Family - December 2006

We had a Christmas dinner at my brothers house and he has a little boy that is 13 years old and I have a little girl that is 4 years old. Anyways my sister said she saw the 13 year old hugging my daughter and he had one hand between her legs and the other hand on her breasts and was holding her so she couldnt get away and my little girl was trying to get away but couldnt so my sister said she told him to let her go and he did but my sister did not tell me she saw that until yesterday. When I asked my daughter about it she said he did do it and he does it all the time when nobodys looking even during church. What do you think we should do about this. I havent talked to the 13 year olds mom and dad yet and dont know if I should. Or if I should just not let her go back around them but they are my brother and his family. I am stuck here as to what to do.

2006-12-27 06:27:58 · 15 answers · asked by Crystal 4

2006-12-27 06:23:45 · 42 answers · asked by JackLove 2

So i met my boyfriends entire extended family over Christmas. His family is pretty disfunctional, parents are divorced and there are several half brothers adn sisters floating around.

Also, a lot of his family has been in and out of prison, rehab and what not. they are also pretty....well....white trashy....

when i met them, they were nothing like my family, no one hardly talked to me or really made me feel welcome into the home. it was a lot of silent moments and awkward instances. my family is the complete opposite, no one has ever been to prison, we are all super friendly and welcoming to everyone.

should I be concerned about this? i mean if i marry him, these people will be part of my family now

am i shallow or is family really important?

2006-12-27 06:22:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently I moved to a new city. I also found out that my Uncle and cousins are working in this city (some live here, some fly back and forth every week from another big city). I've only meet them once in my adult life (a few years ago at one of their weddings). They are nice but upper class. They talk about art, culture, their private schools and jobs like it some secret code. (Between the parents and four kids, they are all either lawyers, doctors, and investment bankers). I went to a public university and have some work overseas, but nothing on par with them. I am actualy unemployed right now and have a liberal arts degree. I already feel inadequate and laim. They want to get together but I'm really nervous and feel pressure to come up with interesting topics. I never care with strangers but since its family it is getting to me. How can i behave and make myself chill. I'm not concerned with impressing them but do want them to like me. Help!

2006-12-27 06:11:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-27 06:09:27 · 3 answers · asked by country at heart 1

my inlaws came to my house for the holidays, and my mother inlaw cooked a dinner for xmas, its been a few days & its still on the stovetop.. she made homemade tortillas & refried beans yesterday morning....they still eat it..i tell them it grows bacteria & i didnt want my kids to eat it. this morning i told her i was going to throw it out & she looked at me like i was crazy! i already told her i didnt want my kids to eat it, & she still gives it to them, i tend to say things in a rude manner, not meaning to be rude, & i dont want to start an issue & my kids not see them.... but im not sure how to get it through her head without starting an issue.... any suggestions?

2006-12-27 05:59:15 · 11 answers · asked by thick_shakes 1

My husband has been seeing this girl. First, I found out from his text message about most of their conversations. I confronted him, he said that he already warned me telling me over and over that I wasn't that affectionate to him, that I always nag him lately. The reason why is because he's not supporting us as he need to financially. We have 2 kids and I am working full time, going to school for free (GI BILL). He barely helps me in the house so sometimes I feel reallly tired that I just want to go to bed. Their affair didn't last for a week but the thing is my husband invited her to his x'mas party instead of me and went to see a movie together (at least that's all they told me). I tracked my husband's cell phone log and I was right. He said he was sorry but I don't see his sincerity because he said that I pushed him away. I went to see the female and confronted her face to face/talked to her in a civilized manner. How can I get rid of the memories they shared from my mind?

2006-12-27 05:36:32 · 36 answers · asked by GC 1

Every holiday that rolls around the mother in law assumes we will be spending it with her. Xmas, New Year, Thanksgiving, Fourth of July, etc...
At first I didnt mind since MIL is living by herself with her dog. But this year I see that my mom seemed hurt that we have spent consecutive holidays with the MIL.
Now that New years is rolling around MIL is already planning what to do before consulting us, because she just assumes that we will be with her.
I actually do not want to spend it with her or even my mom really but just me, my wife, and the baby. Also, I want to cut down on seeing my MIL, not entirely but less often than more.

How can I say this with tact and consideration? I am a straightforward person and usually just say it like it is and I think some people get offended. I also dont want the MIL to feel too lonely during the holidays its just I dont want to be the person along with my family to have to always brighten it for her.

2006-12-27 05:26:58 · 6 answers · asked by Richard L 2

The problem is the fact that when i was 7wks pregnant with her, he came over everything was going great then from like left field he started beating me and calling out of my name. He left me in a pile of blood and what a coincidence that my bf friend came over. she took me to the hospital . I was in like a trance of how the person that says they love you could do such a thing. Well the police got involved and he went to jail and got two years on probation and our little girl was born during the time. Well i had so much animosity against him and to this day still do even after all the counseling. he had supervised visits. As much as it killed me to let him see her i still did, because i didn't have to heart to hold her from him. My problem is my daughter only spent 10-15days with him threw the 4yrs and still has him on her mind day in and out. I cant make him be a dad but i cant tell our daughter that. Ive tried to get her mind on different things and occupied her more. its not working.

2006-12-27 05:24:43 · 6 answers · asked by Smile Alway's 3

If you live with one of your parents & they have been separated from your other parent for over 10yrs, & you're legal. Does that parent ( the one you don't live with) have the right to tell you how to live your life?

2006-12-27 05:24:08 · 9 answers · asked by Lue 2

Hi,
I'm over 18 and my parents are too overprotective. Last night I was watching this movie and it was very good so I stayed up late to watch it till 3 am. My father came inside and began yellow and slapped me across the face. They told me to go to sleep but then I told them right now it's break and I want to finish this movie. They said that I disturb their sleep. I mean I close my bedroom door when I was watching the movie and he just open the door at 3 am in the morning just to give me lecture. I am not disturbing anyone when I watch the movie.
Not only that but also every time I go where anyone they always question. Where are you going and who are you going with ? I know they care for me but then I am not doing bad thing like drugs. And I don't go out that much anyway. Like once or twice in a week. When I say I go out I mean i go to stores that's all or hanging out with with my girlfriend. I'm just tired of how they treat me when I'm over 18 and not dong anything bad thing

2006-12-27 05:22:40 · 10 answers · asked by Lomus 2

Right well spent xmas with the family which was really great but there was just on thing that really annoyed me, your probably all goin to call me self-centered or whatever but the thing is there is so much favouritism between me & my older brother he received a load more presents than I did, more expensive ones too with money on top too. I know this sounds really pathetic but it just seems that he's worth more to my parents so they spend more on him.

2006-12-27 05:20:39 · 26 answers · asked by imcoolendof123 1

i think im a spoiled brat b/c my mommy and daddy get me everything i want when i want it. am i a spoiled brat?

2006-12-27 05:13:34 · 52 answers · asked by dancer_4_life123 1

My father-in-law lives in another state. He has pretty much no money and lives paycheck to paycheck. When he dies, I have a feeling that all his burial expenses will be left to us and we have no money! We are in our 20's and just starting out with two very young children. So what happens to him if no one has the money to bury him?

2006-12-27 05:12:02 · 7 answers · asked by redpeach_mi 7

i just wanted to know because i get the feeling... my mother doesnt honestly, and truly kno the first thing about it. she bought my step father a laptop that was extremly expensive, and he bout her a ipod with EVERYTHING 2 go with it. And she got mad because he didnt spend as much on her as she did to him.... now how wack is that bull???


then my sisters friend came over to give us gifts, she got every1 gifts except my step dad. and my step dad said that she isnt alound to come here anymore b-coz he got jealous.................



WHAT DO U THNK OF THE BULL????

2006-12-27 05:08:24 · 17 answers · asked by [::// mRS.CEllY CEll \\: 2

Tell me about your sibling rivalry. Do you have a sibling who is jealous of your success. Is there always tension in the air when you are around them?

2006-12-27 04:56:30 · 4 answers · asked by TB28 2

My mom is driving our family insane. She is pissed off because she is in a fight with her siblings and that they didn't call her for Christmas. She's taking her anger out on myself and my dad. She is extremely irritable, she is snappy, rude, and downright mean! She is saying how she hates Christmas, and how she hates the holidays, and how I ruined her life. (I've been up the past two nights, getting little sleep because I'm sick, and me being sick is worrying her and it's pissing her off, and she wants me to get better in a flash, but the anti-biotics take time to kick in. She doesn't get it. Apparently that has ruined her life *eye roll*)

My dad would ask her a question like, "How are you?" and she'll be all like, "OH I DON'T KNOW, JUST LEAVE ME ALONE GOD! I'M TIRED!"

How can we have a better holiday, and help her to not be so bitchy.
[ And it's not her PMS days either ]

Help!

2006-12-27 04:53:51 · 6 answers · asked by Circuits 4

He always wants to play strip-poker, truth-or-dare, ect... and it makes me feel uncomfortable....

2006-12-27 04:49:35 · 12 answers · asked by Pyro kitten 2

Its my elder sister, shes 4 years my senior, but we aernt particularly best of friends, we had a fight on the eve of christmas over a very trivial issue. And i told myself that i wouldnt speak to her ever again until she goes back to her school which is far from home. shes so touchy about respect, and misinterpretes almost all my actions, though we are now in good terms, i dont know for how long.Ive told my mum, but she just says i should try and understand my sister and she'll talk to her.Right now i'm so guarded when i talk to her, i dont want to have any more fights with her.I have a junior sister, and though i am her senior, we are very free with eachother and are best pals, pls i need advice, do i just let my senior sister be, and try and understand her like my mother says.......this days i'm not really excited when she calls to tell us she's comming home on break.

2006-12-27 04:41:54 · 8 answers · asked by funky girlie 1

: My brother and I are both in our late 20s. My bro has been with his g/f for over 3yrs and since they started dating, she has been included in most of our family activities. My mom has even changed dates of celebrations to include her- like last year having Xmas dinner on 12/26 and pushing off my fam's traditional Christmas Eve celebration so that she and my father could accept a last minute invite from her family (I wasn't invited). She gets mad at my bro for things that are out of his control- like she and I giving him similar Xmas gifts. My mom loves her and thinks she and I should be friends. She barely talks to me when we are together and has recently told my bro that she doesn't like my b/f so there is little chance of a double date. She is a nice girl but nobody I'd really be friends with. We have nothing in common. I think my only obligation is to be cordial but my mom thinks differently. What should I do?

2006-12-27 04:41:20 · 8 answers · asked by CAITLIN 5

When my only son was born, Me & my wife were not helped by either of our parents....No baby shower, offer to watch the baby and gives us a break. ( when both set of parents were fully capable of helping out...(just would have been a kind gesture...ya' know?))
Well my parents know that me and my wife are separated at the moment & Their GOOD Friend's daughter has just delivered her first born. My mom put a lot of effort into going to her baby shower...driving hour and a half away, when she didn't even try to get one going for her 1st grandchild ( and we lived in the same town.) Then my parents yesterday went to go see the newborn & brought back pictures and everything....The child was beautiful !!! but I couldn't get up for the baby ...seeing how much more my parents put more energy into their friend's grandchild. Knowing their friends didn't come to their grandchild when they lived less than 45 minutes away. Can anyone understand why the Hell I am so bitter?

2006-12-27 04:20:48 · 18 answers · asked by ? 3

My big sister is so self centered. She was late to my wedding (she was maid of honor) because she was too busy screwing her BF to help me put on my viel. She lies about stupid stuff for no reason. She cheats on her now husband with his boss and previously with his best friend. She is neglectful and mean to my niece. She is unsupportive when I told her about how I was sexually assaulted, and then changed the story to a something about her. When I come to visit she never has time for me. She "forgets" my parents birthdays, mothersdays, fathersdays.. she puts her friends before her family. She even says that having a baby ruined her life - right in front of her daughter. And now, she didn't even send a gift or card for my daughters first Christmas, after I have spent a fortune on her daughter for every holiday and birthday for 12 years, even when I have no money. I love her but she has ruined my family - my parents feel the same. Talking to her doesn't help - she just denies.

2006-12-27 04:20:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 13, my mom was on a trip for 2 months and my grandma took care of me and my bro. Well, I agree I did what I shouldn't, joined a bad crowd, did some dangerous stuff. When mom came back she grounded me. She got to know I also disrespected one of her rules, she makes me dress with modesty and I always have to wear a bra. I disobeyed, when she was out I didn't wer a bra cause I don't like. I was disrespectful to mo and she gave me an additional punishment. Till Feb 10 I have to wear a shapewer, that is, that piece of underwear tha covers all of your torso and clips at your crotch and has straps over the shoulders. They cover a lot of my brests and are made of very thick tissue, makes me sweat a lot. Kinda uncomfortable, but I have too keep it on all day long, except to bed. I hate that thinhg but mom is being strict. I'm not totally grounded, she allows me some fun, I can play tennis but wearing that thing. Shes not so mad and is treating me with love, but I realy gotta wear that thing

2006-12-27 04:19:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sons freind Jake never says thank you too me when ever I take him somewhere or if he sleeps over. He is always bragging about his $300 skateboards. When we went to wendys to eat,. i told jake to go wash his hands. Jake told me NO. I told him again to go wash his hands and he told me NO. I told him that we were not leaving wendys untill he washed his hands. Well we were late dropping jake over that night becuase the washing of the hands bit. Jakes mother yelled at me because I dropped him off late. I did not say a word to her or tell her why we were late. I bit the bullet. Since that happened in August Jake calls for my son to do things. We do not return calls , which included not going over for thier family christmas party, Yet Jakes still calls for my son to do things. I have not heard from Jakes mother since August and I feel its her resposibility to call me. What do I tell my son Randy to Jake on why Randy doesnt return his calls? Jakes mother needs appoligi

2006-12-27 04:18:35 · 14 answers · asked by DX 1

Im a single parent. I have a 1 and a 2 year old. It is extremely hard because they cant really do anything for themselves. I've been rasing them pratically by myself every since they were born. Lately I've become really stressed out. I mean sometimes I feel like giving up! As soon as I get off work I have to go & pick them up from daycare. As soon as we get home they are ready to eat. So then I prepare food.Then I let them play for a little while or watch cartoons. Then I take them a bath. My son is in the stage where he likes to whine alot..So that just adds to the fire..And then to top i off ..Sometimes he wakes up about 6 times during the night! ...I already dont have any patience as is! I love my kids to death..and I would do anything for them. But it has really been hard for me! Sometimes I just feel like screamin my head off! Or throwing myself down a flight of stairs! SERIOUSLY!!! I neep advice ASAP!

2006-12-27 04:12:07 · 5 answers · asked by Kayla22 1

my daughter was "mugged" by a local youth, she was not hurt, after the police retrieved her belongings and interviewed her we thought it for the best if it didnt go any further as the youth lives very near us and it would make things more uncomfortable than they are already - we told the police this and they agreed...now I find its going to court and she does have to be a witness

2006-12-27 04:09:59 · 28 answers · asked by ? 6

I'm 17 (male) , my little brother is 12 and starting puberty. We've always had a really close bond, always got along. Our mom isn't in the picture, she passed away a long time ago, we live with our dad. Well anyway, my brother has a lot of questions, and out school doesn't do any sex ed/puberty program, so he's clueless. He was pretty frank with me, and asked if he could see me naked so he could see what a developed guy would look like. I'm a good example, because we have a good bond, he could ask questions and I could answer, and I've got the big muscles, hairy chest, and all that. I'm comfotable with it, and I really don't mind if he sees me. I'm just glad he isn't looking at porn or something. Nobody wants to see their dad naked, obviously, and he is usually at work anyway, so he isn't exactly a good person to ask. Is letting him see me naked morally wrong? Again, he asked, I don't have a problem with it. I'd just take off my clothes and let him look. Nothing sexual. Is it okay?

2006-12-27 03:58:42 · 4 answers · asked by Nick S 1

Hello
My wife and i have 5 grandkids, 4 boys and one girl shes the youngest (grandpa hearth breaker)
this Christmas one of my grandson gave back her i-pod she forgot at their place.
she thought she lost it and bought a new one 400.00
shes only 11 yrs old and his 17
He replied you should check your stuff when you leave to make sure you have everything.
He keep it for 2 months. She used her saving to buy a new one.
I was boiling but said nothing.
i could have kick is *** so hard that would not be able to sit for weeks for weeks.
Should i mind my own business

2006-12-27 03:39:26 · 22 answers · asked by pcc122 4

My parents are divorced and have both remarried. They got divorced when I was 5 and I'm now 30. When I was young they seemed to get along fine and always made sure I spent time with both sides of the family on the holidays.

However now that I'm grown they stopped co-operating. They always seem to go out of their way to schedule events for the same days and times and then both pressure me to come to their event and not the others.

Thanksgiving my dad and step mom were mad because I was only at their house for 30 minutes and didn't eat because my mom called and said she was serving one hour earilier then previously stated. This christmas my mom & step-dad are made because I came late and didn't eat because my dad who normally does a christmas brunch decided he wanted to have christmas dinner instead.

What can i do to make thing smoother between my parents are not get caught in the middle of their silliness? Also how can I get them to stick to the agreed upon time?

2006-12-27 03:38:45 · 7 answers · asked by WriterChic 3

My husband and I are in our mid 20's. We have been together for 5 years and married for 2. We finished college, bought a house and have careers that we are very happy with.

I am 7 weeks pregnant with our first child, we planned this baby and we are so happy to be starting out family.

We announced my pregnancy at Christmas to my parents. My father seemed happy about our baby news, but my mother just said, "Oh, congratulations." and was not happy nor excited to find out we are expecting her first grandchild.

My mother is very controlling, she told me when I should marry (at 28), when I should have children (after 30) and so on. She was pissed I married when we wanted and she is pissed I got pregnant when we wanted.

How to deal with controlling mother who is unhappy I am pregnant? She is never happy with any of the great decisions I have made! Since I didn't follow the life schedule she set for me, she is going to be bitter about my baby.

Any advice?

2006-12-27 03:35:57 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous