My parents (well specifically, my mother) are kind of in a feud with my grandparents (mother's side). In a nutshell, my grandparents have apparently favored whichever of their child paid attention to them more at the time. In her younger years, my mom usually brushed it off... but nowadays she's taking it much harder (I guess because she has few things to occupy her time now) and is depressed because of this.
I guess my question is, should I help intervene and attempt to help? Is it my place to say anything?
2007-07-22 19:11:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, don't get involved. Then you put yourself into something that you hae no control over. Let them work the problem out, and try to stay neutral. If one or the other asks you what you think, just tell them that you would rather not get involved due to the fact that you love them all.
2007-07-22 19:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi punk4emo,
There are 2 kinds of intervention. Either u draw them closer or u push them further apart. Personally i think it's ok if u intervene. Eventually they have to talk it out themselves. But for now, it's not possible..They both need a calming influence to bring them together. Don't think ul take sides which i believe ur sensible enough not to do. Just talk positive. When they say something bad about the other. listen to them but don't throw gas to the already flaming situation..U mentioned about ur mother brushing it off when she was younger..I don't think so. I believe it has been nagging at her for a long time already..what happened lately seems like the final straw..Just say good words for both sides.
2007-07-22 19:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your place, I think, is to "the son". It is wonderful that you are seeking answers...but really, it between them.
You can, however, ask your mother if there is anything "you" can do for her. Making her feel validated. Asking that just maks her feel "you" think she is worth loving. It is not taking sides...it is just making her feel important!
Reminding her there is nothing she can do about the past...helps to keeps her in the present. You could even tell "both" sides that they are upsetting your feelings. One side will quit how they are behaving just because they love you.
Sometimes with nothing much to do...having blood pressures rise...is something to do. Can you think of anything to redirect her energy? Can she get on a bowling leauge? Golf? Bingo? God?
As you know...the last thing anyone wants is for someone to leave this earth when there are upset feelings.
Good luck...you are a good son.
2007-07-22 20:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jeannine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not really your place to say anything. all you can do call your grandparents and tell them how much you love them but dont side with your parent or your grandparents.
2007-07-22 19:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by l33nix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, and then get them to talk it out indivisualy, and then wth eachother.
2007-07-22 19:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by slh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋