My mom is driving our family insane. She is pissed off because she is in a fight with her siblings and that they didn't call her for Christmas. She's taking her anger out on myself and my dad. She is extremely irritable, she is snappy, rude, and downright mean! She is saying how she hates Christmas, and how she hates the holidays, and how I ruined her life. (I've been up the past two nights, getting little sleep because I'm sick, and me being sick is worrying her and it's pissing her off, and she wants me to get better in a flash, but the anti-biotics take time to kick in. She doesn't get it. Apparently that has ruined her life *eye roll*)
My dad would ask her a question like, "How are you?" and she'll be all like, "OH I DON'T KNOW, JUST LEAVE ME ALONE GOD! I'M TIRED!"
How can we have a better holiday, and help her to not be so bitchy.
[ And it's not her PMS days either ]
Help!
2006-12-27 04:53:51 · 6 answers · asked by Circuits 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some people have a very hard time dealing with things when they can't control them. Your best bet is to try your best to understand what it is your mother is going through such as her feeling rejected by her siblings and how much she so desired to hear from them. That's not to say she has an excuse for treating her family in such a way but it's good to know where your problems stem from. Try to stay out of her way and 'kill her with kindness' and if she doesn't calm down or change after the holidays, I would say that your mother's problem could be either a chemical imbalance such as menopause, some type of pre-dementia. Try to get her to talk to a counselor first but do your best to help her out around the house. Treat her to a massage, a nice restaurant, clean the car -whatever she likes. Tell her you love her and/or stay out of her way more by reading or visiting friends and family. I wish you, your family and your mom the rememdy soon!
2006-12-27 05:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and tell her you understand why she's so upset. Explain that you feel badly and ask her if there's anything you can do to help make her feel better. Then go on to explain that you and your dad are being upset by her behavior and want to know how to make things easier for her. By saying you "ruined" her life, isn't she just expressing extreme frustration? I'm sure she doesn't really mean that. Instead of your dad asking how she is, he could try offering help or to just sit down w/her and listen. She may just want you and your dad to acknowledge her hurt but not give any concrete suggestions.
2006-12-27 13:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, happy holidays huh?
she is feeling used and ignored, you wouldn't believe how much work it is for moms on christmas...but she needs to get over it..
She sounds like she extrememly angry and doesn't like the way she has been treated. YOu know it is not your fault, people always take crap out on the ones they love the most...know this probably doesn't help but hang in there. If shedoesn't show signs of improvement soon, and I suspect she will, encourage your dad to take her tohe docs, she may need help...good luck.
2006-12-27 13:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just help around the house and don't make her worry about you
2006-12-27 12:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she might be depressed, she should seek medical help.
2006-12-27 12:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sandra W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your dad to pick her up, carry her into the bedroom, and give her something more pleasant to think about.
2006-12-27 13:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋