They are both at fault for different reasons and each one wants me to support them against the other...which I don't like doing...what can I do? I have no siblings. I need a hug. I'm tired of it all. I wish I didn't exist.
2006-12-30 03:16:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should tell them how you feel. Tell them you dont like the fighting and all you need is a hug.
...If you feel uncomfortable about telling them write stories or draw. Remember you are the most important thing to them and what you say has a big impact. If I were with you Id give you a hug.
... x o x o !
2006-12-30 03:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♥..::Amy::..♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE DON'T THREATEN THEM!!!!! That will not do anything but make them angry. If you are uncomfortable talking to them face to face then write them BOTH a letter and explain how you're feeling and ask them to please try to work it out....I guess it really depends on how old you are as to how everything should be handled but.....even though you wish you didn't exist....know that there is always someone that loves you and that would miss you if you were gone...It is not good for you to in situations like that you should ty to spend the night with a ew friends during the week, or grandparents or something. Most importantly find someone to talk to. It may be embarrassing going to the counselor at school but it will make you feel alot better. If you want to talk to someone I'm always available..
2006-12-30 04:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by murphysgrl01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could hug you! I've been there and it SUCKS.
Are you an adult or a minor still living at home? I'm 27 and I refuse to take sides anymore, or even listen to it. But when I was living at home, that was a lot harder.
Absolutely, try talking to them. One-on-one. When they are not angry. In fact, I find it helpful to ask one parent to go get a soda with you and have a quiet, calm conversation (plan what you are going to say). If you are in public, they can't yell.
But remember, you are the child and they are the adults. They are responsible for you, not the other way around. Hopefully, they will listen to you and change for you. If they don't, remember that you cannot change them and it is not your responsibility. It is theirs. Parents are human and sometimes they forget how much their kids need them and flip the roles of parent/child. Be careful.
Mine didn't listen, but I found ways to deal. Mostly, getting the heck out of the room when they fought. I'd go in my room and shut the door. Sometimes, with permission--or at least telling them where I was--I'd go to a friend's house. And I talked to my counselor at school a lot, which helped.
When they tried to get me to take sides later, I would say to my mother, "He's my father and it hurts me when you try to make me say bad things about him," and the same thing in reverse to my father.
I used to wish I'd never been born. I started to live my life for my future, when I could move out and go to college. It was hard and it seemed like forever, but the time finally came. I went to live with my aunt while I was in college and it was like a second chance at a loving home life. I'm happy now, but back then this future was so far away it was hard to hold onto and it didn't always make me feel better.
Definitely reach out to an adult you trust, like a counselor or a relative (who will listen and know when to say something to your parents and when to keep quiet). You're going to need that to get through this.
I really, really wish I could give you a hug.
Maybe these will help a little bit:
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/
http://www.kidshelp.org/
Hang in there! Talk to your friends and at least one adult!
2006-12-30 03:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to you rparents and tell them they are being unfair to include in their fights. Find a support system, people you can trust and talk to like a clergy, teacher or counselor. Check the phone book for a mental health hot line to call when you need to.
2006-12-30 03:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by anita s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the house for a bit and don't come back until they cool down. And if there is violence involved then call the cops and have them deal with it.
2006-12-30 04:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try with little tears,even false , it works wonders.Beg them to be good at least for u r sake, or in u r presence .
I pity u being one child but u ONLY CAN CHANGE THEM.IF it does not work threaten them
2006-12-30 03:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by red rose 5 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
refuse to be drawn into their arguements, walk away!
2006-12-30 03:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋