My mother tells me I am going to be great *rolls eyes*?

Question

lMy mother has always been telling me I'm going to be something really great in life (like history changing-wise).

I'ts really annoying me. So far my life has been the mundane-boring-thank-god-I'm-still-alive type life. Everything has been just barely above average but yet basically average. I've done well in school, but not THAT well, I get A's and B's and 2 or 3 C's. I have a large group of friends, but I'm no way near popular and sometimes I feel like an outcast.

I'm just one of those types that some people think are really cool, but noone else thinks too much about.

So the point is how annoying it is for my momma telling me to only focus on school and I'll be something great, and it just makes me wanna do average in school and become a house wife just to prove to her what she is saying is just craziness that any parent might say of their child. I really don't have the kind of motivation someone would need to be great, I just feel like surviving is enough. What should I do?

I don't even care about being great or history-changing. I just wanna make myself happy.

Answer 1

Maybe you need to say to her... "You know what Mum? What I want to be is happy! You constantly saying how I'm going to change the world makes me feel like nothing I'm doing now is good enough."

Bear in mind that all parents think their kids are amazing... I'm sure she means it as a compliment, but maybe she doesn't understand that she's actually making you feel pressured. Try being open with her about it - not in an accusatory way but just point out that maybe her expectations are unrealistic.

BTW, everyone feels like an outcast sometimes... even after school's over!

Answer 2

All mothers would like to believe that their child is special. Don't worry so much about it. I would not, however, plan on making motherhood a career. Usually it takes both parents to work in order to have a decent life now days. Unless you get extremely lucky enough to marry a wealthy person, you had better plan on a career. Even then, you will have nothing if the wealthy guy you marry decides he wants to leave the marriage. I know that this all sounds horrible, but it happens so often.

Many guys decide after years of marriage and children that they want a younger woman, or they go through midlife crisis and think that they need to fool around to prove that they are still young.

I hop that you never have to experience this, but don't end up being unprepared or you will regret it. You will live a life of misery and poverty if you don't get a good education and develop a career to fall back on.

Answer 3

wow, that's an odd form of rebellion. but your mom probably isn't totally wrong. if you put your all into it, you can make something of yourself. youmight not change history, or even make history, but you might make an impact on someone s life. you might be the one who saves one person, and even if no one else knows, you made a difference. just because your mother says it doesn't mean it's wrong, she knows what you are capable of better than you do. don't be average to prove her wrong, why would you want to do that? even if she's wrong, isn't it worth trying before you give up? I mean, world changing is always worth a try.. so go ahead, do everything to the absolute best of your ability... try to change the world. if it doesn't work, the worst that can happen is you have a job and a life, and a family, all things you want, you just haven't changed the world.

Answer 4

Don't be average just because she's bothering you. She is trying to motivate you and probably really believes it because she is proud of you. You should do what YOU want to do. (by the way, there is nothing wrong with becoming a housewife) If what she says really is bothersome, you should talk to her about it. Maybe she will have more realistic expectations if you are up-front with her.

Answer 5

I've learned many things from my mother, but the one thing that I've learned the best from her is that she is always right.
She knows so much more than you do and "she's been there done that". I'm glad your mother stressing out school for you, becuase it is very important. She loves you and sees the full potential of being someone great. Go for it; let yourself out and find that inner ambition! In the end, our job on earth is to give something back...what will you give to the world? Think about that...

Answer 6

Just listen to her. She obviously wants the best for you and is confident that you are a great person! And if you do focus on school, you might do something "History changing-wise". : )

Answer 7

Sounds like your mom is trying to live out her own fantasies through your life. All parents know their kids are special but you need to talk to her and tell her it makes you uncomfortable that she has such high expectations. tell her you appreciate her support but her plans for you may not fit your plans for you. good luck!

Answer 8

u need to change your pic here,its ugly..

Answer 9

be all you can be