Okay so Im 13 1/2 years old and in the 8th grade and I already know what highschool Im planning on going to. I chose to go to this highschool because my brother went there. But unfortunately the school has really changed in the past year. So my parents want me to go to this other highschool I don't really care for. They don't want me to go to the hischool I want to go to because they think I will follow the crowd. But I know deep down inside I have a mind of my own and I can think for myself. How can I Tell them that I know for a fact I won't be under the influence, and hang with the wrong people? My parents already know my friends and they have already stated that there pretty good kids. So please help me on what to tell them. And let them Know this is where I really want to go and I can Handle Myslef!
2006-12-30 07:57:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
On bit of advice: listen to parents
2006-12-30 08:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I couldn't tell from your post why your parents would think you would "follow the crowd." It's not enough, unfortunately, to "tell" them that you won't. You have to demonstrate, over and over, consistently and without fail, that you are responsible and can be trusted. Do they have reason to think that somehow you will fall into the wrong crowd at your brother's high school?
Perhaps you can sit down with them and have a serious conversation. It will be up to you to be calm, and not to whine or accuse. List the reasons you want to go to your brother's high school, and make sure they are academic and not social. Give examples of how you have shown yourself to be a responsible person. Make sure that you listen respectfully to their side of the issue, and why they think the other school is better for you.
If you've made mistakes in the past, and that is why they are monitoring you carefully now, be very clear about what you have learned from past errors, the consequences of those missteps, and why you will not do anything like that again.
Perhaps you can make an agreement to start the first semester at the high school of your choice, with the commitment to get excellent grades and not get into any trouble with the wrong kinds of friends. You can agree that at the end of that first semester of 9th grade, if you haven't lived up to your end of the bargain, you have to transfer to the high school they have selected for you.
Good luck!
2006-12-30 16:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Redpeach. There are bad crowds in every school and going to a different school won't matter. You can explain that you are better off where your friends are because it will be easier for you to adjust and since they allready know them, they know the kind of crowd you hang with. If you have to start all over with making new friends, you may not "get with the right crowd". You state a good case allready for yourself saying that you know your mind. If they feel you are responsible, they should let you go. Make a deal with them. If it doesn't work at the school you want to go to for let's say 3 months or little longer, tell them you will switch and go where they want you to. It's not hard to switch. Ask them "Haven't I made wise decisions so far?" and if they agree you have, tell them you are not going to start doing otherwise now. Tell them you have a mind of your own and NO ONE will sway your decision to be with a different kind of crowd.. Explain to them that your future and your education is more important to you than who you hang with now. Further explain that these kids are not going to be there the rest of your life so you won't let them influence you now in the wrong direction.
2006-12-30 16:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in this situation i think that all your parents are trying to do is take care of you. I know that i hate hearing this, but the reality is, its true. So if you don't want this to be your answer, then i will have a sit down with them. Turn off the TV, and the radio, and make sure you are alone with them. I think that you should tell them exactly how you feel. By this, i would think that that would tell them that you are more mature, and ready to make decisions by yourself.
2006-12-30 16:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your friends are going to the same school you want to go to then try to explain to your parents that you will still be with the same friends that they say are good kids. Tell them your a smart girl and that they can trust you
2006-12-30 16:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you this but you are only thirteen. You may think that you know what is good for you. However i am sure you parents know more than you. They have been on this planet longer than you.
Therefore the bottom line is that listen to your parents, you may not see it now but in the long run you will appreciated it.!!! I I hope that helped. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!
2006-12-30 16:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are wrong crowds in every school! it's not like sending you to a different school is going to stop you from hanging out with a bad crowd if you really want to. at some point they are going to have to trust you to be able to make your own decisions.
2006-12-30 16:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking about the "Now" they are possibly thinking about your future. Maybe the other school is better academically. Your parents know whats best for you even if it doesn't seem like it and maybe it doesn't always make you happy.
2006-12-30 23:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by AngelWings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a cool person, i know how it feels to have parents always on you about your friends
you should just be honest and tell them that you highly respect them but you are the only one that can live you life
dont let your parents live your life for you
2006-12-30 16:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by sweet pea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself. You are just 13! You have a whole life ahead of you.
2006-12-30 16:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋