Is it more important to marry someone who loves you or someone who is responsible and intelligent?

Answer 1

both are important....these are all things that should be met!

Answer 2

It's not an "either-or" proposition: people need several qualities for a marriage to last a lifetime.

Someone who loves you, is charming and fun to be with but won't take the responsibility for keeping a job or doing chores, etc. is going to make your life miserable. If someone loves you, there's a responsibility that goes with it! You can't live on romance and love alone: it's not going to get you through without action (responsibility): you have to be able to set goals together as a couple, be able to communicate when the sh*t hits the fan in your life--and it does, that's just life.

You need someone who is *emotionally* intelligent. A high IQ person can be a total jerk emotionally.

Answer 3

let me tell u a story of a girl who married for love. I am a mother of three children. The fathers were all less intelligent and not responsible.Then I found my self divorced from the first one because he couldn't keep his pants zipped, then the second one was the same way, but durring both marriages I had to be the one to make all the decisions and the only one that could hold down a job. You just think about that. Love can turn around very fast when you think thats the only thing that matters.

Answer 4

I think love is VERY important, with love comes responsibility and intelligence. If someone loves unconditionally you they will always be there to help in anyway... there for you have responsibility and intelligence. When you love someone they will do anything for you. Love is a very strong bond that you can't break if the person truly loves you, there are few marriages like that today. Love is important . If you haven't got love, then you haven't got anything.

Answer 5

It's important to marry someone who loves you, is responsible and intelligent. A responsible and intelligent person that loves you will understand this.

Answer 6

I think for love. I'm married now and even though it gets irritating that my husband isn't responsible, I wouldn't change being married to him. Our love is bigger then that. If you don't have love, then your missing out. Love is a wonderful thing. I think I'm the more responsible one in the relationship and he is more intelligent. I guess if you have some characteristics that your husband doesn't and your husband has the ones that you don't then the marriage still works. Definitely for love. You guys can compliment each other for the missing parts.

Answer 7

You should marry for love, I married for friendship and it didn't work out. As for being responsible or intelligent, responsibility should be part of that relationship but I've seen relationships destroyed because one of the persons weren't responsible. As for intelligence, thats genetics and we were all born with some intelligence depends on how you use them will determine if they are smart enough for you. So my opinion you should only marry for love and without it you are not complete without it.

Answer 8

First of all, don't get yourself in the position where you have to make such a choice. Second of all.....love doesn't conquer all.
You definatly need LOVE.......but if it is at the expense of someone not responsible or who does stupid things, then you are setting your relationship up for troubles. Also intelligence is a subjective thing. A guy who isn't college professional material, but can be responsible and smart enough to surrive in this world then no need to worry. There are degrees of intelligence .

Answer 9

All three are important. You would want a person to love you, because love is the motivator to enable the person to be responsible, such as work and provide for you. Intelligence is what is needed to keep the relationship alive. A dummy can't and will not be able to mentally stimulate you.

Answer 10

I would say go for someone that loves you, is responsible and intelligent as well. would you marry someone that loves you but has no sense of responsibility? or has very low intelligent quotient? or would you rather marry someone with high intelligence and high sense of responsibility and treats you light s***. i would say go for the three qualities. marriage is a life contract and not just a dating game.

Answer 11

You should marry someone who loves you and you love them back. If you love each other the way you should, it will drive you to be responsible, (I don't know about intelligent :)