Allstar Coaching opportunity. I'd do exactly what you are doing...regretfully, go to the party and hurry home as soon as you can to celebrate with your hubby the honor of coaching the Allstar team. He will love you for it. You are a great lady with a big heart! Next year, why don't you plan a trip that is not during the coaching season.
2006-07-03 20:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LADY YOU'RE WAY TO GOOD AND NICE TO YOUR HUSBAND! I THINK IT'S GREAT THE OPPORTUNITY OFFERED TO HIM, IT'S AWESOME. AND YOU SHOULD BE PROUD AND IT'S A BIG, BIG DEAL IT IS.
BUT YOU'RE WAY MORE IMPORTANT THAN BASEBALL LADY. I UNDERSTAND YOU'RE WILLING TO COMPROMISE. I ADMIRE YOU FOR THAT. OKAY THIS IS THE SECOND TRIP CANCELLED. BUT I TELL YOU, YOU HAD BETTER MAKE THAT MAN MAKE THIS UP TO YOU.
HE SHOULDN'T GET TO PUT YOU OFF, JUST CUZ BASEBALL CAME UP! I DON'T GIVE A DAMN WHAT THE HELL HE'S OFFERED! IT DOESN'T MATTER. HE NEEDS TO TAKE CARE OF YOU TOO!!!!!!!!! A WOMAN HAS NEEDS AND ONE OF THOSE NEEDS IS HER HUSBANDS DAMN ATTENTION! HE'S GETTING AWAY WITH A LOT JUST CUZ IT'S SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT TO HIM.
OKAY, IT'S HARD, BUT YOU SHOULD ALWAYS BE THE NUMBER ONE CHOICE! HE SHOULD SAY BABY I WAS OFFERED THIS AND IT'S A GREAT OPPORTUNITY, I'M GONNA HAVE TO SAY NO. THIS WOULD BE THE SECOND TIME I LEFT YOU HANGING. AND I LOVE YOU TOO MUCH TO DO THAT. IT'S NOT RIGHT. I'M GONNA TURN THE OFFER DOWN.
AND OF COURSE YOU BEING THE GOOD WOMAN YOU ARE, YOU WOULD SAY, OH SWEETIE NEVER! I'D NEVER AS THAT OF YOU. TELL YOU WHAT YOU OWE ME A MINI VACATION OKAY. SOON, WE'LL GO SOMEWHERE JUST THE TWO OF USE. AND I'LL LET YOU MAKE IT UP TO ME! HOUSE THAT!?
THEN HE SHOULD BE ESTATIC AND ALL LOVEY DOVEY! I DON'T HEAR THAT. DON'T SETTLE FOR BEING SECOND BEST SWEETIE. YOU SHOULD BE NUMBER ONE. YOU'RE WORTH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEVER FORGET THAT. NEVER!
2006-07-03 21:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I happen to be a coach for both of my daughters little league teams and a coach for one of my daughters All Star Team so I can understand where your husband is coming from(my brother does the same thing,he's kids been out of LL for 10 yrs) and I tip my hat to his dedication to the little league kids he coaches and you have every right to be proud of him.But I think he should graciously decline the invite especially since your kids are not playing a go and enjoy your trip.Best of luck and I hope you'll enjoy your trip!
2006-06-19 15:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by mrhappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wahootexan, why is his life more important than hers and why should she cancel plans they made together and he committed to? I do not think you are wrong to continue with your plans without him. Yes, married people should stand by each other and support one another - BOTH husband and wife, but you do not have to do EVERYTHING together - Honey, wipe my but for me. Sorry, guess that is just my resentment at usually being put 2nd. Seriously though I know many head coaches who could not make a game and the assistant coach handled everything just fine. What it comes down to is it is not what we think of his choice, but what you FEEL about his choice. You can talk to him about your feelings, but be careful he doesn't feel coerced into going with you and then resentful. I applaud your supporting him and your pride in him though.
2006-07-02 00:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's great you back your husband like that. It seems to me he is an awesome guy. If you can reschedule your trip and just miss 1 game instead of 2. That's compromising. Whatever you decide, I'm sure he will be happy.
2006-07-04 00:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by jonl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It reminds me of a story about country singer George Strait. He was asked to host a show in California. He declined the offer and told the people no he will not host this show, he made plans with his wife and he will not break those plans. Even though he is famous and money was involved with him hosting this show, he didn't loose focus of his top priority and he went on that trip with his wife. What this world needs is more men like him.
2006-06-19 15:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Passing up All stars is tough... How awesome that he coaches with no kids playing.. he must be well respected. keep in mind you probably have a three game minimum. If you win you keep going. If not its over relativly quik...
I have just made the exact same descision. I am coaching..... See you in Williamsport..
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2006-06-24 10:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by Desert Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a coach of Girls softball so I am a bit biased. I think you are a terrific wife to be so supportive. You know the answer allready because his priority is coaching. You go ahead and go to the party and let him stay and coach. You both will be happy.
2006-07-03 18:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by Christyne N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since I've got an 11 yr old that is broken hearted he wasn't chosen for All*Stars...I fully understand your predicament. I think he should go to the party, miss ONE game and then that will be fine. On the other hand, you could go for the week and enjoy yourself.
So good luck!
2006-07-03 17:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as long as you are down with him like "4 flat tires" then all will be well. You sound like a true DIVA who wants what's best for her marriage/husband. How very unselfish of you and how God smiles down on women like you who are supportive, and loving, and not just thinking about how this will benefit you. I think as long as you're o.k. with his decision, then what others think shouldn't matter. Be happy, prosperous, and continue to place God first in your life, and ask for his direction and guidance in this matter....Best wishes...
2006-07-04 01:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋