my husband will not put his son to bed?

Question

he says it's too much of a hassle.....so i get no adult time when my step-son visits...parents need breaks too.....

Answer 1

Kick his lil butt,he lazy,,

Answer 2

I don't understand your question. Are you saying that you are upset because *you* have to be the one to put his son to bed? Or are you saying that you are upset because, when his son is over, they stay up late, cutting into your time with him?

If it's that you are the one doing the 'parent' work and that you resent having to do that, then I think you need to talk to your husband about that. You both need to try to understand each other's feelings on this & come up with a plan that leaves both of you feeling respected and happy.

If it's that you resent having to share your husband with his child 4 nights a month (or whatever his parenting time is), then I think you need to stop behaving like a selfish child. Parents need 'adult time', that's true. But, kids need 'parent time', too. Go do something else during that time, on your own. Or, better yet, enjoy spending time *with* your husband and his child, someone who is an important part of his life.

Answer 3

He just wants to spend as much time with his son when he's with him. Saying it's a hassle is just an excuse but it's understandable don't you think.
If the child only visits some days make the most of the rest of the week.

Answer 4

Step parenting is hard, especially if you have no kids yourself because your spouse thinks you don't know what you are talking about. Good luck. I have not enjoyed step-parenting very much.

Answer 5

Well you aren't taking on parental responsibility so it seems like that doesn't apply to you. Neither you or your husband care enough about this child to do right by him, why is he bothering?