Family - July 2007

My sister-in-law is under the impression that she is the same sizes as me (which she very much is not) She often borrows my clothes, and when I get them back they are very stretched out or even missing buttons! How can I handle this without hurting her feelings?

2007-07-23 06:12:41 · 27 answers · asked by Kini 3

I am just sick and don't know what to do. My daughter lately has had sores on her face that she swears is just from "picking the zits" on her face. But these are not the angry red spots from that--these are downright SORES. So I looked it up on the internet and oh dayumnit. I am so sick now with fear and worry and even anger that i could be so easily duped. What do I do? How do I get help for her and for me to deal with it realistically and helpfully (for us both)? Are there some websites you can list or maybe some personal stories of how you dealt effectively or ineffectively with this? Please help me.

2007-07-23 06:05:22 · 11 answers · asked by persaunna 2

my mother has just been home a week from a month stay in the hospital for a heart attack. She is also diabetic, kidney failure and lung disease. She is unalbe to have any surgery due to her condition. So, basilcally she is home to wait and see what happens next. In the meantime she cannot walk and needs help with cooking, laundry and taking a shower and help with going potty in her commode. My father forgets to sometimes give her her insulin and meds get mixed up if me and my daughter do not check daily. My father is to old and forgetful to take care of her on a fulltime basis. My question is my daughter is six months pregnet and not working and I work fulltime and my vacation and sick leave is used up due to taking it off when she was in the hospital. I cannot afford to take off any more work but I heard the state can help with wages and I just wondered if I could split the care of my mother with my daughter and get some help? Does anyone know how to go about it for us?

2007-07-23 06:00:02 · 5 answers · asked by shawnie 3

Any suggestions on what should could do? She has been an ebayer' for the past 10 years, but the market is very slow. My parents really do not need the money, but mom is bored and is looking for something to do. Any thoughtful suggestions would be greatly appreciated. She only has a high school education, but is very intelligent and I just want the best for her (her 25 year old son talkin).

2007-07-23 05:57:41 · 3 answers · asked by justintime 2

Why do so many adult children live at home and let mamma take care of them?

2007-07-23 05:52:57 · 5 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6

my mum keeps bugging me to go to the cinema with her, my mum and dad are divorced since like 10 years and i stayed at dads for a few weeks and she keeps bugging me to go to the cinema in a few days, i am 16 and dont want to hahaha
what can i say

2007-07-23 05:46:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anon 1

My adult daughter and I have had a huge blow-up. To tell you the truth, I don't even know what caused it. Something about my computer not working right. She has always been very judgemental of me and can't handle the fact that I am not perfect, which I've admitted to her time and again. And neither is she! She criticizes everything I do. I have two other adult children and they can't believe that she is the way she is with me. It's been like this for quite awhile. I have apologized to her for whatever she thinks I have done wrong in my life. I have apologized for not being perfect. I believe I was a very good mother and did well for my kids, but it wasn't good enough for her. She blames me for everything that is wrong in her life, but then will say that her life is perfect. Everytime, we have one of these blow ups, I'm the one that will reach out to her and tell her that I love her unconditionally. I am so hurt, that I can't find the words this time.

2007-07-23 05:36:14 · 9 answers · asked by Funny Girl 4

Ok say you play in the band and you play trumpet and you let some on play it and thay have herpes and you boil it bleach it desantize it nad put germ stuff on can you still get it or will you not have to worry

2007-07-23 05:19:14 · 3 answers · asked by in luv with austin 3

am of Indian origin, born in the US. Hubby came here for M.S. In-laws has visited us 3 months every 6 months past 2 yrs, and now might move in. I have a ? abt life with Indian in-laws? Are these normal?
1. All at dinner or watching TV. someone needs water o r phone rings - I have to go get it.
2. New Years Prty: I'm not supposed to sip wine. I said fine if hubby also forgoes it. MIL said dont' wear shorts in summer. I said fine, if hubby also wears only jeans. all shocked.
3. shopping for new car, house: they come along. ALWAYS. I can't speak freely to hubby. Have to save it for later.
4. TV: only their channels are watched.
5. Phone: I'm on phone, call-wtng, not urgent. but i have to hang up.
6. all back from 5 day trip. I have to immed. "take care" of all - coffee etc. I'm not "tired".
7. We cannot sit on same sofa. I get a call (friend has cancer or great job, hubby cannot give me a quick hug. High 5 is OK, gasp)

2007-07-23 04:58:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay. So here's the story. I was sitting in my living room when my father walked in. Usually he sits down on the living room sofa, but today he did something different. Instead of sitting down on the sofa, he walked into the center of the living room. I tilted my head in confusion as I watched him sit down in the middle of the room. I was about to ask him why he did so, when suddenly he curled up into a hurdled ball, and fell asleep. What should I do?

2007-07-23 04:57:31 · 7 answers · asked by /b/ 1

I need serious answers only. I dont know if this is normal or if i need help!

My son is 3 and his dad was in is life for the first 6 months and then went off with his girlfriend and was rarely in touch with my son. However now he has decided to return and has got his new girlfriend pregnant. He always acted violent towards me infront of my son also.

The thing is I can't stand my son being out of sight! Even when i go to work or uni. I only ever leave with my son with my mum cos she's the only person i trust. I worry my friends will use my son 'to show off' and act as if my son is theirs!

Now his dad wants him & even though i'm apprehensive because of his violence, i also don't want him trying to make any other female to 'play mummy' to my son. I dicussed this with him years ago & he still put my son into his, then girlfriends arms when my son was 2 weeks old! I cried myself to sleep for weeks because of that!

Do i need help or is what im feeling normal?

2007-07-23 04:48:20 · 35 answers · asked by Ella 1

I've lived with my fiance for over a year. He was in the military in another state and so I lived with him on breaks and summers, and with my parents during the school year. My fiance is now out of the military and moving to the state where my parents live.

We have decided to wait until I finish college before getting married, but I don't see why we can't live together when I return to my home state. My parents approved of us living together before.

My parents have said that they will stop paying for my education and will take me off of their health insurance (I have diabetes) if I move out. Though I respect their opinions, I do not agree with their "conditional love" approach to parenting.

It's not the first time they have held my health over my head. I am an non-drug-using, straight-A college student who is tired of being controlled by my parents. They're only thinking of how this will make them "look." If I do live at home they will call me a "freeloader". HELP!?!?!

2007-07-23 04:46:29 · 6 answers · asked by elnorunner 1

he says it's too much of a hassle.....so i get no adult time when my step-son visits...parents need breaks too.....

2007-07-23 04:43:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I usually take my sister out to play some arcade game 'till we finished the final boss stages. Our favorites are "Time Crisis" series!

If we don't go anywhere, we just cook our dinner together with lots fun chat to do... or read some interesting novel and share our POV each other. The last is "Harry Potter and Deathly Hallows".... and we're going to reread it again! LoL!!

How about you then? Any fun thing to do while dating your brother or sister?

2007-07-23 04:37:50 · 6 answers · asked by Professor Franklin 4

they want to send me to jail for seeing my boyfriend that they dont like. So they hold you hostage and i have 2 go everywhere they go so i wont used the phoe or the computer???

2007-07-23 04:28:06 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's summer break, schools out and there aint crap to do! lol. All we have is a computer some tvs and a couple of board games. Are there any activities that we can do so we wont be bored.*inside the house

2007-07-23 02:57:36 · 6 answers · asked by coconc93 1

i'm 19 and my mum n dad split when i was little and my dad wasnt very interested in me and hardly saw me unless it suited him, my mum died when i was 15 and my dad dint ring me or get in any contact at all afterward, even tho i'm his only child and he wasnt bothered, i dint get a card or he dint ask if i was ok, nothing, could u forgive him?

2007-07-22 23:21:15 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

she is telling me she will put it on the internet and my secrets will be out what should i do? plz tell me

2007-07-22 23:07:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-22 21:24:00 · 6 answers · asked by Princess 2

My sister came home tonight and I asked what she had been doing with her friend. And she told me not to tell our parents, I promised. Then she told me that she broke into a locked up school playground (breaking and entering is illegal) and that she had told my parents she was somewhere other than where she was (lying to our parents) and that she smoked a puff from a cigarette. She's 17...almost old enough to be locked up for things like this. She's been arrested before for stealing. And she still steals (from me...I dont see why. im 13; what do I have that she wants?) should I tell my parents about this??? I dont want to be on her bad side because she gets physical and screams and has chased me out of the house before.....should I still tell my parents??? (And no, my parents wont do anything to protect me if she gets physical. they havent cared in the past.)

2007-07-22 20:05:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wanted to know in WA how old you have to be to decide where you want to live. Becuase My mother does drugs andd my step dad is abusive. but my father says he has no idea about the laws and does not want to get in trouble by letting me not see here. Please help me i really have no idea what to do. but i really dont want to be in the kind of atmosphere.

2007-07-22 19:47:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

lMy mother has always been telling me I'm going to be something really great in life (like history changing-wise).

I'ts really annoying me. So far my life has been the mundane-boring-thank-god-I'm-still-alive type life. Everything has been just barely above average but yet basically average. I've done well in school, but not THAT well, I get A's and B's and 2 or 3 C's. I have a large group of friends, but I'm no way near popular and sometimes I feel like an outcast.

I'm just one of those types that some people think are really cool, but noone else thinks too much about.

So the point is how annoying it is for my momma telling me to only focus on school and I'll be something great, and it just makes me wanna do average in school and become a house wife just to prove to her what she is saying is just craziness that any parent might say of their child. I really don't have the kind of motivation someone would need to be great, I just feel like surviving is enough. What should I do?

2007-07-22 19:36:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents (well specifically, my mother) are kind of in a feud with my grandparents (mother's side). In a nutshell, my grandparents have apparently favored whichever of their child paid attention to them more at the time. In her younger years, my mom usually brushed it off... but nowadays she's taking it much harder (I guess because she has few things to occupy her time now) and is depressed because of this.

I guess my question is, should I help intervene and attempt to help? Is it my place to say anything?

2007-07-22 19:11:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

did he know he was gonna die? befor he got the plane to iraq, he said something about a song called "the dance" by garth brooks, the song is about someone that something bad to happen to them, but if they or people they loved knew that that bad thing would happen it would mess up everything because they would not get to eperience "the dance" like they would not live life to the fullest because they know about this bad thing, but sense they didnt know then they lived life like they had another life time to live and then the bad thing suddenley happened..if you never heard the song please look up the lyrics.

2007-07-22 18:58:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother raised my daughter for the first 7 years of her life because I was too young, busy working 2-3 jobs and trying to finish school myself. She raised her with no rules or any form of discipline. She is very spolied, thinks she can do what she wants, and only thinks of her self. In the past when I tried to discipline her my mother would get in the way and confort her. Now she is a pre-teen (12 years old). Can I change her ways with discipline or is it too late?

2007-07-22 16:17:59 · 20 answers · asked by Drifter 3

I did not worn my son of the possibility of carrying on a genetic deformity. Club feet run in the family and his child had
to have his feet amputated because of it. (it's real obvious that it does run in the family) My daughter-in-law is not talking to me now. I already feel bad enought for everyone involved. Now I'm pushed away for good.

2007-07-22 15:32:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My own twin sister thinks I'm dumb & she thinks she has authority over me. & when I don't give her money or do what she tells me to do, she beats up on me & calls the police on me. One time, she told her husband to give me a ride home, & she told me, "You BETTER sit in the back seat because if you sit in the front, then that means you sexually want my man." I am not attracted to that dude whatsoever! Who besides her wants to be with a deadbeat dad who can't keep a job & leaves them home alone for months & months & just pops them up with babies all the time? But anyway, she lets her friends sit in the front seat with her husband. So what's wrong with me sitting in the front seat? & she's also a bully.

& one time there was a guy who raped me, & she tricked me into facing the guy again because she called me over to her house & lied & said it was an emergency, & I had no idea the guy was there, & I came & he was there, wanting to fight me for reporting him for rape, & she laughed.

2007-07-22 15:30:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My former foster mom told me that in order to lose weight, I have to try to eat healthy foods, even though they might taste nasty. So one day, I tried to eat yogurt & straight PUKED soon as it touched my tongue. & my foster sister just left me to sit there & vomit & was laughing @ me the whole time. & then later on, she told my foster mom about the situation & asked her, "That don't make no sense! Now if you know you don't like something, why would you try to make yourself eat it?" & the foster mom agreed with her & yelled @ me.

This happened last year when I was staying with them after Hurricane Katrina, but I'm almost 24 yrs. old & still get treated by a child by them & they always humiliate me. I'm glad I have my own place now. & when I don't take the foster mom's advice, she tells me, "A hard head makes a soft behind!" But when I took her advice, she yelled @ me. I think they raised us to be confused & stupid.

2007-07-22 15:23:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My two younger brothers ( 15 &17) came home hungry from the gym and asked my sister and I if we cooked anything. We said we hadn't gotten around to it but maybe tonight can be pizza night since we didn't really feel like cooking anyway.
They went and asked our dad for the money and (my dad is a very old fashioned guy) he came out, gave them money and said " That's just for the boys, the girls should cook".
Now, we usually cook ( my sister, mom and I) so it's not a big deal but for some reason, it really upset us tonight. I mean, are we like the maids or something?
We were raving mad and decided to go out by ourselves.
Are we overacting.

2007-07-22 14:38:17 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

my cousin needs a job but idk if she is old enough???
the most info gets 10 points anything u no or can find out about it!!!!
my cousin just turned 14
thanks

2007-07-22 13:10:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous