Family - December 2006

Why do my own parents and many people from their generation selfishly say "I ALREADY RAISED MY KIDS!" when asked to babysit their own granchildren? I seem to recall many, many days, nights and vacations with my own grandparents. Obviously my parents had help. Are people really so selfish today that they don't even want to know their own grandchildren? Do they really see it as just a chore? Do you guys not realize that these are little people whom you are influencing one way or the other by your action or inactions? How is it going to make you feel when they grow up and want nothing to do with you because they don't even know who you are? This is your own flesh & blood we're talking about here. The legacy you leave when you're gone. Why can't you remember back to the days when you were raising us and remember that you needed help and you had help? Why can't you offer the same to us now?

Ok, sorry, a lot of questions. Looking for serious answers and opinions please.

2006-12-30 08:05:59 · 12 answers · asked by Pamela 5

Okay so Im 13 1/2 years old and in the 8th grade and I already know what highschool Im planning on going to. I chose to go to this highschool because my brother went there. But unfortunately the school has really changed in the past year. So my parents want me to go to this other highschool I don't really care for. They don't want me to go to the hischool I want to go to because they think I will follow the crowd. But I know deep down inside I have a mind of my own and I can think for myself. How can I Tell them that I know for a fact I won't be under the influence, and hang with the wrong people? My parents already know my friends and they have already stated that there pretty good kids. So please help me on what to tell them. And let them Know this is where I really want to go and I can Handle Myslef!

2006-12-30 07:57:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-30 07:45:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-30 07:38:47 · 33 answers · asked by garthbrooksfan 1

I introduced my cousin to my auntie few months ago..and yesterday when we came back we found them have an affair..they were kissing on the couch and my auntie's husband found out....and oh god my auntie is 16 years older than my cousin! i have sinned...i shouldnt have introduced my cousin to my auntie..or else they wouldnt hook up with each other...now mum wants to throw my cousin out...what should i do...my uncle also wanna kill my auntie right now..

2006-12-30 07:11:47 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

im in 30's. had a great plan for me and fiance soon to be wife and my daughter to move abroad. someone through a spanner in the works. we r now moving further away. all my family are upset. mum and dad etc, even though they live the other end of uk. parents given me grief on phone now sister. all because im moving away and they wont see my daughter there grandaughter. i understand that. but to shout abuse down the phone and just had the same from sister now (cow) anyway, what is supposed to be a happy exciting experience has turned into a bad one. What should i do. ??

2006-12-30 07:05:47 · 20 answers · asked by gooner1972 3

my brother-inlaw died 3 yrs ago.he had a huge family who didnt try to prevent his death but places blame now that hes passed.i loved him very much as a young girl back in the day i had no family and he was only one who helped me in many ways.i visited his grave for 1yr and no one bothered pay measly 500$ for a head stone which was a discrace to him i feel.i got a huge law suit diff case and first thing i did was order a headstone.i waited anxious when it came i took pict and it was in dec so i bought big wreath too.4 mos later i go to visit day he died and discovered his stone was gone.my daughter was crying and me and was just terrible.my niece called his sister the one most responsible for his death and asked her did she know anything,and she said yes she had it removed she didnt like it and cursed told us f off its been 9 months and ive learned shes bought a new one the owner told me sorry but he dont get involved family buisness and doesnt press charges &shes allowed buy 1more WWYD

2006-12-30 07:01:33 · 7 answers · asked by wh1te_diamond06 1

Ok, my grandpaernts are so total republicans, which i'm not against or anything, it;s just that i don't agree with them. And they really doing everything they can to brainwash me into being a republican. what do I do? I mean my god they gave "The O'Rielly Factor for kids" for christmas!!!!

2006-12-30 07:01:24 · 11 answers · asked by Sali 3

my husbands exwife uses thier 7 yr old daughter like bait to get what she wants and to controll my husband.she still loves him after 6yrs and uses any chance to just call him up and chat(daily)she can't stand me,being i married her husband(no he did not leave her for me)and limits my contact with thier daughter(can't spend time alone with her,not allowed in her school)even through the both have joint custody and the list goes on.so please there has to be other people like me in this situation how do you do it?please don't say tell you man to get some balls and tell his ex off becuase he will not.he has allready told me to except it or he is going to divorce me if i bring it up again.i keep hoping she will find someone and leave us alone but shes so nasty no one wants her.

2006-12-30 06:59:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

She told me she wouldn't give me any money help and she would make me move out.

2006-12-30 06:57:19 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

i dont want to move out, but to make my parent know that im 21 not like im 15 any more with them, they said (for new years example) if you want to spend the night fine and well but dont come home and your not a part of this faily any more i want to move out but not like that (i dont work unemployed for over a year and dont drive)

2006-12-30 06:42:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can someone please explain to me about taking a vow of silence? I really want to, but how would the teachers at my middle school react? Is there an easier way to explain this to my family? What should I say to my friends? HELP ME!!!!

-Silent British 7th Grader

2006-12-30 06:40:16 · 1 answers · asked by !~CoNvErSe~! 3

she tell me i can only see my bf on the weekend (one day a week) not during the week unless he askes my mother and she is then ok about ir im 21 years old. I have been taking this for 8 months ever since i stared dating my bf. and i cant any more. New Years is coming up and he has said that he well not drive after 12 becuse of last year he almost got in to a accend coming from a party and is not going out. So i have to stay over there for the night and my parent are not happy with that. like they have said u live under our roof live by are rules. Im 21 they have told me if i spend the night dont come home. (he lives with his parents still) (they wouldnt mind if i move in at all) i have slept over on night when im parent were out of town. (they dont know) I dont drive and have been umployed for over a yr now dont have more then and havent seen my frinds for about 2 years now only talk to them on the phone and online

2006-12-30 06:23:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-30 05:39:44 · 25 answers · asked by mahy 1

I'm 25, happily married and planning our first child. The problem is my mum is really petty. I see her usually twice a week. I always ask her if she wants to go shopping or out to lunch on a Saturday. Today, my aunt (whom I'm very close to and is more like a sister to me) phoned me and asked if I wanted to go out for lunch. I said yes and said I would phone my mum to see if she wanted to come. I phoned and it was engaged. I assumed that my younger brother was probably on the phone and that my mum would be away out as she hadn't phoned all day. I went out with my aunt and when we got to the restaurant we tried to phone her again but couldn't get a signal. When we left the restaurant we phoned her to see if she wanted to go shopping. She went ballistic for not asking her to go to lunch. Is this normal? I feel like I can't do anything without asking her all the time. She claims she never sees me etc but I always make the effort. She said she is cut to the bone cos I went out

2006-12-30 05:28:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-30 05:26:32 · 44 answers · asked by JOHN H 1

thanks for all your help i now know what i wanted to do was the right thing even if my friend is going to turn on me but one day hopefully she will thank me for this

2006-12-30 05:23:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents took my child and won't let me see her. They have been helping raise her and now i want to move and raise her on my own. My parents are holding my child and won't give her back WHAT DO I DO?

2006-12-30 04:59:23 · 16 answers · asked by michelle s 2

2006-12-30 04:47:00 · 11 answers · asked by jeyan 2

HELP! I want to start looking soon as possible but where should I start I know I was adopted through the childrens aid asdsociation that all really!

2006-12-30 04:36:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

he left years ago and my sister and i refused to see him afterwards. i guess we were being "loyal" to our mom. although now, at the age of 15, i feel as if i want him to be a part of my life. i know friends who sometimes stay with their dad then switiching to their mom. but, i doubt he would like to see me. after so many years of distance and of no communication, i think we'd just feel bored around each other. i really want a dad although.. should i find that role in my birth dad or another?

2006-12-30 04:28:34 · 10 answers · asked by impasse 2

my nephew Jonathan who was adopted out.He was born November 1983 in NY.His birth name is Jonathan Landon.Strictly confidential.

2006-12-30 04:20:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother has told me many times over that I'm inconsiderate and think only of myself, yet I'm to be at HER beck and call whenever she wants. She criticizes me constantly and thinks every idea or opinion I have is totally off the wall. We have not talked for over two months and we didn't spend the holidays together. Instead of trying to work out the issue with me, she has involved practically everyone she knows, telling them she has no idea what my problem is and just seems to be brushing me off as usual. I have finally realized that I HAVE HAD ENOUGH! This may sound awful, but my life has been so peaceful the last 2 months without her nagging and putting me down. It is doubtful that we can ever be civil to one another, although I would try if possible. So, how do you tell your mother to just stay out of your life, without being labeled as the bad guy? I am so confused. I don't want to hurt her, but I'm tired of her always hurting me. Hope someone knows the answer.

2006-12-30 04:18:21 · 10 answers · asked by boogians 2

They took away my cell phone, im not allowed to use the house phone, and i can't go anywhere. Only because they don't want me to talk to my boyfriend who didnt do anything wrong. he was always nice to they and he even helped us move. After all the work was done my parents told me i couldn't see him anymore and can't talk to him. I didn't do anything wrong either i always did what i was told with no hassle and always have good grades in school. I even done things that weren't my job to do my whole life. It seems like they want me unhappy all they do is tell me to do stuff and yell at me. i don't understand i was actually happy for once in my life when i met my boyfriend because he actually listened to wat i had to say and respected it. He cared for me more then my parents ever did. When i would cry when things got really bad in my house. he would calm me down and tell me that everything would be ok. he would talk to me on the phone as long as he needed to to calm me down.

2006-12-30 04:15:51 · 29 answers · asked by confused by some1 2

My Grandmaw! We used to have such a bond but now she is a ******* $lutty asshole! I hate her with all my heart now! She does everything to piss me off. We used to do everything togather but now she just always thinks about my little 4 year old twin girl cousins and there mom (her daughter)
I don't have a mum, but I swear that woman is going to hell!
What can I do to improve our relasinship?

2006-12-30 04:02:50 · 15 answers · asked by Jessica 3

Do anyone see something wrong going to your boyfriend house doing the day time just to hang out and chill? If so please tell me why. If not please tell me why.

2006-12-30 03:54:10 · 6 answers · asked by krazykia1p 2

my dad says he quit smoking and yet right now hes taking a shower but i can smell ciggeret smoke and i have found ashes and ciggs in the bathroom. should i tell him i know? i dont want him to start again.

2006-12-30 03:48:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lately he been comeing in my room at night making the excuses that there is something under his bed or in his closest. I slept in his room a week ago to show him there wasn't I opened the closet and looked under the bed and made him look too. He was fine after that but now it been 3 days in a row and he keeps comeing in my room! But its when I am asleep one night I woke up and he was playing with my penis. On the second night I was totally naked when I woke up and he was sleeping at the bottom of the bed naked also. The third night i told him to sleep on the floor I gave him a blanket and pillows. Nothing happed. I am wondering is it time to talk to him about the male body? he is 11 half years old and I been thinking he was lying about the monster in his closest and under his bed to sleep with me. Should I talk to him about the male body. We don't have a dad.

2006-12-30 03:27:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

They are both at fault for different reasons and each one wants me to support them against the other...which I don't like doing...what can I do? I have no siblings. I need a hug. I'm tired of it all. I wish I didn't exist.

2006-12-30 03:16:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my mother very much, that is why she is living with my and not in a home. However she is very disrepectful. She reads my mail, compalins that I don't do my laundry enough, says i never have enough food in the house, this goes on and on. If she THINKS my husband and I are arguing she calls my sister and tells her. She is destroying my brand hew home, which I bought so she can live there. There are holes in the walls, cabinets and appliaces are nicked and scratched, my woodwork is horridly beat up, my carpet is stained from her cats throwing up, not to mention when she moved in she didn't think her room was big enough so she took over the master bedroom. We spent $10,000 finishing off the basement for us to have some space. However she will throw her walker down the steps and go through our stuff when we are gone. I know this because I started locking the door and she my sister. AAAHHHHH!!!!! I'm going nuts!!!

2006-12-30 03:13:44 · 9 answers · asked by Knome Lover 4