my daughter stephanie at 14 whats me to sit in the bathroom with her when she is geting a bath ,cos i do that for her little bro and sister ,so she wants me to sit in with her so we can talk ,when i do go in i always take a book in with me ,but her gran thinks she is to old for that but stephanie wants me to go in ,what do i do
2007-12-16 10:24:59 · 20 answers · asked by suzywong 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your daughter really needs to talk to you right now, and spend time with you.
You are being given the unique opportunity to 'get to know her' before she grows up, and that will probably be in a year or so when she will confide in her friends and then it will be too late.
You say that even when you go into the bathroom, you take a book, so even there, when she's alone just you and her, your attention is elsewhere,so that space between you isn't working either.
Your daughter may have an issue that she's finding confusing, and is trying to communicate with you. Try having a daughter/mum day regularly, a 'boutique day' , a walk in the park, a movie or McDonalds day, away from all the other members of the family.
It's going to stand you both in 'good stead' for when she's older knowing that she can always 'go to mum' and that you'll be there to listen.
Don't leave it too long.. they grow up so fast, as you know.
My daughters are in their 30's and I miss the days you have now, and wished I was there more for them than I was, due to work commitments and 'no spare time'.
a friend x
2007-12-16 10:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by CARAMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....the fact that your "14" year old daughter actually wants to talk to you is something special in it'sown right. If shouldn't matter where you are when you talk to her.....as long as YOU are the one who she's talking to...I think you are wrong for taking a book with you as this is time for you and her to bond as a mother and daughter. There are many mothers out there who would love for their daughter to acknowledge them let alone want to carry on conversation. The choice is yours but I think you would be cheating yourself out of something that money can't buy an actual relationship with your daughter...
2007-12-16 18:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by cuRiOuS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have a great relationship; how many 14 year olds want to sit & talk with mum? us grans can get some funny ideas sometimes! i'd do what your instincts tell you to do; she's your daughter & it's your relationship. long may the talking last! diane.
2007-12-17 05:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by diquarry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so nice to think she wants to. Do you mean you go in the bath or in the room? If it's just the room, i think it's nice that you are still so close!!
A girl is never too old to have her mum as a best friend!
2007-12-16 18:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by AnneShirley03-03-07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here's a tip do go in sometimes but how bout ask her gran to go and stuff but if u do go in pull the curtain so u can't see her and talk to her but have a book too but when she's getting out u leave ok? plain and simple
2007-12-16 18:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by ~Cynthia~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's OK for a Mom to sit with her daughter in the bathroom. It's private and a good place to talk. It does need to be on your terms, though.
2007-12-16 18:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's def psycological.only not that serious as long as u get in time. we were talking about that in class. i guess u can say she's feeling a little left out. u know like she's not the center of attention anymore. and wants her light back. i suggest u do things with her that shows that she's not a baby anymore, but that she matters. try doing more grown things w/ her like shopping, one on one time with her.
2007-12-16 18:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by cuban cutie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a little weird. really weird actually. most 14 year olds are seriously self conscious. The whole puberty thing. No, I'd say that's not exactly normal.
2007-12-16 18:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Allison R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is way too old for that, it seems a little akward. She should be taking showers mostly ayways not baths. And if she is taking baths she should just do it alone like everyone else does. Little kids have their parents in the bath to watch them so they don't drown and i am pretty sure she isn't going to drown.
2007-12-16 18:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
She is still clutching her childhood and wants to behave like a child.She is loving it. Do not deprive her this pleasure.It is also an Honor to you that she has accepted you as her real mom.If you comply with her request, in a short time she is likely to stop asking you for it.
2007-12-17 07:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋