I broke up with my patner. It was a 5-year relationship
2006-06-19 09:09:45 · 11 answers · asked by silenthillvictim22121xy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's natural to feel lonely after getting out of a long term relationship. Use your family and friends as a support system - make sure you tell them how you're feeling. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, get involved with new hobbies. It's just important you aren't sitting at home sulking and being lonely - get out and do things.
2006-06-19 09:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the first thing you need to do is figure out what makes it that way, why you want to be lonely, and fix it. It may not be that easy, but that's it in a nutshell. You said you had an abusive father, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't be happy. And it's not true that no one can understand you or love you, there's a person out there for everybody. Take a chance, and maybe start with a friend you can trust. Open up. You said some of your friends know about your past. Really talk to them and try to figure out why you want to be apart from everybody. They'll understand. Cutting yourself off from people is going to make you miserable. It may feel like you want to be lonely, or that you don't deserve anything better. But it's not true. You may be punishing yourself for your father's actions, or maybe trying to make yourself feel more legitimate or real by causing yourself pain. Put yourself out there, and actually make an effort, even if you don't feel like it. You will be WAY better off for it. My mother was abusive, and my father was reclusive, I was neglected. So I didn't think I deserved love. I didn't think I would ever be loved. But now I know better. My fiance and her family proved to me that I'm worth something, a lot actually, even with my crappy past. So it may be hard to open up. but people are better than you think. And you may think you don't deserve it, but you're better than you think, too.
2016-03-26 21:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up? I am there with you. My love is a long way away and its just a hurt no one can describe unless you have been there. Try to get your mind off of it and stay busy.The hardest is at night and when you are alone. Do you have a good friend you can talk to? It helps to talk.
2006-06-19 09:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by T B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let yourself heal.......let yourself grieve......and then let yourself loose! Do things you didn't do with your partner - bike rides, flying a kite, reading brain popcorn novels, eating food you shouldn't have, taking a trip, buying clothes you wouldn't have worn before, ...yes, get a dog......take him on walks....go to a new bookstore, drink coffee at a sidewalk cafe......go out and DO! Begin to make yourself happy by yourself - this will attract other happy people and your life will slowly get better.
I promise.
2006-06-19 09:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy...that is the best advice, and find all your friends..fill up your schedule with things that you always wanted to do but couldn't as a pair. I promise that time will lessen this pain.
2006-06-19 10:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by sylvergyrlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do fun things and go out and have fun. Heal from the pain and then over time try to start dating slowly again.
2006-06-19 09:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww that sucks im sorry..but try to get out and so stuff like that hobby u always wanted to have but never had time for or volunteer somewhere and help people, go out with ur friends, family, etc......good luck.
2006-06-19 09:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels themselves when they are lonely! Otherwise, you'd probably be in jail.
2006-06-19 09:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by yosoyfantastico 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get someone new or get a pet!
2006-06-19 09:11:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
partner?
2006-06-20 02:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋