she tell me i can only see my bf on the weekend (one day a week) not during the week unless he askes my mother and she is then ok about ir im 21 years old. I have been taking this for 8 months ever since i stared dating my bf. and i cant any more. New Years is coming up and he has said that he well not drive after 12 becuse of last year he almost got in to a accend coming from a party and is not going out. So i have to stay over there for the night and my parent are not happy with that. like they have said u live under our roof live by are rules. Im 21 they have told me if i spend the night dont come home. (he lives with his parents still) (they wouldnt mind if i move in at all) i have slept over on night when im parent were out of town. (they dont know) I dont drive and have been umployed for over a yr now dont have more then and havent seen my frinds for about 2 years now only talk to them on the phone and online
2006-12-30 06:23:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i can move out and live with him and his parents (his parent would not mind) they like me better then is brother gf who is living with them they asked him when i was moving and and cant wait for me to do so
2006-12-30 06:32:56 · update #1
Well, your parents, I'm sure, only have what's good for you at heart, but it's tough to be an adult still living by the rules set down for a teenager.
First, like it or not, you're living under their roof, eating their food, and using their utilities, so it comes pretty much down to their way or the highway.
You also mention that you've been out of work for over a year--the first thing you need to do is get yourself together and find a job. Search the papers, go online, go to the unemployment office--try to spend Mondays and Tuesdays on your job search. There are places in your community, I'm sure, that will work with you on preparing a resume--try a local women's center or, again, the unemployment office. In the meantime, if something comes up (even if it's only part time or in fast food), take it--it's often easier to find a job when you already have one.
Another option is to look into to pursuing your education. A community college is a great place to start.
Once you get your ducks in a row with a job, save up for your own place. At 21 you are free to come and go, and if the rules at home are too bothersome for you, you need to find another place.
Good luck!
2006-12-30 06:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chrispy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 21 ...why haven't you moved out already and found a job. If you're in college...you still can manage to do everything, come on girl, you can become in a very independent young woman, grow up a little....and NO..it is not a good and smart idea to move in with your boyfriend's parents...that will just prove your just immature...so don't do it. Your parents are right when they say if you live under their roof you gotta follow their rules, so take charge of your life, make this your new year's resolution , you're still young an can grab the whole world by your hands if you just decide. Find a job, keep going to school and then ...just then find your OWN place, not with your boyfriend's parents (that's such a no no) and you'll see that you can succeed in life. Good Luck and Happy New Year!
2006-12-30 06:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21years old. Get a job right away and move out on your own or with roommates.Your parents might feel that you are taking advantage of them because you don't work and you think you over run the house rules.
2006-12-30 06:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you spell like you're 10 but since you say you're 21 I'd say get a job and move out. You are an adult and if you don't like being treated like a child then stop acting like one ( or at least stop spelling like one). If you're under your parents roof then they will have some say so until you move out.
2006-12-30 06:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u gotta problem...
is one night w/ur boyfriend worth messing up where u live, ur relationship w/ur parents & everything else? if u've made it for 8 months ..maybe a little more time won't hurt anything.
it sounds like u've got plenty of spare time during the week. why not try to get ur license, and a job? if u could get back on ur feet..u could get more control over your life. you're 21, you should want to be independent.
2006-12-30 06:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by kels.2330 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of Mom's house, get your own apartment, buy your own groceries, pay your own car insurance, and then your mom will no longer have any excuse to control your life.
If you act 21, she'll treat you like you're21.
2006-12-30 06:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Her Majesty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem comfortable with the notion of moving in with your boyfriend and his parents. If you are sure this is what you want to do, go for it.
2006-12-30 08:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by Earnesty_in_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋