Life sucks for me cause My dad died yester day My boy friend broke with me and my brother is in iraq. Does anyone one have any tips on how to get going again?
2007-12-16 11:18:10 · 6 answers · asked by kuoityiam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow. You are going through a lot. It is going to take a long time to feel okay. You need to know that this is normal. Find people who are willing to listen and that it is safe to cry if you want to. If you don't have enough support, consider a grief support group.
2007-12-23 04:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been dealt a heavy hand. I am so sorry. I don't know what your age is, but I will assume you are still living with your parents.
My father died on March 1st of this year, so you have my sympathy.
Your brother made his conscoius choice to be in the military, so bless him and pray he comes back safe.
Boys... they are all infants... and all men are 12 years old (if you are lucky). Your BF probably didn't feel up to dealing with all that you are dealing with, and decided the best policy was to not be involved. You don't need someone who is only into you for what he can get out of you... consider it a blessing.
This is the time when your friends will step forward... the ones who don't are too self-absorbed to be of any use, so take mental notes.
Seek help from your school counselor if you feel the need... sometimes professionals like that will have some really good input.
Please focus on supporting your mother in her time of grief... try to be more of a help for her sake.
Suffice it to say that you won't starve. Your mom will probably get an insurance check so she can continue running the household. You will be able to finish school. Life will go on.
Move on to grow up the be the kind of adult your dad would be proud of.
2007-12-16 19:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know u have a lot more going on but my fiancee is in iraq for a 15 mos deployment only 2 mos in so i have kind of an idea on hard days. The best thing to do is keep close to the family u do have and close friends. If not then even do little things like buy a good book to escape into or watch movies or join a club... anything to keep urself busy bc ive learned moments u give ur mind time to wander is when it gets bad... email me if u ever need a friend
2007-12-16 19:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is like a roller coaster, friend. It has its up and down, and the ultimate thing is, are you going to be able to get a hold of yourself when your roller coaster is down as well as when it's too high up? I mean talk about problem, everybody has problem, the thing is how are you goning to deal with it? This is what I'd do. I'd be happy that your father has peacefully release the tiresome load of life and move on to the next life. I'd be happy for your boyfriend that he's moved on to find someone else he finds more interesting, I'd be happy for myself that I wouldn't have to deal with him any longer. And lastly, I'd be happy that your brother is fighting for this country. Best of lucks
2007-12-16 19:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i am really sorry about your father. Hang out with friends more, go to parties and have GNO's ( girls night out)
2007-12-16 19:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anabell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm so sorry. Just start venting to anybody you know. CRY CRY CRY CRY CRY. It always helps
2007-12-16 19:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋