2006-12-30 07:38:47 · 33 answers · asked by garthbrooksfan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Really? Absolutely not. You should love her and try to guide her to making the right decisions. Like monogamy and safe sex. she needs support, not you ostrasizing her.
2006-12-30 07:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Putting your daughter up for adoption because you caught her having sex is not the solution. It will not make what happened go away & certainly would not stop her from doing it again. In fact, that would most likely make things worse.
Kids today are much bolder, much riskier than their parents were growing up. They are often faced with an enormous amount of peer pressure. They hear the horror stories but often take the "it can't happen to me mindset."
Talk to your daughter. Explain the risks that come with sex. Listen to what she has to say. The only way she can make good choices is with encouragement from parents, good facts on the subject and knowing that you love her, even when she makes a mistake.
2006-12-30 08:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by Vyctorya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do, do NOT put her up for adoption because you don't want to make her suffer anything like that, trust me. Of course she got caught by you, and she knows that she was doing something wrong. So you just need to talk to her about it, maybe punish her from lots of things and tell her that you don't feel right about her having sex for the first time at age 16. Show her how you feel about the situation but at the same time treat her the same, because she is still your daughter (none the more none the less). If she's in love with her boyfriend of course she's going to experience with him (if you like it or not).
And trust me when I say that no girl will ever tell the truth to her parents about her sex life. Like if you ask her, is this the first time you ever did it? or how many times did you do it? Girls never reveal their deep down secrets to their parents. They'll always lie about it. Just talk to her and ban her from things don't put her up for adoption because then that will tell her that you don't love her anymore. People make mistakes and one reason they can learn from them is if the listen to their parents. Give her good advice.
2006-12-30 07:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you put her up for adoption ? So that she may end up in some screwed up foster home having to do worst things or having them done to her. YOU are her PARENT, why do you want to get rid of her because she made a choice you don't agree with ? You need to sit her down and talk to her about sex, tell her how you feel about this, make sure she knows the consequences of having sex, take her to the doctor so that she may be tested and get condoms and contraceptives. But don't send her away because she did something you don't agree with. Is this the only thing she has done that has led you to making this decision ? If so, then what you're considering is extreme Or has other things happened ? If she is too much for you to deal with have you thought about sending her to a relative ? Putting her up for adoption won't make her stop being sexually active, it will just make her turn her back on you forever.
2006-12-30 07:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, that would not be very affective. You now know its time for the "BIG talk". Safer sex, birth control methods etc. Then a trip to the doctor's office for urine and blood test. ( pregnancy, and S.T.D.s). When you do this though, try to have the boy is there for the whole thing. Maybe get his parents involved too. It will probably scare the begeebers out of you all, but at least you know the kids have the facts. My philosophy is ;" the more you talk to and educate kids on sex ,openly, the less likely their curiosity will overtake their good sense. " Good luck! Take care.
2006-12-30 07:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by chisledstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't... why shun your daughter for that? Most people do have sex some time in their lives.... but I think you should have a talk to her, and at least advise her to use protection... because odds are, she's not going to listen, if she's 16 and stubborn... Make sure she also goes to see a doctor to check for any STDs... and if possible, keep her at home more and control her phone bill... if you're paying it, give it to her so that if she has to call anybody (like to invite them over), she has to pay for it herself... Don't be too controlling or demanding or you may lose her, (she might stop listening and go further), but just make sure you put a few rules down...
Honestly, adoption's not a good thing... she is your daughter after all, and that wasn't too big of a crime... (not that it isn't big... it's just that you shouldn't put aside your daughter for that reason)
Good luck!
2006-12-30 07:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate_swirls18 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's crazy.Why get rid of your daughter because she's being a normal 16 year old.About 80% of 16 year olds are having sex(an guestamate).It's not a good thing but it happens.Be lucky she's not pregnant by now.Read some of these questions.THere is 12-14 year olds have triplets.
2006-12-31 18:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that you'd consider that! How could you? Come on, HOW WOULD YOU FEEL if you're mum put YOU up for adoption because of that. Sorry but that's really low and cruel. No parent should ever consider adoption because of that.
2006-12-30 08:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by Quizgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will desire to warn your daughter of the outcomes that should happen from having intercourse at such an early age. even regardless of the indisputable fact that beginning administration works most of the time, I had a cousin who had a toddler (triplets definitely) on the same time as she replaced into nevertheless on beginning administration. yet another threat of this sexual intercourse is STD's. in basic terms warn your daughter and enable her make her very own judgements.
2016-12-15 11:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by moncalieri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything drastic like that. Just explain to her all of the possable consequences of sex at such a young age. Such as pregnancy, and std's.
2006-12-30 08:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her about what she did. Let her know it wasn't right. Don't put her up for adoption and abandon her. That's not what she needs.
2006-12-30 07:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by Earnesty_in_life 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋