Family - December 2007

i got accepted to FIT in Manhattan!!! i even got a loan of 20 grand, i passed the high school equivalency exam [meaning i get my diploma] and im all set---and it's only DECEMBER. more than half of the seniors aren't even applying to colleges yet. The thought of being on my own it great, but nerve-racking. I'm going to be away from home...which is like 10 miles from NYC, but it isn't the same being with my family. Im nervous right now....please give me advice how I can work out to be on my own. I hate asking my dad for help--the old ignorant bastard. I want to do things on my own.

2007-12-16 12:14:37 · 4 answers · asked by Evaの 6

so theres this problem. my sister who is 11 got in trouble (im not going into the details). and when ever i find that she did something again (that has to do with the thing that she did in the first place) i tell my mom and i get proof and everything. and my mom always tells me she wants to know if anyhting happens but then when i tell her everything gets bad again. my sister tries to say i'm lying when i have proof and then everyone is mad at me even though they kno she really did it. she has a problem with lying and my parnts kno that and shes seeing a counsler. but evr since the day this happened everything has been bad at home. my parents fight over everything my mom is really depressed over all thats been happening. my dad is always mad and hes yelling at everyone. my sister says she hates everyone and she wants to switch families. but she is having a rough time at school. the kids are bullying her and she hates school. how can i comfort them andmakemysisfeellikeshecanloveme

2007-12-16 12:11:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous 2

I am the non-custodial parent with 3 minor children living far away. Because of the high cost of travel and overnight accomodations for four as well as an excessive child support arrangement where I must send away over 90% of my disposable income for their support, I've not been able to see my children in person in 3 years although I do webcam with them weekly.

I have full rights of overnight unsupervised visitation on alternating weekends, holidays and for several weeks in the summer -- standard arrangement. But my sister has no children of her own as she chose to pursue her career instead. Now that she is too old to have children, she gloms onto mine which I haven't minded, as long as it is not to the sacrifice of my visitation.

Well this was the 3rd year in a row that she conspired with my Ex-wife to deny me visitation when they came from across the country to within a few hundred miles to my state. (continued below)

2007-12-16 12:08:30 · 7 answers · asked by John S. 5

2007-12-16 12:04:14 · 3 answers · asked by rayray 1

My family hates me and I hate my family. I've tried and tried to stay positive but I can't anymore. My Father is abusive and my Mother told me she hates him but she won't divorce w/ him and she always takes his side. I honestly think she doesn't divorce cause my dad has all the $$$. My brother is okay but sometimes he just annoys me. My sister is so sensitive. If you just say something like "you're short" to her, she gets all mad and starts crying. Sometimes I think never being born is better than this but I don't want to think like that. I know some other families out there have much bigger problems than mine. I wish I could love my family and I wish I could say sorry for all the things I've done but I know they won't forgive me. I've caused trouble too many times. All I'm asking is how do I let them know that I truly am sorry and want to stop fighting?

2007-12-16 12:01:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I moved out to Las Vegas with my sister in August and am not doing as well as she is. I work a very crappy job and have tried looking for others to no avail. When we moved out here she knew that I would be vulnerable. I quit the job I had in Chicago and was put through hell for it. I spent all of my life savings to move out here. When she comes home from work she does nothing but sleep and on the weekends she spends all of her time with her new boyfriend so I pretty much spend all of my time alone. I am NOT expecting her to give up her social life but she is not here for me in my hour of need. She does things without thinking how it is going to affect others around her. I don't mean to be selfish but I am really struggling right now and she isn't here for me. I got a phone call today from my brother asking me to come home. On the one hand if I go home I won't be lonely. On the other hand if I do go home then I will feel like a failure. I don't know what to do.

2007-12-16 11:51:41 · 2 answers · asked by r2sue2 3

My brother always asks me for money. He always says he will pay me back but never does. He asks for money all the time for different reasons. Whenever I have pointed out that he has a good paying job and still lives in our parents home rent free (I have an apartment of my own) that he should have enough money to cover his own expenses. (He only is responsible for his car payment, the insurance and gas for the car as well as his cell phone bill.) His response is that he did not get a very big paycheck and did not have enough to meet all his expenses, yet he always seems to have money to go out with friends to bars, movies and out to eat with them. Anytime he ever goes out to dinner with the family we always have to cover his tab because he never has any money to pay his share. He asked me again today for money to put gas in his car. He knew I just got paid so I couldn't say I didn't have money. How can I tell him that I can no longer spot him money all the time & get him to pay me back?

2007-12-16 11:48:08 · 9 answers · asked by SoAZ Gal 6

2007-12-16 11:47:30 · 4 answers · asked by kenzie c 1

ok well i think this guy may like me. i have 3 classes with him. i catch him listening to my convesations sometimes, playing attention to what i wear (he commented that we both have a pink floyd shirt), and i catch him staring at me sometimes. also when my friends are mean to me and i go over to hang out with him i ask him if im bugging him and he quickly says no.

i like him alot but something happened over the weekend.
my mother rear ended his sister yesterday (my mom was only going like 2 mph and she was stopped so it wasnt huge at all and no one was hurt) and he was in the car and it was kinda awkward/embarrassing because he kept staring at me the whole time and kept grinning.
do u think he likes me?
do u think he'll make a huge deal on monday about what happened?

thanks so much for the advice!!! so sorry if this is confusing!!

2007-12-16 11:42:04 · 2 answers · asked by nycLAgirl604 2

im 14, girl, & im scared.
my parents always get split up , because my dads pretty much an alcoholic, the last time they broke up, my dad made us leave, & we stayed at my grandmothers, & i told my mom i didnt want anything to do with him anymore, because he hurt my mom before, and i never really talked to him since then ( it was in the summer ) . but tonight my dad was drinking all day, & he came home, flipping outt at my mom, for some stupid reason & he wanted her to leave, but she was like no, the last time we broke up you said you were going to change , and if i came back & we split up again, that my dad was the one leaving. but he still said she had to leave. but we have like no wheres to go, i know its bad to say, but i really dont like my dad. & i want them to get divorced, but my mom always falls for it when he says he's going to change, but he never does.
what can i do ? . i wanna stay in my house with my mom, brother & sister.. but i want him out of the picture. :(

2007-12-16 11:35:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think my parents would get mad if they saw me masturbating?? help??!!

2007-12-16 11:26:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-16 11:24:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Life sucks for me cause My dad died yester day My boy friend broke with me and my brother is in iraq. Does anyone one have any tips on how to get going again?

2007-12-16 11:18:10 · 6 answers · asked by kuoityiam 1

I'm really close with my cousin. She really wants some of those Ugg Boots and I was thinking of getting them for her, but if I do, that would be more than any other gift I'm getting for my brother and sisters, and even my parents. Do you think they would get mad...or maybe upset or something knowing that I spent more on my cousin than anyone else?

2007-12-16 11:04:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I make very good grades in school but they dont seem to care. Last week i showed them my report card and i got all A's and one B and they said they are proud but thats it and they didnt really look proud. im sure they were just saying that

i dont know what to do to make my parents happy?!

2007-12-16 11:04:03 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am college student living at home. My sister has physical abused me my whole life. I know that is has mental issues, but she is like a switch she can go from perfectly fine to crazy in a minute. For 19 years i have been her punching bag. She tends to act out when no one is around. When i was little i would to cry to my parents for them not to go out and leave me with my sister. My sister has pinned me up against walls, threating me with knifes. My grandmother once had to ripe away a knife from her hand that she had up against my thoart. I have been kicked down the stairs so many times i lost count. It took my mother to finally see what she is when she saw it first hand and my mothers broke her leg. This was the first fight after 19 years that i fought bak but it only made her want to attack harder. My parents have let her bak into the the house....should i attempt for a restaining order? i fear that only a matter of time before she attacks me again

2007-12-16 10:56:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi I am 16. My grandfather (he is my guardian) let my 20 year old cousin stay with us. It has been so hard living with her (she does drugs, she steals, sheÕs rude, violent and always wants to fight). I do not know what to do. I have become so depressed over what is happening in this house. He will not tell her to leave. Any creative ideas?

2007-12-16 10:48:04 · 4 answers · asked by Larrieux 1

2007-12-16 10:44:46 · 27 answers · asked by mitchchan 5

I'm 28 years old and was molested as a child. I've never let it go because this man was never put in jail and I always felt like he could still be doing this to another child. I remember he was in the army I remember his first name his sons name and his daughters name. A few days ago I had brought the topic up to my husband and had a melt-down. My mother was up-stairs staying the night at my house and she heard me crying. All I needed was this mans last name to start searching and my mother told my sister his last name. Well I found him and I'm gonna take him down!!!!!!

2007-12-16 10:30:22 · 8 answers · asked by missing_nyc 1

He like family guy,sports,any thing

2007-12-16 10:27:13 · 2 answers · asked by Mike 2

they always say i cant do anything right and i have made alot of mistakes in my life. how can i turn my life around and show them up?
i have nothing now so how do i change that?

2007-12-16 10:25:30 · 4 answers · asked by amanda 1

my daughter stephanie at 14 whats me to sit in the bathroom with her when she is geting a bath ,cos i do that for her little bro and sister ,so she wants me to sit in with her so we can talk ,when i do go in i always take a book in with me ,but her gran thinks she is to old for that but stephanie wants me to go in ,what do i do

2007-12-16 10:24:59 · 20 answers · asked by suzywong 4

I am one of seven children and when we were kids we were close some closer than others but that is to be expected.

Now many of us live in different sates everyone is all married with kids except the youngest everyone lives on thier own

But my questions are concerning those who have large families is it normal to drift apart and go on with life? What are some things I can do to let my brothers and sisters know that I truly love them and appreciate all they are to me and all they have done for me? Like I said we are all grown and gone on with our lives and I am OK with that I too moved 3000 miles away from where I used to live 11 months ago.

I am close with a sister who lives by me but what can a person do to obtain the closeness in the family that was once apparent?

Thank you and God bless you:)

2007-12-16 10:11:15 · 9 answers · asked by encourager4God 5

How on earth do I keep everyone happy without going mad. My step-daughter who doesn't now live with us, has a habit of turning up at all hours drunk (she is 15). She appeared last night at midnight and kept us up until 3am. I have two other children to care for - one is only 3 and very active. If I don't get a good nights sleep, I am good for nothing the following day. I have asked my husband on numerous occasions to have a word with his daughter and explain that we love seeing her - just be sober and make it sociable hours (excepting emergencies of course!). He has never done this and always left it up to me and so I end up looking like the nasty one who doesn't want her around. Behind her back, he has said awful things about her and he says he doesn't really care about her and that all his children are money-grabbing s..ts anyway. I might add that she hasn't been to our house for a few months but is quite happy to visit her brother and aunt who live 100 yards from us.

2007-12-16 10:03:03 · 9 answers · asked by AUNTY EM 6

I hate my job with passion it sucks my minds going totally mental from lack of mind usage all i do 5 days a week is walk up and down the car park collectin trolleys for tesco and bringin them back to the front, i work Monday Wednesday Saturday nights 5-10PM and friday 2-6PM and sunday 10:30 AM till 5PM

i get almost no social life i dont get to party and my friends dont really bother goin out on a tuesday and thursday as there at college and have study's but my parents wont let me quit before i get another job but i hate it so much im on the verge of gettin the sack so like yeah help me deicide what to do plz??

thanks..mike x

2007-12-16 09:52:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend is constantly talking about how much he dislikes is 13 year old sister because is has a "smart mouth" he is 21. But is also constantly praising his pastor and his family. If becomes annoying to me to always hear about is pastor. My pastor said: The Davinci Code was an awful movie, He doesnt like tatoos so im not getting one and My pastor doesnt like BET so I'm not watching it! Im trying to find a way to tell him he needs to gather his one opinions on life instead of listening to others. And maybe if he spent more quality brother sister time with her she wouldnt talk to you in that manner. Help please!!

2007-12-16 09:48:56 · 3 answers · asked by bondgyrl004 2

Hello-------i need help-----i am 41 a mother of three beautiful loving children---my own mother treats/speaks/ and acts out non-loving/caring ways --either through language or simply not calling to say hello to myself or her three grandchildren for 5 1/2 years.

When i lived next door to her in the same city for over 30 years-no free time for me----no mother/daughter bonding time.

She literally states that she has absolutely no free time to call or write-------she works and makes time for everyone else but me-. Every excuse in the world has been used .........i don;t believe most of them. Recently i had surgery & told her.........she brushed it off & didn;t ask about me at all.

I don;t know--------should i ignore her unkind words or really ignore her totally & cut off communicating with her althogether for good. I love her & miss mother daughter relationship.

2007-12-16 09:38:21 · 7 answers · asked by anna 2

My sister is emotionally and physically abusive to her children, although it seems to be worse with her 15 year old daughter. From as little as 2 years old, i remember my sister calling her a little ***** among other things when she is frustrated with her. For years my sister let her boyfriend to the same thing to her. . Social services has been called many times by the school, myself, my mother, even my sister's friend. Social services sends the cops over and nothing happens after that.

My niece is now 5 months pregnant, she told me she though if she got pregnant her mom would let her move, only as you can imagine it's only made things worse, now she's a *****, a slut, a whore, someone who only thinks about herself etc. 3 days ago my niece asked her what she was doing, my sister told her to mind her own ******* business and hauled off and smacked her. She only hit her hand, but only because my niece shielded herself. . .I don't know what to do.

2007-12-16 09:36:10 · 2 answers · asked by crazyapril1177 1

2007-12-16 09:16:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do ya think is a good girl name or boy name

2007-12-16 08:46:07 · 13 answers · asked by ♥SpArKLesZ♥ 3