he left years ago and my sister and i refused to see him afterwards. i guess we were being "loyal" to our mom. although now, at the age of 15, i feel as if i want him to be a part of my life. i know friends who sometimes stay with their dad then switiching to their mom. but, i doubt he would like to see me. after so many years of distance and of no communication, i think we'd just feel bored around each other. i really want a dad although.. should i find that role in my birth dad or another?
2006-12-30 04:28:34 · 10 answers · asked by impasse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes, you should try to fix things with your dad. sometimes we as dads do things that we regret when we were younger. It does not mean the love is not there for you. sometimes we don't always know what happened then to cause one to leave. But because you have a desire to fix things with him, if you have His number give Him a call, start slow at first. Have lunch or something with him. Ask a few questions, see how it goes. Please Go with an open mind and not pre set about what might have been siad to you about him. If it doesn't work out, it won't be because you did not try, but always leave the lines of communication open between you and Him
2006-12-30 05:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Fugitive Peices 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not give your birth-father the chance to fill that role? He divorced your Mother not you and I am sure as most mothers do, she let her bitter feelings toward him affect you and that's not right, but she had to keep you loyal to her out of spite for him...clear the road of all the rubble they've both laid at your feet and try to have a better relationship with your blood and bone before you invite outsiders into the mix. Best wishes to you.
2006-12-30 04:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should forgive and forget, no child should have to wonder if they are wanted or loved by their family, At fifteen yes you would need a father figure at that time in your life, why not try and get a mentor, some one that can give you advise and that you can look to when you need help, If you don't know anyone who fits that bill, I'm a chick but I think I'd have a whack at being a mentor....
2006-12-30 04:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Pryceless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will in no way get your dad to love your boyfriend lower back... sorry, yet actual. And what the h*ll have been you questioning doing that whilst your father replaced into domicile AND whilst the door replaced into open?? That in simple terms shows you're immature and absence comprehend on your father. Your dad is mad given which you probably did no longer have comprehend for his domicile by employing doing that for the time of his domicile, and fantastically whilst he replaced into domicile. Your dad can no longer hear to this "we adore one yet another" crap with the aid of fact he does not care. My maximum suitable suggestion is to pass on your dad and ask for forgiveness on your movements and tell your father which you like him and found out which you disrespected his domicile and it won't ensue lower back. I comprehend you would be messing around with boyfriend yet genuinely do no longer do it lower back on your dad's domicile... and don't attempt it at your mom's domicile the two. in simple terms have greater comprehend.
2016-10-06 05:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really have anything to lose by trying to contact your father. Best case scenario you can forge a new relationship. The worst case is he doesn't want to have a relationship, and still, nothing changes, and at least you will know you tried. Good luck!
2006-12-30 04:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe he is a good person, I would say go for it, contact him and see what may come out of it, but never build high hopes. If he is a good father, you'll enjoy each others company, but not from the first time. I believe first meetings will go clumsy, but later you'll laugh remembering that.
Wish you luck.
2006-12-30 04:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Philip76LostLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he showed any attempt to see you when you were little
then yes u should.
it really has nothing to do with you.
the problem is between your mom & dad.
not u and him.
try to get to know him, with a phone call first. i'm sure he would love to hear from u.
good luck and let me know how things go.
i was in your shoes at your age. now my dad is dead.
2006-12-30 04:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try writing him a letter and tell him some of the things you wrote in this question. Just because you want to persue a relationship with him does not mean you want to move in with him.
2006-12-30 08:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try contacting him first, if he refuses talking to u then jst 4get about him he's not worth it, if he talks back and u feel hes rly happy to hear from u again then try getting closer...although i think he'd still want to c u...
2006-12-30 04:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try it one time and see how he does if he doesnt push forth the effort then let it go.
2006-12-30 04:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋