I'm just trying to get a feeling similar to one when you first meet. I know you can never get the same butterflies but how do i get my husband to renew his interest in me?
2006-06-19 07:45:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
agree to meet somewhere....like a bar or restauraunt in a hotel. Just casualy 'run' into each other like you have never met before! Start talking....and let one thing lead to another...right upstairs to a room!
2006-06-19 07:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by whoanelly00 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's something that I always thought would be great to do to renew a connection between long married folks: have a 'WE' day...a day where nothing else intrudes in your life, just you and your mate talking and relating. No tv, music if you both are into it but make it recorded music, not radio, as the breaks for commercials and news might distract you. Without going into detail, an interesting variation on this is naked 'WE' day. Use your imagination, anyway and I'll just bet that you will both enjoy it and it could end up giving you a new perspective on each other. I think this is a good way to remember the way you were when you first met; talking for hours about nothing in particular, goofing around like kids. Those things stick in my mind and I'd like to do it again, if only for a day. I've been married for 32 years and it's still fun to get that innocence back for a while. Good luck!
2006-06-19 08:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This my dear is a very simple question with a very simple answer. We had the same problem and I actually did . My wife simply came home one night and we had the most incredible sex ever, and the next night, and the next morning, and so on and so on. Anyway, the sex was the gateway to what is now a wonderful marriage and I am more in love with my wife than ever before, even before we first met. You see, we were missing a connection, once we had the sex, it opened up into giving hugs, sitting together watching TV, holding hands wile we are driving down the road, a simple touch for no reason, holding hands while we are going to sleep, that kind of stuff. It made me appreciate her more than ever, and now I just love to show it to her. Yes it is not quite like the first time we met, actually it is better, much better. If you would like to chat with me on this a little more, hit me up at andy2funny@yahoo.com I would love to share what has happened with me and my wife of 12 years. To let you know all of this happened within the last 2 months, and I am so happy it did.
Hope to talk with you. Good Luck
2006-06-19 08:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I enjoy role playing! You can pretend that you are different people (example: He's a college professor and you are an eager -to- learn student) and set up scenarios to play out. It's really a lot of fun and exciting if you really get into it. You can also go out together, like to a bar and pretend that he is picking you up and you've never met before. It's kinda hard at first to really treat each other like strangers, but belive me if you try you will be hooked! and it spares you all the bad emotions associated with actually going out and finding new people for the 2 of you to be interested in. And a little victorias secret outfit would definelty help once you go back to "his place" after the bar!
2006-06-19 08:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Moki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are always the tired old saws that you find on every grocery store checkout magazine: go on a date together, take up a new activity together, think of the things that made you attracted to him in the first place...
I think the best way to add zest and zing to any relationship is to work on yourself. What would make you feel better? Not for him or your kids if you have any, just you. What makes you feel sexy, interesting, utterly fabulous? If you want someone to find you interesting, be interesting to be around. Expand your world somehow, whether it is reading about a new subject, taking up your own new thing, whatever pleases you. I have found men love nothing more than a woman who loves herself...
2006-06-19 07:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by StudentoftheHumanCondition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear new perfume, go get a facial done at a spa.. if you both can get the day off from work just spend the day together, doing things that you like to do together, etc. Then in the evening do the romantic scene with the candles and the dinner for 2, etc. At night.. well, you can guess where I'm going from there.
2006-06-19 07:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by knifelvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend!
Meet him at a bar and pretend that you don't know each other, have a few drinks. Flirt with him, men like role play!
Then after a few drinks, take to a motel or if money is an issue. To the back seat of a car and take control.
It worked for me and we have an excellent married / sex life.
2006-06-19 07:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by misscanada_y2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, once you are w/ someone for so long, you just sort of get into this comfort zone. it's like, you don't feel like you have to do something anymore to impress them. its like, you don't have to do things for them to let them know you care. i dont think men really understand the concept that women want to be reminded that they are cared about more often. i mean, it doesnt have to be anything big. jsut something sweet, a little here and there so that she can be special again. ANYWHO, answer this question for me: when you love someone, when should you stop trying? the answer is NEVER. so, even though he doesn't do anything anymore. maybe you should...don't give up ever one the one you love. never stop trying to show them how much you care...ever..you never know when its going to be your last chance.
2006-06-19 07:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Amy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spice it up and try new and fun things in your marriage in and out of bed. Dress sexy and nice for your husband. Get a new hairdo! Become his dream queen. Ask him how he wants you to dress for him. Do things with him that he likes to do. Go out on dates with him here and there. Have fun and be yourself! Hold hands and talk and if you have kids take em to a sitters for the night and just have fun with your husband!
2006-06-19 08:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not have to try swinging it is not for everyone. I would think the two of you should fantasize about sexual experiences meet someone for a drink act as thought you are stargers pick him up and go to a motel and have great sex experimenting with things that you have nevr done before.
2006-06-19 08:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by usmchawkeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋