I did not worn my son of the possibility of carrying on a genetic deformity. Club feet run in the family and his child had
to have his feet amputated because of it. (it's real obvious that it does run in the family) My daughter-in-law is not talking to me now. I already feel bad enought for everyone involved. Now I'm pushed away for good.
2007-07-22 15:32:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To quote you"its real obvious that it does run the family". Then your son knew. Did the daughter in law not notice it? The child will be ok. The daughter in law needs some one to blame and bad as it sounds, she's gonna blame you. Some one should explain to genetic problems, they should feel lucky that , that is the only thing wrong.
They can't stay mad forever.
2007-07-22 16:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by firefly06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My two daughters have different and unrelated birth defects. The older daughter has a genetic birth defect having to do with her skull, scalp, fingers and toes. The younger one had two heart murmers (I am diabetic and had her late in life).
My son and his wife are having their first child in September. He was smart enough to realize that there is some chance of birth defects in the family because he knew of his sister's genetic birth defect. His wife has already had three ultra-sounds and, so far, the baby looks fine.
My question is why did you not make sure your children were aware of this when they got married and began thinking about having children of their own? This was quite irresponsible of you. I do feel for you, but my true feelings are with that baby who lost his feet and for his mother and for his father. Of course they are angry with you for not telling them that this ran in the family. Of course! I am not sure why you withheld this information.
The best you can do is write a letter of how sorry you are that you did not mention this and how deeply you regret the loss of your grandson's feet because of your silence. Then you can pray hard for the words and the wisdom to speak to your son and his wife. I hope this works out, but I would be just as angry as your daughter-in-law and son. Perhaps if you had told them before she got pregnant or sooner, they could have adopted or done something to help their child before the amputations.
2007-07-22 23:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by BLM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter in law needs someone to blame for the unfortunate circumstances however your son knew after all its his family too.
Maybe through other family members including your son they will help your daughter in law understand that you had no idea that it was hereditary.
Remember when you had you son the medical field was allot different only through new technology which is changing everyday was there any information to genetics.
It's not your fault You didn't know and right now your daughter in law doesn't care ;She just sees what her baby is going through and needs someone to blame.
2007-07-22 22:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by wkemrer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should have said something but, i doubt you'll be pushed out for good. right now, they're reeling over all of this but, lets face it, had they known, i doubt that the posibility of having a baby with clubbed feet would have made them shy away from having kids. it's a awful that it was so severe that his feet had to be amputated but it is what it is.
2007-07-22 22:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have warned them of that possibility but it's not like you meant for that to happen. That baby can still lead a great life, tons of people live great with handicaps. Didn't he know that that ran in the family?????
2007-07-22 22:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have warned your son. Plain and simple.
2007-07-22 22:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Pixie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋